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[MrsSoprano]

I wish I could start a thread but still new so cant, My brother split with his fiancé they have been together for 15years and have kids, My sister in law is like a sister to me we are so close, it was her that left my brother (I understand why as he wasn’t the best at putting her first) and now with someone new within a matter of weeks, she is distancing herself from me and I feel really hurt (I know I sound weird and selfish) it’s like I’m grieving but can’t explain

 

[Makaraka]

Me too! I got them in Aldi of all places. They sometimes have them on offer in the middle aisle x

Aldi is the place to be! I work there so I’m always bigging it up!

not long been home from the out of hours docs
Eldest may have a bladder problem which hasn’t been detected since birth!!
Feel like the worst mum ever right now

 

[watermelon sugar]

Aldi is the place to be! I work there so I’m always bigging it up!

not long been home from the out of hours docs
Eldest may have a bladder problem which hasn’t been detected since birth!!
Feel like the worst mum ever right now

Don't be so hard on yourself honey x

 

[Rosie878]

I wish I could start a thread but still new so cant, My brother split with his fiancé they have been together for 15years and have kids, My sister in law is like a sister to me we are so close, it was her that left my brother (I understand why as he wasn’t the best at putting her first) and now with someone new within a matter of weeks, she is distancing herself from me and I feel really hurt (I know I sound weird and selfish) it’s like I’m grieving but can’t explain

That sounds really tough. It’s absolutely understandable that you are grieving - don’t give yourself a hard time for it.
I’m sure her avoiding you isn’t personal but connected to her feelings regarding the break-up. She probably needs some distance but I’m sure it won’t be forever - if you’re the auntie to her kids then you will always be in each other’s lives.

Yay a chat thread! I discovered Tattle this year ands its been a great distraction for me. My mum's lifestyle caught up with her and shes been seriously ill(she is much better but still having to have carers daily) she got herself into a mess with finances(some in my name) which I used all my savings to clear. Shes opened up about her mental health and also dropped that my grandad and his friends would sexually abuse her. All of this and my dad suffering with depression, we cant even tell him about the finances or my mums abuse yet as hes not in the right frame of mind to deal with it. At one point i thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown.
I have had major anxiety all my life(its never been treated) due to my mum and the last 15 years or so I expected a phone call in the night expecting she had passed away.
The new year will hopefully be me getting help, I tried once and my gp brushed me off and my sister(who suffers depression herself) brushed me off too. It's hard being the "calm, organised" one, I cant tell you how many times ive cried in the shower just to let it out. I might look strong but I'm a good actress when it comes to my feelings.

Sorry this has turned into a massive vent but I feel like i needed it tonight.

So sorry for all you are going through. I really hope 2021 is the year you can put yourself first.

I have a friend who has spent years being the carer of her family through various ailments and dramas and has sacrificed lots of things she wanted to achieve for herself. It breaks my heart.

He's 9 months now, I was the same. I was so excited to do lots of things with him. He was born 4 weeks before lockdown so we seen our close family but most of his life has been in lockdown. I haven't seen a HV or midwife the entire time hes been here, he hasn't been weighed since he was 7 weeks old. I get on the scales with him but think its dodgy ha my family live in another town and im stuck with my boyfriends family round us, I only get to see my Mum once in a blue moon. My son doesn't recognise any of my family every time he sees them. Its so tit and depressing

Not to mention my boyfriends getting on my nerves atm too!!

Is he your first baby? That’s so tough. I have a 5 year old as well as a 5 week old so I knew what to expect but it’s still tough not being able to plan things and it did feel like there was less support during pregnancy. The school run is quite handy for giving my day some structure though I don’t appreciate the early starts on no sleep I’ve booked a baby class starting in Jan so hopefully that will go ahead

 

[watermelon sugar]

Is he your first baby? That’s so tough. I have a 5 year old as well as a 5 week old so I knew what to expect but it’s still tough not being able to plan things and it did feel like there was less support during pregnancy. The school run is quite handy for giving my day some structure though I don’t appreciate the early starts on no sleep I’ve booked a baby class starting in Jan so hopefully that will go ahead

Yeah he is! I've booked a baby class for January too! God I hope it goes ahead. He's so shy. He is a little cling on with me I try and go for a walk with him everyday but it'll be nice to do something different with him and get him socialising with other babies

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Living on my own it really is quite a bonus to have someone enter my home and fill a silent void.

