I think that woman is jealous of you.Just existeveryone in my job is so nasty and vile, everyone acts as if they are above you and couldn’t ever possibly talk to you with a bit of respect. I am in a small team with literally just my bitch of a boss, she’s left me out of any Christmas celebrations not to mention she’s horrid to me on a daily basis 🥲
said I had no life and there’s no possible way I have any sort of responsibility because I go to the gym, called me a giraffe and said I stand out like i sore thumb next to her last weeklooks me up and down when I get in every morning and never speaks a word
there is also an old man at work who constantly harasses me and tells me if he was 20 years younger I’d be in trouble. Every day he comes up behind me and says something weird, always comparing me to his 12 year old daughter as she is also blonde with blue eyes and apparently has ‘gorgeous long legs like me’. Makes me ill
Keep copies of everything, including the fb messages, etc.@jawidjanqndn everything you've said here about your workplace is such a red flag! I don't know how you're managing to cope with them, the manager and the pervy old man sound absolutely awful and I can't believe people are contacting you to say they've been talking about you. Definitely add copies of those messages to your diary for when you leave if you still have them. How is the job hunt going?
He is. Big time.He sounds like a Grade A misogynist. Bet he doesn't do this to other men. Count down the days, TheGlossy!
Indeed. I definitely learned to stand up for myself and speak. I was such a reserved non-confrontational person before this episode but I’ve learned to that’s why I got treated like a doormat. Lesson learned for sure!Onwards and upwards to better things.
Glad to hear your new manager is taking no nonsense as regards release dates.
Your current manager will get in someone else, probably promise them the sun, moon and stars and then overload them with work like they did to you.
As an aside, I genuinely believe that from every crap situation I encountered in work, I learned something, unpleasant as the situation or the individual was, at the time.
Not easy lessons, but in the long run, valuable ones.
'And I feel that you should mind your own business you little prick'... the nerve of him!There’s a £600 bonus happening at work this month. As agency, I won’t be receiving it - despite being temp to perm and will be going permanent next month. I’m not classed as ‘staff’, even though I was involved in the email chain. It’s shit, but whatever, I’ll get over it.
I start work at 9am. I usually turn up for 8.55am to make sure I’m ready by 9am. One of my coworkers turned round today and said ‘I feel like you always make it here just in time. You should be here 15 mins early like me, to prove you’re a good staff member’
To which I replied ‘well I’m not classed as an employee when it comes to getting a bonus, so why would I care about being seen as a good one? I start at 9am, I’ll arrive just before 9am.’
He’s not even a manager and has only been there for three weeks more than I have
Please seek legal advice. Nobody should have to put up with any of that!Yeah completely agree with you, I also hate doing the whole women are bitches thing but it’s so true in this case. She’s never managed before and is very immature and jealous in my opinion. I hate to sound rude but we are visibly very different, I don’t know if she is threatened or what but I have always put the most into my work and do everything I can to help her, I am a nice personI never get a thank you or even an acknowledgment. The gym comment honestly made me so angry I had to leave the office to cool down because I was gonna lose it I go 4/5x a week which I’m sure is probably extreme to some people but i started for my own personal reasons and to help me get over shit, and it’s absolutely done that for me. It’s something I’m passionate about and keeps me sane so for her to take the piss on a regular basis and say I have no life ect really upset me. I feel like I can’t say anything because everyone seems to love her, they go off to the canteen ect and I’m usually eating at my desk because I don’t want to socialise with people like that. I’ve tried it and got ignored and stared at the whole hour
I don’t know what it is about me which she hates so much, I feel like because I’m blonde wear makeup ect maybe I look typically ‘dumb’ she’s probably had this opinion formed of me before she even got chance to get to know me, I’m not an idiot and am very capable of doing my job. The Christmas stuff is getting on my nerves now aswell as they are all talking about how much fun it will be and how last years was so wild… bore offhow crazy Chloe got on the dance floor I really don’t give a flying fuck
the old man is disgusting. He recently added me on Facebook and I have ignored it, it has now been followed by messages asking if I’ve watched certain tv shows ect? So I have shut my settings down on Facebook, I did also see that his daughter was brunette and not blonde which was weird. He asked me to go for breakfast with him this morning as he needs a ‘partner’, I declined and pretended I was on a call 🫣 this isn’t the only occasion things like this has happened, on business conferences my name has been brought up and I have received Facebook messages telling me these male colleagues were on about me (men in their 30’s) it is just bizarre. There is no way this is a normal working environment and has simply drained all the energy out of me tbh, i am so desperate to leave.
