Anna Mathur

[Linkylu]

I also bought the course and didn’t find it very helpful - it felt like armchair psychology at best.

Leaving aside some of her addictive and narcissistic tendencies, I think she imagines she does care about others. And she does care about her own kids(of course). So of course, nothing is black and white.

However and it is a big however, it does look like she is fleecing less fortunate, less educated, less privileged women. As a previous poster said, charging ludicrous prices for self help booklets when you can spend a tenner on a full book on Amazon.

Granted it’s expensive to see a therapist one on one. But perhaps she imagines she can commoditise an entire profession...?

But how ludicrous for people to buy into this? Beyond some basic general advice that you can read in many places, ie ‘love yourself/be kind/let go of others expectations’ - the whole point of therapy is the context of you, your life, all the things that make your experience different from the next. It is a deeply intimate unwrapping of who you are.

Sadly, if it’s done at a skin deep level, ie., a social media level, i think it can be more damaging than not. I can’t imagine Ana believes her followers read her course/her posts/even buy the darn book and then leave her site. She knows they won’t, she knows she has them where she wants them. Searching for more Ana therapy.

Our personalities, our context, is what leads us to how we behave and lead our lives. And our contexts are as different as our individual personality.

Yes there are things that make us very similar but she is praying on the very thing that makes her different to her followers - ‘ i got this... by the way..I have a beautiful house, beautiful little kids, a fabulous husband BUT...listen to me...you can be like me too..if you buy my brand.’

If her backdrop was different - ie, not a very beautiful house, money actually being a bit tight, no domestic help or childcare, no time for exercise and glamming up (as knackered and feeling exhausted) it would be a very different fan base.

Anyway, I am stating the blooming obvious. Rant over. Nearly - charging what she has charged is not on. And I can’t imagine the British Psychological Society would be thrilled.

I think she contravenes all the ethical guidelines laid down by the BPS and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. And therapy doesn’t come as one size fits all, it’s a bit like what Ana Bey does, preying on the vulnerable and less educated, parting them from their money on the promise of a life like her’s.

 

[Londoner]

I also bought the course and didn’t find it very helpful - it felt like armchair psychology at best.

Leaving aside some of her addictive and narcissistic tendencies, I think she imagines she does care about others. And she does care about her own kids(of course). So of course, nothing is black and white.

However and it is a big however, it does look like she is fleecing less fortunate, less educated, less privileged women. As a previous poster said, charging ludicrous prices for self help booklets when you can spend a tenner on a full book on Amazon.

Granted it’s expensive to see a therapist one on one. But perhaps she imagines she can commoditise an entire profession...?

But how ludicrous for people to buy into this? Beyond some basic general advice that you can read in many places, ie ‘love yourself/be kind/let go of others expectations’ - the whole point of therapy is the context of you, your life, all the things that make your experience different from the next. It is a deeply intimate unwrapping of who you are.

Sadly, if it’s done at a skin deep level, ie., a social media level, i think it can be more damaging than not. I can’t imagine Ana believes her followers read her course/her posts/even buy the darn book and then leave her site. She knows they won’t, she knows she has them where she wants them. Searching for more Ana therapy.

Our personalities, our context, is what leads us to how we behave and lead our lives. And our contexts are as different as our individual personality.

Yes there are things that make us very similar but she is praying on the very thing that makes her different to her followers - ‘ i got this... by the way..I have a beautiful house, beautiful little kids, a fabulous husband BUT...listen to me...you can be like me too..if you buy my brand.’

If her backdrop was different - ie, not a very beautiful house, money actually being a bit tight, no domestic help or childcare, no time for exercise and glamming up (as knackered and feeling exhausted) it would be a very different fan base.

Anyway, I am stating the blooming obvious. Rant over. Nearly - charging what she has charged is not on. And I can’t imagine the British Psychological Society would be thrilled.

You’ve articulated this perfectly!