My g/f has just arrived, and I have to say I am so happy to have someone to talk to face2face in my own home. Even digging out an extra mug for tea, or a plate for a slice of cake makes a difference between a house with just me in it and someone else

 

[Pinkblush]

I wish I could start a thread but still new so cant, My brother split with his fiancé they have been together for 15years and have kids, My sister in law is like a sister to me we are so close, it was her that left my brother (I understand why as he wasn’t the best at putting her first) and now with someone new within a matter of weeks, she is distancing herself from me and I feel really hurt (I know I sound weird and selfish) it’s like I’m grieving but can’t explain

Its a perfectly natural reaction because you are grieving. It is a loss. I felt exactly the same when my sister split with her husband. It felt like a death almost. We didn't even know there were problems so it came as a shock. He'd been part if our family since he was 22. I felt like I'd been dumped.The only saving grace is that it was all amicable and he didn't distance. They have kids so he still gets invited to family do's. Have you contacted her or maybe suggest meeting up, if your tier allows?

 

[MrsSoprano]

Its a perfectly natural reaction because you are grieving. It is a loss. I felt exactly the same when my sister split with her husband. It felt like a death almost. We didn't even know there were problems so it came as a shock. He'd been part if our family since he was 22. I felt like I'd been dumped.The only saving grace is that it was all amicable and he didn't distance. They have kids so he still gets invited to family do's. Have you contacted her or maybe suggest meeting up, if your tier allows?

Thanks for reply, it was a shock as well which made it worse, we’ve spoke since and I feel better she knows how I feel and she also feels the same, Now I just worry about my brother hoping he will be ok, I really wish I didn’t have overwhelming empathy xx

 

[Mulholland Drive]

After much deliberation have finally decided to fly out to South Africa this month after all.

Contacted the SA Embassy earlier today, and I will be allowed to enter Johannesburg on the proviso of a PCR certificate. So have booked a PCR test and also a flight out.

I was hoping to spend Christmas and New Year here in the UK, but try as I might I really can't, and need a fresh start elsewhere. I just want to be back home with my family rather than cooped up here in the middle of winter.

If all goes well over there, I will be putting my home up for sale, give up my job and move to J'Burg permanently in the Spring.

Got to be optimistic I guess

 

[DCICassieStuart]

After much deliberation have finally decided to fly out to South Africa this month after all.

Contacted the SA Embassy earlier today, and I will be allowed to enter Johannesburg on the proviso of a PCR certificate. So have booked a PCR test and also a flight out.

I was hoping to spend Christmas and New Year here in the UK, but try as I might I really can't, and need a fresh start elsewhere. I just want to be back home with my family rather than cooped up here in the middle of winter.

If all goes well over there, I will be putting my home up for sale, give up my job and move to J'Burg permanently in the Spring.

Got to be optimistic I guess

Hope you have a lovely time @Bezolabub

 

[watermelon sugar]

After much deliberation have finally decided to fly out to South Africa this month after all.

Contacted the SA Embassy earlier today, and I will be allowed to enter Johannesburg on the proviso of a PCR certificate. So have booked a PCR test and also a flight out.

I was hoping to spend Christmas and New Year here in the UK, but try as I might I really can't, and need a fresh start elsewhere. I just want to be back home with my family rather than cooped up here in the middle of winter.

If all goes well over there, I will be putting my home up for sale, give up my job and move to J'Burg permanently in the Spring.

Got to be optimistic I guess

Hope things are okay? Noticed you've been quiet today! I also know you've been wanting to go to SA, sending all my love

 

[Tilly3]

Hey just realised this thread has got to 5 pages and I never knew!! I’ve missed so much chat, I think I live under a mushroom looking forward to chatting tomorrow, off to bed before I get to the bottom of a bottle of vino rouge

 

[watermelon sugar]

Hey just realised this thread has got to 5 pages and I never knew!! I’ve missed so much chat, I think I live under a mushroom looking forward to chatting tomorrow, off to bed before I get to the bottom of a bottle of vino rouge

I love just chatting

 

[Mulholland Drive]

Hope you have a lovely time @Bezolabub

Hope things are okay? Noticed you've been quiet today! I also know you've been wanting to go to SA, sending all my love

Thanks.

