Being Ghosted

[Facehugger]

My nan is terrible for it, I mentioned an aunt in the Toxic Relatives thread who since my mum died 11 years ago has taken it upon herself to act as a gatekeeper to my mums side of the family, it is almost like every conversation that she doesnt hear, she has to be filled in about, or she throws a strop, she went as far as walk past me and my siblings on my MUMS funeral, handing out flowers to everybody to throw on her coffin but us declaring "these are for family only". As I had an argument with her prior to my mum passing. However this aunt of mine seems to be able to sway my entire maternal family into sending me to Coventry. Including my own grandparents. My nan has straight up ignored me. My uncle (my mums brother) will block me from everything and my cousins wont speak to me. It really is odd, but it only happens when my aunt takes umbrage with me. She is very toxic and evil. Quite frankly she is known for being a bit of a twisted cunt.

Bless you, I'm sorry you have to go through that. Families are so strange at times & the old saying is so true, at least you can pick your friends. This is why I was interested to know if it happens not just in relationships. Take care & stay strong, you're worth more than her nonsense it sounds like x

 

[Caramel Latte]

When i was a teenager, I ghosted a guy then after few months he reached out then in a couple of weeks ghosted me back. Fair enough

 

[JoeBloggs]

I had this happen when I was about 17, then he started dating my friend and they were together for quite a long time and then he did it to her too.

I’ve also had it done by someone who I thought was my friend. We still have each other on SM but haven’t spoken in years.

 

[Facehugger]

This has happened to me and my friends a lot - was just wondering if anyone else had any stories? Love hearing peoples stories!

For those who dont know - Being ghosted is when you are talking to/seeing someone then all of a sudden they just either stop replying to you, igore you, or just delete you off everything - for NO reason!

Wikipedia says being ghosted is having contact stopped suddenly by a 'partner, friend or similar individual'. So, not just something that is exclusive to someone you are seeing. In my day, it used to be called 'being sent to Coventry' for some reason!

So, has anybody any stories of friends or family members doing this (not just the flaky blokes who haven't got enough respect to finish a relationship properly)?

 

[vodkandcokeplz]

This is my life right now. Started talking to a guy online. For a solid week he’s saying how I’m perfect blah blah. Wants to meet up soon etc. Then started to drop off over the weekend.

Then he comes back blowing hot and cold all week. Other day he didn’t speak for 2 days then sends me a ‘hello’ this morning... he still hasn’t replied to it so why even say hello? feel free to give me advice I’m so confused.. is he just keeping up appearances

 

[realhousewivewannabe]

First off YOU did absolutely nothing wrong and don't ever think any differently. The fault lies with him. When a man shows you who he is.... believe him. You've had a lucky escape and I hope that you grow from the experience and learn your worth. No man who makes you question your own self worth is worth a second of your time, the right guy will shower you with attention and love. Block that bastard, hold your head high and I wish you nothing but health and happiness.

I just want to say thank you

 

[ChloChlo]

Families are weird. Especially when there are fall outs, you are made to almost pick a side and I think that is why it can happen. Certainly as is the case in mine anyway!

My sister and brother both happen to be gay and stopped talking to them long ago when certain members of my mums family were so cruel over it. Theyve been unhappy I've let them back in time after time. But my grandparents are getting really old now see and I'd hate for one of them to pass not speaking to me, just because there is a sociopath in the family!

 

[blossombloss]

Exactly! Ive found it has been from people from online dating too - I was seeing a guy for 3 months he was head over heels (waaay more than I was) then one day he just stopped replying! I chased him a bit like a mug because I wanted an answer but nothing! Then he started liking all my facebook pics about 3 months later then sent me a big apology - I forgave him and a couple weeks later he did it again

I know this is old but your scenario sounds like the plot from Dolly Alderton's new book Ghosts!
I'm sorry this happened though, being ghosted is the absolute worst.

 

[vodkandcokeplz]

That's the MO of men like that, break you down and push the boundaries to see how much they will get away with. Guaranteed of you ignore him he will have a bruised ego and be texting galore. Don't fall for it, he has shown you his true self, you deserve so much better.

I know, thank you!