Brian Dowling

[Tina59513]

His podcast is seriously depressing... not being smart but what kind of people want to tune in to a session on grief and misery

If it wasn’t for his podcasts I don’t know where my head would be , my mum died in January and I started listening to them last year when she took sick , they prepared me for so much listening to peoples stories , the tragedies some people have went through and have come out the other side gave me hope .

 

[ahtisyourself]

I just feel for Aoife when the reality kicks in, because whatever way you feel about this whole thing, it’s going to be hard. Imagine when she’s discharged into her sister’s care, milk coming in, boobs about to explode, body in bits, knackered, hormones dropping, in pain, hair falling out, and you’ve been completely removed from the support network that you’ve had for the last 9 months. It’s going to be tough for her mentally and physically no matter what you think.

 

[Nosycrow]

Just out of interest, on what basis do ye think they’d be fabulous parents? They’re both massively self-absorbed from what I can tell and yes, no boundaries when it comes to sharing on socials. Having fun with nieces and nephews is a world apart from parenting, the opposite of it really!

 

[Skinner]

Brian confirmed they are doing a show about their journey I really hope Aoife has rhe support she needs after she gives birth

I called it when they announced the pregnancy.
They have to to make everything into a money spinner. Not a hope on hell will the keep that kid off the gram.

 

[ahtisyourself]

She is brave I have 3kids myself and loved been pregnant etc and no matter how hard it can be i
Could never imagine handing them over be extra hard if I had to see the baby I carried for 9months everyday

Yeah I get you. He said on the podcast with Zoe that Aoife won’t hold the baby when it arrives, that it will go straight to Brian and Arthur and Aoife will go into a separate room to recover after. I think she will spend a few weeks at her sisters then and not be around the baby for about a month. I hope she will be ok.

 

[12055584]

I hate hearing people assume what aoife will feel after she gives birth. Has anyone here been a surrogate?

I think it's akin to saying how people would feel after an abortion, that it's the hardest decision in a woman's life. My bollocks, I've had an abortion, would have a million more if I had to and haven't regretted it or felt like it was a life changing event ever.

Everyone is not the same! I'm sure she will be absolutely fine and feel like the most amazing person in the world having given her bro and bro in law the most amazing gift anyone could wish for! She's not a child, she's a grown woman and has made this decision and is more than capable.

Not the point though
We all agree she is her own person, but most commenters can relate that no matter what you think you will feel before the child is born, it can not be understood until you give birth, because it’s basically out of your control. It’s hormones, not a stable state of mind. Down the line she will feel like a superhero and so she should. No one is trying to shame her Or guarantee how she will feel but most people will agree that what you think you will experience is far from the reality. It’s from a place of sympathy and love, not nastiness .I’ve commented and I truly hope I’m wrong but it’s hard to see how they’ve all got this plan nailed and fool proof and do you know what, I’ll be the one to fucking say it… two blokes can’t even begin to understand the physical and mental toll of child carrying and birth so sorry to anyone that thinks it’s unfair but they are frankly in a dream world. Again… I hope I am wrong but it’s a ticking time bomb

 

[not_influenced]

I find the whole situation with his sister being a surrogate majority fucked up. In one sense I admire her- what a lovely thing tondo etc etc etc then in the other breath I'm thinking have a baby(harmonal/after growing and feeling a life inside you/birth and after birth experience) then hand it to someone who you're going to see every day and raise it. I know lots of women are surrogates and how it works etc but it's a little too close to home for me!

 

[not_influenced]

This thread is just as bad a Pippa's. No one can disagree or have an opinion or your homophobic now! He speaks of a child like it's an accessory! Same as all influencers child now becomes a cash cow.

 

[Gizmo123!]

Have to get this off my chest…nothing personal but I’m actually getting shit sick of seeing Aoife go everywhere with them. Surely she would rather a bit of peace and quiet? Definitely feel she is being shoved in our faces a bit too much…getting very bored of them now.

 

[I got up at 5am]

Ireland AM needs to be taken off the air. It’s a load of shite. All the presenters are knobs except Tommy but he’s only entertaining because he is a bit dumb

 

[Doneuplikeadogsdinner]

I really strongly think you should not be a surrogate before having children of your own .
it’s the most risky time in a women’s mental health both in pregnancy and post birth .
Hormonal hell … I’m not sure having never experienced a biological child and growing one that the difference would be so massive that you can just step away .

 

[Mammy2021]

I can't get my head around how they treat Aoife. Is it for a laugh? Not funny if so. The videoing, Orthur joking about how he won't cope without her when she's gone...GONE like!! I'm just seeing the lines getting so blurred here. I hope the birth goes really well for Aoife. I just think it's going to be very hard on her afterwards and a lot of that will be outside her control. Look I know it's all been said here before but I suppose it's hit me in the last few days watching their stories. Maybe it's their way of coping? I also heard them say on a podcast that they want more children. Will they be calling on Aoife again?

Jesus I hope not. I hope she moves on and finds love and is able to have her own life. I’d be telling those 2 clowns to piss off!

 

[Dexxie124]

Anybody would be tired putting up with them pair. Between arfur prancing around doing his tiktoks and the other lad preening himself don't know how she puts up with them.

Brian’s over exaggerated fake accent wrecks my head

 

[Skinner]

They should take a leaf out of Mark Feehily and his husband's book.

 

[HumphreyB]

Lovely thing for his sister to do.

Brian and Arthur are definitely ALOT. But they both seem very family focused. None of us had a clue before our babies were born and we figured it out because being a parent isn’t actually that difficult to figure out

 

[ahtisyourself]

I’d say he’s hard work to be around, very moody. He seems to depend on drink a lot to give him a personality

 

[MiamooMoo]

I think he was more giving a timeline, like we’ll have a baby for Christmas time, Halloween time. That was my take

 

[ahtisyourself]

I’d say Brian would treat you like absolute shite if you weren’t somebody who could compliment his image. I found it weird on the late late show how when referencing his break up with Arthur a few years ago he said something like, “I was very arrogant”.. maybe covering up for stories or rumours floating about that aren’t complimentary about him? He is one of those people who I want to like more than I actually do like, because nostalgia. If I’d have never known Brian and had no reference for big brother then I would think he was a fucking dose when I see him now, so I think it’s nostalgia that makes me fond of him even if he iterates me because I loved him in big brother and still think deep down he is that same lad but maybe he isn’t? He seems very affected and up his own arse lately, but he still has an endearing side that draws you back.

 

[DeirdreIreland]

He is so irritating and arrogant. A baby for Halloween, a baby for Christmas. Like it's a bloody accessory to dress up and use as content. And you have no idea what's coming Brian just because you have nephews/nieces.

 

[gisellejoly]

It’s not Aoife’s egg but just wondering how surrogacy works in Ireland. Wont she have to be the child’s mother on the birth cert as she’s giving birth to the child? I know it’s not hers biologically.

Surrogacy doesn’t actually “work” in Ireland in that there’s no regulation of it at all. So by Irish law the mother has to go on the birth certificate, not the egg donor. A birth certificate is supposed to be an accurate record of birth so it makes sense that the birth mother has to be listed on it
Aoife will be listed as the baby’s mother on the birth certificate. I assume Arthur will be listed as the father. Brian will be able to apply for guardianship/adoption of the child when it reaches the age of 2.
I know some people might think this is harsh and that two men should be allowed to be on the birth cert, but Ireland has a long horrible history of messing with people’s birth certs and leaving birth mothers off them leaving people with no idea of where they came from (like peopel born in mother and baby homes or who were adopted) so it’s important that the birth mother is on the cert.