Borderline Personality Disorder & Clinical Depression.

[Libbylulu]

Firstly you can’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm. You need to protect yourself if you’re recovering from a recent breakdown .

She needs to really learn DBT skills and self regulation which will calm down the behaviour.There’s a few books on Amazon. I’d recommend the one by Dr McKay.

Look up the Sasha bear foundation on YouTube. You can recover but it’s a long process and requires specialist therapists. BPD is a serious mental illness and I say that as someone who also had it.

Thank you for replying I’ve never heard the phrase ‘you can’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm’ but will definitely remember it!

Because she’s self diagnosed herself as ASD and nobody has raised BPD with her I don’t know how to raise it. because she’ll get so angry and spiral unfortunately. We are afraid to speak to her about anything concerning. It’s like walking on eggshells. Without her willing to see a doctor I need to support her. She hits herself too. Thanks, will look up those resources.

 

[rainbowlemon]

I think I got that quote from a Youtube video. With any mental illness you can try to support her, but it’s also important to protect your own emotional well-being. You’re not failing her by having limits.

You mentioned she’s self-diagnosed as ASD, how old is she? If she’s under 18, there might be additional options through CAMHS or her school’s pastoral team. If she’s older, services like YoungMinds which supports up to age 25 can be really helpful.

I feel like I did outgrow the BPD with age and learning self regulation the most.

I would watch this one first by Dr Aguirre. He's one of the best therapists I've listened to. Along with Dr Otto Kernberg .



There's also a few other forum support groups.

Take it one step at a time.