I agree, 100%! I love all of the people I work with, with the exception of one, who is exactly as you've described. She's just a miserable person who doesn't even try to fit in (we've tried so hard in that regard). We're all heading back to the office again next week, after working remotely for this past week (our MD was worried about a new wave of Covid coming and wanted to keep everyone safe), and I'm dreading what surprises she has in store.I feel like where people wfh for a while and now back in the office more there’s certain people who totally thrive on the power trips back stabbing bitching just all the horrible stuff that their sad little lives have been missing when wfh . My entire team is ruined by one vile middle aged woman who’s got to have a target to be nasty to every week , she uses teams to manipulate and bitch on she’s just so vile and yet no one will ever call her out for it . Most of her targets are newer team members who are all lovely looking and I’ve told them there’s definitely an element of jealousy with her and also because they’re new and more positive about the job than her she can’t stand that .
I dont have to work in the office every day so i plan my week around when our misery is going to be in to avoid her!!!I feel like where people wfh for a while and now back in the office more there’s certain people who totally thrive on the power trips back stabbing bitching just all the horrible stuff that their sad little lives have been missing when wfh . My entire team is ruined by one vile middle aged woman who’s got to have a target to be nasty to every week , she uses teams to manipulate and bitch on she’s just so vile and yet no one will ever call her out for it . Most of her targets are newer team members who are all lovely looking and I’ve told them there’s definitely an element of jealousy with her and also because they’re new and more positive about the job than her she can’t stand that .
I cant stand nosey people, in general. I would be pausing and looking at her for a moment before giving a vague answer. Or burying my head in something and giving uh-huh responses until she was sick of meFucking nosey cow that I'm paired with. If someone comes in to tell me something, as soon as they've left she's straight over to find out what they've said or sometimes she'll even just interrupt our conversation with 'what's this about? Or 'what's this you're talking about'. Sometimes someone might be just asking if I've got enough stock or whatever and she'll say 'what did she want you for? And I'll say 'oh it was just about the stock'. And she'll say 'why what about it'? and then I'll have to explain. Grrr it grinds my gears. If someone comes in to talk to her I leave them to it but then i'm not paranoid..... xx
Ha ha ha! That is so true ' uh-huh' and 'oh okay' are my favourites when she starts slagging people off as I just don't get involved in that. She hates it and goes around saying 'I think rodneytrotter is being a bit off with me" (which I dont care about). I love the idea of pausing and looking at her for a moment! She has no self awareness at all.I cant stand nosey people, in general. I would be pausing and looking at her for a moment before giving a vague answer. Or burying my head in something and giving uh-huh responses until she was sick of me
That actually does workHa ha ha! That is so true ' uh-huh' and 'oh okay' are my favourites when she starts slagging people off as I just don't get involved in that. She hates it and goes around saying 'I think rodneytrotter is being a bit off with me" (which I dont care about). I love the idea of pausing and looking at her for a moment! She has no self awareness at all.
Frighteningly similar to my colleague. The butting in to fairly obviously somewhat private, non-work chat is the absolute worst imo, and we all find ourselves just not having those pleasant friendly personal asides with colleagues because you know he'll have something to say about it.I’ve got a nosey coworker as well and he does my fucking head in.
We started on the same day, yet undermines me because I’m younger and a female.
Our manager will be training us on something and he’ll feel the need to then explain it again to me in ‘simpler terms’.
Or my manager will set us a task each - but my coworker will always want to be doing what I’m doing - even if it’s the task he complained about the day previous. He comes over and interrupts me to ask me questions about what I’m doing. He even picked up the stack of paperwork I had the other day and started flicking through ithis excuse was ‘well I need to know how this look and get used to it’ - after doing the same task for the previous two days.
You can’t have a conversation without him butting in. I was talking to the lady who sits next to me yesterday about a place we’ve been to and he cut her off mid sentence to say ‘well I’ve never been to that place myself’. He cannot stand not being involved.
That man should be reported, that is not acceptable behavior, if you don't do anything you are encouraging him.Just existeveryone in my job is so nasty and vile, everyone acts as if they are above you and couldn’t ever possibly talk to you with a bit of respect. I am in a small team with literally just my bitch of a boss, she’s left me out of any Christmas celebrations not to mention she’s horrid to me on a daily basis 🥲
said I had no life and there’s no possible way I have any sort of responsibility because I go to the gym, called me a giraffe and said I stand out like i sore thumb next to her last weeklooks me up and down when I get in every morning and never speaks a word
there is also an old man at work who constantly harasses me and tells me if he was 20 years younger I’d be in trouble. Every day he comes up behind me and says something weird, always comparing me to his 12 year old daughter as she is also blonde with blue eyes and apparently has ‘gorgeous long legs like me’. Makes me ill
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