 

[Basicbasic]

She also constantly conflates psychology and psychotherapy. Anna is a psychotherapist. Not a psychologist. There are some amazing amazing books on Amazon for less than a tenner written by a multitude of fully qualified psychologists (harder to qualify into requiring more skills than psychotherapists) and drs. Anna sits at her desk whilst her hidden nanny sees to her kids and house and churns out stuff very easily found on Google searches relating to anxiety. She then flogs these cut and paste jobs for a small fortune. Absolutely unethical and exploitative. She really should do a post explaining the real differences between psychotherapists and psychologists, I suspect many of her intended course audience would benefit from an actual psychologist.

 

[Kema]

She isn’t a struggling mum, she lives in a wealthy area of Surrey. I’ve seen her on local social media posting looking for a full time nanny so has more help and support than she makes out!

 

[Italy2]

She has already done 2 swipe up for her book and course today. She is sat plugging her book from the car journey to the hotel so you can't tell me she is in it for the better good of the community. She is just making money. She is on her way to an expensive and lovely hotel and she is busy selling her £45 course. What does it say about her whole Instagram persona?

 

[Rosie878]

I find the subtle (deliberate) ‘daddy issue’ referencing an interesting one. She may well give us more glimpses into this over time, but in half admissions and half truths. Whatever she chooses to reveal, it will reflect well on her It certainly will not dim the beautiful aesthetic of her brand.

Anyone who has to post endless pictures of their material possessions is a social climber. I suspect this is where much of her insecurity comes from. Note her accent changes on a daily basis.

But if she could be honest about who she really truly is, it might be more endearing. Or dull? Who knows.

I don’t follow her, so I’ve not seen any daddy issue references. I am aware of the tragedy she (And her family) experienced growing up which she has spoken about. I wonder what her dad has done to be raked over the coals on social media after all they have been through - perhaps her parents separated? I think she has enough of an online presence for it to be a bit embarrassing as family friends and acquaintances wil probably look at her account.

i didn’t know she charged £45. I honestly think most people would be best committing to switching off screens for an hour a day, buy a nice notebook and pen and write down their worries/feelings. Would probably gain more insight than a generic course.

 

[Italy2]

I have not been following her from the beginning so not really sure about the daddy issues. What really happened? Sorry if it's too personal a question.

 

[caitlinbullen]

Bloody hell, that itemised list of meals she left for her Mum and the kids was a bit over the top?!! Control freak, much?

I get that it’s nice to leave some food in for the babysitters, but blimey she’s taken that to the next level.

 

[Linkylu]

She also constantly conflates psychology and psychotherapy. Anna is a psychotherapist. Not a psychologist. There are some amazing amazing books on Amazon for less than a tenner written by a multitude of fully qualified psychologists (harder to qualify into requiring more skills than psychotherapists) and drs. Anna sits at her desk whilst her hidden nanny sees to her kids and house and churns out stuff very easily found on Google searches relating to anxiety. She then flogs these cut and paste jobs for a small fortune. Absolutely unethical and exploitative. She really should do a post explaining the real differences between psychotherapists and psychologists, I suspect many of her intended course audience would benefit from an actual psychologist.

So true! My sister is a psychologist, the training is far more intensive and rigorous. A real psychologist wouldn’t wouldn’t be using these unethical practices for fear of being struck off or something severe at least by the BPS. Most people don’t know the difference in training so if you can get away with calling yourself a slightly higher profession why not (by Anna’s reckoning)

 

[OneLineResponse]

I had therapy after a bout of depression/anxiety. I searched high and low for a recommended/experienced therapist. I wanted someone with life experience, not just training. Instagram is very dangerous in the therapy/life coach arena.

 

[Italy2]

Bloody hell, that itemised list of meals she left for her Mum and the kids was a bit over the top?!! Control freak, much?

I get that it’s nice to leave some food in for the babysitters, but blimey she’s taken that to the next level.

