Consider this line stolen. It’s genius.A failure to prepare on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on mine
The HR manager not liking you doesn’t mean it’s ok for them to support homophobia. Keeping a complaint in email form is a good idea here as you can forward to others if it’s not dealt with to your satisfaction. People are allowed to have their views, they aren’t allowed to make you feel like shit in work over them.Our HR manager is so far up her arse, it’s unbelievable. I’m convinced they’re having an affair, they have cringey nicknames for each other and are constantly finding excuses to get out of the office together during the working day.
Our HR manager also doesn’t like me because I’m tattooed, have colourful hair, and don’t offer to make cups of tea several times a day - this being because I don’t drink hot drinks generally.
There is definitely a lot of favouritism in this place. There’s only 4 of us in office, and the lads in the warehouse attached. Me and the accounts lady are definitely not in the same circle as our manager and the HR fellow.
Ugh, this. Recruiters are literally scum, you’re nothing but a paycheque to them and they’re so slimy and forceful.This isnt specifically work related but I am looking for a new job and I am dealing wirh 4 different recruitment agencies. I am upfront with them that i have applied for multiple roles. When they ask for details two of them begin putting down the other roles. Its so frustrating. I am waiting to hear back on one role that I had a 2nd round interview. One recruiter in particularly is saying I will never work in a multi national again if I take this job as its with a smaller company despite the fact that he has also put me forward for roles in smaller companies.
His role is in a different area to my main area of experience and I said I'm not sure on this and he keeps pushing it saying the interviewers were impressed and wouldnt progress you if they didnt find you capable of it.
They are whist trying to what bills them the most in a month. Sounds like your gut instinct is kicking in here xThis isnt specifically work related but I am looking for a new job and I am dealing wirh 4 different recruitment agencies. I am upfront with them that i have applied for multiple roles. When they ask for details two of them begin putting down the other roles. Its so frustrating. I am waiting to hear back on one role that I had a 2nd round interview. One recruiter in particularly is saying I will never work in a multi national again if I take this job as its with a smaller company despite the fact that he has also put me forward for roles in smaller companies.
His role is in a different area to my main area of experience and I said I'm not sure on this and he keeps pushing it saying the interviewers were impressed and wouldnt progress you if they didnt find you capable of it.
going through the exact same thing at the moment. They aren't 'bitchy' really it's just awkward cause they've known each other for a lot longer. It's hard to explain but it's like trying to penetrate concrete sometimes. It's not all female but the guys are involved in their circle. Tbh I actually feel like I'm back at school as an outcast again.Hi all (new to this thread) I was after some advice…I’ve worked at my place for 3 years. I would describe myself as an extroverted introvert in that in small social circles I’m bubbly and friendly but in large groups I physically shrink away and I can’t abide over familiar, bossy loud people. In my last team i wasn’t happy, they were very loud and constantly trying to organise social events. I ended up basically being a lone wolf and not going because after the first couple I realised I would end up in the corner whilst they all got drunk (I don’t drink). I enjoyed that role and even though I got the best results in my team I was overlooked for a promotion in favour of someone with less skills but more of a people person. I have a couple of close friends at work that do “get” me.
Anyway, I recently moved teams into a smaller all female team and im finding the opposite issue! It’s very cliquey, they will sit and chat and either arrange things and invite me as an after thought or just exclude me from conversations that aren’t work related. Today in my 1-1 my boss asked why I’ve declined to go to the company event next month and I didn’t want to tell her the reason. I just don’t feel comfortable, everyone will be drunk and it’s not really my scene.
i feel like im a round peg in a square hole- help!
Of all the things that have disappointed me about adult life (and there are many …) the fact that work is just like school is probably one of the worst. I cannot stand workplace cliques and I don’t think I’ve ever worked in a place that doesn’t have them.going through the exact same thing at the moment. They aren't 'bitchy' really it's just awkward cause they've known each other for a lot longer. It's hard to explain but it's like trying to penetrate concrete sometimes. It's not all female but the guys are involved in their circle. Tbh I actually feel like I'm back at school as an outcast again.
spot on. It's so disheartening to leave school where you were outcast and realise that you enter into a work place that's the same thing. It's literally happened everywhere I go, uni was the same. The problem is obviously meOf all the things that have disappointed me about adult life (and there are many …) the fact that work is just like school is probably one of the worst. I cannot stand workplace cliques and I don’t think I’ve ever worked in a place that doesn’t have them.
