Please can someone offer any words of wisdom or comfort or advice - I'm sorry this might be long and garbled but I'm a mess.
Me and my boyfriend planned for a baby, and I fell pregnant on the first month we tried. I was delighted as was he, and for the first couple of months he was happy but became increasingly distant to the point now where I havent; seen him since January, he barely talks to me but when he does get in touch its loads of excuses, his phone was broken, his dog was sick, he was helping his friend move etc. Everytime I lap up the excuses wanting it to be true but then he does it again.
He has always been a bit unreliable. For example, the first time he was meant to meet my mum was for my older son's birthday meal and he was uncontactable all day, it got to the point where we were midway through the meal when he finally contacted me after so many missed calls and messages and it was another excuse about how hed been locked out and issues around that,
Anyway for the past few weeks he keeps promising to come "tomorrow" and sorry to sound like ronan keating or whoever it is but tomorrow never comes. The past three days in a row he was "coming" and I've been ghosted, ignored. i KNOW I am an idiot. I really believed he would come and i spent this mornign cooking his favourite meal in preparation, tidying the house, makign myself look good and he hasnt said a word let alone came.
He also owes me money. Since we met I have leant him maybe 2k in dribs and drabs which he eventually pays back but never when he says. He doestn work, he is sofa surfing but I thought he would change all this because deep down I thought he wanted to be a family . I am now 17 weeks pregnant and ALONE and unsure I can do this by myself.
I realise I am an utter fool but please be kind, what do i do
Me and my boyfriend planned for a baby, and I fell pregnant on the first month we tried. I was delighted as was he, and for the first couple of months he was happy but became increasingly distant to the point now where I havent; seen him since January, he barely talks to me but when he does get in touch its loads of excuses, his phone was broken, his dog was sick, he was helping his friend move etc. Everytime I lap up the excuses wanting it to be true but then he does it again.
He has always been a bit unreliable. For example, the first time he was meant to meet my mum was for my older son's birthday meal and he was uncontactable all day, it got to the point where we were midway through the meal when he finally contacted me after so many missed calls and messages and it was another excuse about how hed been locked out and issues around that,
Anyway for the past few weeks he keeps promising to come "tomorrow" and sorry to sound like ronan keating or whoever it is but tomorrow never comes. The past three days in a row he was "coming" and I've been ghosted, ignored. i KNOW I am an idiot. I really believed he would come and i spent this mornign cooking his favourite meal in preparation, tidying the house, makign myself look good and he hasnt said a word let alone came.
He also owes me money. Since we met I have leant him maybe 2k in dribs and drabs which he eventually pays back but never when he says. He doestn work, he is sofa surfing but I thought he would change all this because deep down I thought he wanted to be a family . I am now 17 weeks pregnant and ALONE and unsure I can do this by myself.
I realise I am an utter fool but please be kind, what do i do