Yeah and not sure why she made a menu for her mum too. I'm sure her mum is a grown up adult who can sort herself out rather than read what she is meant to have today then open the fridge and eat the meal that Anna arranged, bought and chose for her. It's a bit weird.

 

[caitlinbullen]

Yeah and not sure why she made a menu for her mum too. I'm sure her mum is a grown up adult who can sort herself out rather than read what she is meant to have today then open the fridge and eat the meal that Anna arranged, bought and chose for her. It's a bit weird.

She’d deleted that story now!! (and it was from today so it’s not just gone bcos it’s more than 24 hrs)

 

[Italy2]

Hi Anna! How was the hotel night away? Or is there something to moan about that as well? Are you actually going to acknowledge for once that you have a very luxurious and fancy night away and really enjoyed it, thanks to your followers money and your husband's good job.

 

[Icantbelievemyeyes]

yes all this and deeply needy. This craving for validation maybe even has shades of narcissism. Whatever it is there’s a lot of smoke and mirrors, I wouldn’t believe a word that comes out of her mouth.

It's an addiction because somewhere else in their life has holes. It's very sad as for some it's how they get through their insecurities maybe. One good thing about Anna is she doesn't share her kids faces. I like that she keeps them private rather than exploits them for supermarket clothing deals, free holidays or dresses them up in the latest Next outfits!

 

[Italy2]

It's an addiction because somewhere else in their life has holes. It's very sad as for some it's how they get through their insecurities maybe. One good thing about Anna is she doesn't share her kids faces. I like that she keeps them private rather than exploits them for supermarket clothing deals, free holidays or dresses them up in the latest Next outfits!

Well you say that but she used to do ads for kids products. She has a recent post on her feed where she has tagged Stoke as she did a paid campaign with them and got a free Stoke high chair for Florence. I think hiding her kids faces is more so her family and friends don't know that she is actively oversharing her life on Instagram. I may be wrong though

 

[Lilinpops83]

She has a VERY high need to show off her material possessions. Everything is just so. Partly because this appeals to her own personality (and need for admiration) but also because it makes her more money. Many of her followers don’t realise they are being tricked - unconsciously - into believing that if they follow her advice / give her money they can have her lifestyle. She is selling a lifestyle far more than a mental health solution.

I wonder if she feels any conflict with what she is doing? If she does, she may well derail at some point (and especially if her family disapprove - although I am not sure they really do). Because of the lurvely money money money.

Her husband is not that senior (yet) and still quite young. So she is accelerating their joint earning potential and lifestyle. Which would be fair enough - women should be able to do exactly what men do, including having amazing careers and earning a lot of money - but she is achieving this goal by ripping off the less fortunate.

And they still go back for more and more!

 

[NellieMo]

She has a VERY high need to show off her material possessions. Everything is just so. Partly because this appeals to her own personality (and need for admiration) but also because it makes her more money. Many of her followers don’t realise they are being tricked - unconsciously - into believing that if they follow her advice / give her money they can have her lifestyle. She is selling a lifestyle far more than a mental health solution.

I wonder if she feels any conflict with what she is doing? If she does, she may well derail at some point (and especially if her family disapprove - although I am not sure they really do). Because of the lurvely money money money.

Her husband is not that senior (yet) and still quite young. So she is accelerating their joint earning potential and lifestyle. Which would be fair enough - women should be able to do exactly what men do, including having amazing careers and earning a lot of money - but she is achieving this goal by ripping off the less fortunate.

And they still go back for more and more!

He must have a pretty good job as their house is worth over a million pounds.

 

[Italy2]

He must have a pretty good job as their house is worth over a million pounds.

Yeah but he works at canary wharf in London and they live outside London in Surrey so he is bringing London salary to Godalming.

 

[Lilinpops83]

Surely a London house (zone 2-3) like that would cost £2-£3 million? London is mental. And a ridiculous bubble.

 

[NellieMo]

Surely a London house (zone 2-3) like that would cost £2-£3 million? London is mental. And a ridiculous bubble.

They’re not in London, they live in Guildford.