There’s always that moment when you realise that you’ll probably never really progress somewhere simply because your face doesn’t fit and no matter how hard you work or how much you take on, you’re never going to be part of that ‘in’ group who seem to float though the workplace and get a promotion every six months without really doing anything. It’s like being back at secondary school and having that realisation that it doesn’t matter how often they ask you for help with their homework, you are never, ever going to be allowed to be one of the cool kids. So much talent and ability gets wasted in the workplace when it is cliquish - companies wonder why they have issues when they literally have a string of people who I’ll only promote people who are exactly like them …
I think a lot of people feel like that but I think it’s more that so many institutions are built around certain personality types - I’ve also worked in teams where you have a senior person who employs someone like them for a more junior role and it trickles down and you create a situation where anyone different just can’t thrive. I was actually recruited to a team once because they’d done some analysis on the team dynamics and it had been flagged that the issues they were having were because they lacked certain types of people - unfortunately there was no support for a different type of leadership, the issues continued and I got sick of trying to sort out problems that nobody would acknowledge existed and left.spot on. It's so disheartening to leave school where you were outcast and realise that you enter into a work place that's the same thing. It's literally happened everywhere I go, uni was the same. The problem is obviously me
Ha! My OH has just told me not to be stupid because a company I emailed this morning came to me in less than an hour and I was going to send a nice message back thanking them for reading it and responding so quicklyI'll send an email around about a change of process. A week later a staff member will ask me "how do I do this?" I'll refer them to said email of last week and they'll say "I didn't read that" or "oh I forgot about that" or "nobody told me"
Fucks me off.
I could have wrote this myself. My brain is constantly like ' dont be weird, dont say this, dont say that'. I have a check up meeting with my manager tomorrow and i was thinking about mentioning but i don't know what to say really. All the advice us going to be is give it time because I only just started. I don't see it getting better thoughCompletely agree with all of the above. I come home sometimes so exhausted because I’m trying to say and do all the right things and not look like I’m stuck up or aloof.
The truth is I’ve been excruciatingly shy all my life and people pick up all the wrong signs from you when you’re like that. Especially when you’re at an age when you’re expected to have “grown out of it”.
At my new place there are very few people who make an effort to draw newcomers in. The only thing that hides the cliquey-ness is the fact that most of the time it’s as quiet as the grave because the managers sit in the same room and frown on any chatter.
Add to that the control freakishness of the place and those in charge changing their minds more times than they change their socks and it doesn’t make a great experience
Ha! My OH has just told me not to be stupid because a company I emailed this morning came to me in less than an hour and I was going to send a nice message back thanking them for reading it and responding so quickly
I honestly believe that most people don’t bother opening their inboxes any more
I often do thank them if I think they have been especially efficient, it costs nothing, and I am sure they will be happy.Completely agree with all of the above. I come home sometimes so exhausted because I’m trying to say and do all the right things and not look like I’m stuck up or aloof.
The truth is I’ve been excruciatingly shy all my life and people pick up all the wrong signs from you when you’re like that. Especially when you’re at an age when you’re expected to have “grown out of it”.
At my new place there are very few people who make an effort to draw newcomers in. The only thing that hides the cliquey-ness is the fact that most of the time it’s as quiet as the grave because the managers sit in the same room and frown on any chatter.
Add to that the control freakishness of the place and those in charge changing their minds more times than they change their socks and it doesn’t make a great experience
Ha! My OH has just told me not to be stupid because a company I emailed this morning came to me in less than an hour and I was going to send a nice message back thanking them for reading it and responding so quickly
I honestly believe that most people don’t bother opening their inboxes any more
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