I have my PCR test on the 16th, and if all goes well, fly out from Heathrow on the 18th, and returning to the UK in the middle of March when Spring is just round the corner, along with lighter & warmer days

 

[watermelon sugar]

Sounds good, wish I could go somewhere nice & sunny for Christmas. I do like the Winter though and how Christmassy it can be over here but with everything that has gone on this year a holiday somewhere hot with no worries would be nice!

Ive never been abroad so a holiday anywhere anytime would be good

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I know this sounds odd, but I spent the morning crying at the thought I've leaving the UK.

I'll be spending 3 or 4 months away from the UK as of next Friday, but OMG it feels like I'll be away for a lifetime.

I spent last night with my g/f getting drunk and getting high, and generally having fun while I still can. And she'll be here for the rest of the week. And I shall miss her when I fly out on Friday (PCR test permitting)

I love the UK and the people in it, and I shall miss it come the day when I leave here for good.

I'm an alcoholic, suffer from SAD and smoke weed. And I cry a lot. I think I need to a fresh start,, but it's equally upsetting to having to leave things behind.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm just rambling as usual

 

[Pinkblush]

I know this sounds odd, but I spent the morning crying at the thought I've leaving the UK.

I'll be spending 3 or 4 months away from the UK as of next Friday, but OMG it feels like I'll be away for a lifetime.

I spent last night with my g/f getting drunk and getting high, and generally having fun while I still can. And she'll be here for the rest of the week. And I shall miss her when I fly out on Friday (PCR test permitting)

I love the UK and the people in it, and I shall miss it come the day when I leave here for good.

I'm an alcoholic, suffer from SAD and smoke weed. And I cry a lot. I think I need to a fresh start,, but it's equally upsetting to having to leave things behind.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm just rambling as usual

Just remember, we're not going anywhere. We'll always be here. Just call us your second home.

 

[Tilly3]

I know this sounds odd, but I spent the morning crying at the thought I've leaving the UK.

I'll be spending 3 or 4 months away from the UK as of next Friday, but OMG it feels like I'll be away for a lifetime.

I spent last night with my g/f getting drunk and getting high, and generally having fun while I still can. And she'll be here for the rest of the week. And I shall miss her when I fly out on Friday (PCR test permitting)

I love the UK and the people in it, and I shall miss it come the day when I leave here for good.

I'm an alcoholic, suffer from SAD and smoke weed. And I cry a lot. I think I need to a fresh start,, but it's equally upsetting to having to leave things behind.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm just rambling as usual

3/4 months will fly by, before you know it you’ll be back, and you always have us lot to chat to if you’re feeling low x

 

[petitspois]

I know this sounds odd, but I spent the morning crying at the thought I've leaving the UK.

I'll be spending 3 or 4 months away from the UK as of next Friday, but OMG it feels like I'll be away for a lifetime.

I spent last night with my g/f getting drunk and getting high, and generally having fun while I still can. And she'll be here for the rest of the week. And I shall miss her when I fly out on Friday (PCR test permitting)

I love the UK and the people in it, and I shall miss it come the day when I leave here for good.

I'm an alcoholic, suffer from SAD and smoke weed. And I cry a lot. I think I need to a fresh start,, but it's equally upsetting to having to leave things behind.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm just rambling as usual

You can keep Tattling? can your gf visit?

 

[watermelon sugar]

I know this sounds odd, but I spent the morning crying at the thought I've leaving the UK.

I'll be spending 3 or 4 months away from the UK as of next Friday, but OMG it feels like I'll be away for a lifetime.

I spent last night with my g/f getting drunk and getting high, and generally having fun while I still can. And she'll be here for the rest of the week. And I shall miss her when I fly out on Friday (PCR test permitting)

I love the UK and the people in it, and I shall miss it come the day when I leave here for good.

I'm an alcoholic, suffer from SAD and smoke weed. And I cry a lot. I think I need to a fresh start,, but it's equally upsetting to having to leave things behind.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm just rambling as usual

It all probably seems very daunting right now because you have your girlfriend over here and practically your whole life too. You very well may love it soon as you go over

Remember us Tattlers are always here for a chat and are here for you. Like someone else said, your second home!