You've written this better than I ever could. I don't know do some people who are replying know how hard it is as a sole applicant finally getting on the property ladder. And I don't mean that as a difficulty sore. The absolute hardship of all the saving and years of depriving myself of nice things. I could cry.I have a similar living situation, where I owned my house before I met my other half, and now we live together he pays me ‘rent’ that covers half of the bills and mortgage, what he pays to me doesn’t even touch what he would pay if he rented, so he’s getting a pretty good deal out of it! so I don’t find this strange, and actually think it’s strange that someone above suggested that he should be put on the mortgage - that’s your house babe, and without knowing his history why the hell should he be entitled to any of it, especially if he can’t talk about finances with you!
I do agree that maybe he has some debt he is ashamed of, or something, but as an adult he should be able to sit down and talk about it, and not go in a huff like a child? Money’s difficult to talk about sometimes, but it shouldn’t be if you’re in a committed relationship?
my question would be, why do you want to know this info? Are you just being nosey, especially knowing he doesn’t like talking about it? Or are you thinking about the future?
I think the only option is talking about it, at least to find out if you are on the same page about the future?
Any way. My concerns are definately down to me looking into the future for both of us. We've talked about getting engaged but it doesn't seem to be on a priority list for him. He has withdrawn money. 4 figures. *he told me this willingly* before anyone @s me. And he's blowing it - actively. Asked me the other day do I want a tip for Cheltenham. Isn't Cheltenham at Easter?