Alone on New Year's Eve 2022

[mozzarellagirl]

I thought I'd make a thread for those of us that will be alone (or will feel alone) tonight. We can share our plans (if we have any) and talk about why we might be alone if it helps (?)

I'll be alone tonight and I feel a bit half and half about it. I have woken feeling quite down and alone already. But I did spend last night with a group of people who made me feel utterly invisible.

I'm 26 and the last couple of NYEs have all felt the same. Lonely, depressing and sad. Is this what it will always be like?

(Obviously covid has been at play but also all my friends are spread across the UK so it's harder to meet and organise. Especially with cost of living atm)

I'd just like to know I'm not the only one.

Please tell me your plans for today and tonight 🥹

 

[Holmessk]

Hug. NYE can be brutal. I've had great ones and awful ones.

 

[Gymhoned]

Yep alone for xmas and new year. Hey ho. Life goes on!!

 

[jenna6387]

Sending you a big hug

I’ve spent the last several years on my own. Firstly i didn’t have any other option but now I prefer it. I do still feel lonely though, though being out with people does make that feeling worse.

That said I’ve always had the offer to be with my mum and her partner, or the last two years my mum and Nanna. I’d still rather be on my own.

What I do is make sure I have a bottle of bubbly, either a takeaway or yummy food. A feel good movie, some journaling or figuring out my new year goals. then going bed when I want to.

Im not always awake at midnight.

I have two cats and a dog so I put on classical radio to counter the fireworks going off too.

 

[rainbowlemon]

I was alone on Christmas, that felt harder. This feels like any other day for me personally.

I bought pizza and chocolate so I'm relatively happy.

Who was the group of people you were with last night?

 

[L3moning]

My plan is to drink some cider and maybe some prosecco and post on tattle (and other places around the web). I've started already.

 

[mozzarellagirl]

I was alone on Christmas, that felt harder. This feels like any other day for me personally.

I bought pizza and chocolate so I'm relatively happy.

Who was the group of people you were with last night?

my sister and her friends. they came over and my mum joined too and both her and my sister love to drink and when they do they get snappy, aggresive and mean (but only at me - im the youngest) reminds me of when i was in school and would come home to my mum drunk and nasty.
my sisters friends are not my kind of people - made awful jokes about horrific things that gave me a lump in my throat and my eyes water. at one point i had to go upstairs because my heart was pounding out my chest and i was on the verge of tears
i tried to speak to my mum about the "jokes" and i was dismissed and snarled at

they didn't even notice when i slipped away and when i did try and re-join it was like i wasn't even in the room. id try to join in and joke and play games and id be ignored and it was like they all decided that anything i said wasnt funny or worth listening to.

i went to bed feeling truly alone and sad in my heart. felt trodden on

this was after christmas where once again, my sister made me cry from being so nasty (but it's all in direct so my mum acts obvliviois most times) and when i want to call her out on it, i get told not to because "it'll cause drama"

that was a ramble, apologies
~

thank you all for posting on this thread, it's making me feel better 🥹

 

[JSquared]

I thought I'd make a thread for those of us that will be alone (or will feel alone) tonight. We can share our plans (if we have any) and talk about why we might be alone if it helps (?)

I'll be alone tonight and I feel a bit half and half about it. I have woken feeling quite down and alone already. But I did spend last night with a group of people who made me feel utterly invisible.

I'm 26 and the last couple of NYEs have all felt the same. Lonely, depressing and sad. Is this what it will always be like?

(Obviously covid has been at play but also all my friends are spread across the UK so it's harder to meet and organise. Especially with cost of living atm)

I'd just like to know I'm not the only one.

Please tell me your plans for today and tonight 🥹

Im so sorry they made you feel like that, I hope you’re ok.

Me and my OH indoors tonight. Going to cook something yummy and watch a film. Nothing exciting.

I’ve spent many NYs on my own - I would normally wear my favourite PJs, eat something yummy and have a pamper. Do whatever makes you feel good x

 

[mozzarellagirl]

Sending you a big hug
Im not always awake at midnight.

I have two cats and a dog so I put on classical radio to counter the fireworks going off too.

hugs

i wish i could be asleep at 12 but i'm such a night owl

i have a little cat and she finds the fireworks so startling. her ears go back and her eyes are all big and panicked

My plan is to drink some cider and maybe some prosecco and post on tattle (and other places around the web). I've started already.

I've decided to clean my bedroom specifically top to bottom. Full cleanse for my mind and symbolic also. hoovered, clean sheets, incense, polish etc and I just want to snuggle with my cat and probably be on tattle too

 

[Nixxs]

Really don't like NY after years of having to make believe enjoying going out. Something always kicked off. Now I don't bother and will more than likely go bed early

 

[LittlePea]

I'm alone for NYE this year. I was meant to be spending it with my boyfriend, but he dumped 2 days ago. Tbh I've struggled to find something to do on NYE for the past few years.

I feel really, really down about finally having to spend one alone tbh - I feel at 27, I should have a big group of friends to go out with. I've had quite a struggle with my mental health for the past 4/5 years but this year is the worst it's ever gotten to and I've definitely hit rock bottom. My body dysmorphia has left me isolated and I've lost all my friends because of it

Hugs to everyone else that's having a tough time, I hope things get better for all of us.

 

[mozzarellagirl]

I'm alone for NYE this year. I was meant to be spending it with my boyfriend, but he dumped 2 days ago. Tbh I've struggled to find something to do on NYE for the past few years.

I feel really, really down about finally having to spend one alone tbh - I feel at 27, I should have a big group of friends to go out with. I've had quite a struggle with my mental health for the past 4/5 years but this year is the worst it's ever gotten to and I've definitely hit rock bottom. My body dysmorphia has left me isolated and I've lost all my friends because of it

Hugs to everyone else that's having a tough time, I hope things get better for all of us.

I'm sorry to hear this. 2 days before the new year is really rough

I feel the same at 26, that I should have this type of group and be doing that kind of stuff (even though I know it's objectively not true)

I really hear you about struggling with mental health for a good few years and I also have BDD. I really understand how it isolates you sending so much love and hugs

 

[JSquared]

I'm alone for NYE this year. I was meant to be spending it with my boyfriend, but he dumped 2 days ago. Tbh I've struggled to find something to do on NYE for the past few years.

I feel really, really down about finally having to spend one alone tbh - I feel at 27, I should have a big group of friends to go out with. I've had quite a struggle with my mental health for the past 4/5 years but this year is the worst it's ever gotten to and I've definitely hit rock bottom. My body dysmorphia has left me isolated and I've lost all my friends because of it

Hugs to everyone else that's having a tough time, I hope things get better for all of us.

Sending you so much love. Hard to find something positive in this but Fresh Year, Fresh Start?

I don’t have a big group of friends but go for quality over quantity. I’ve been in big groups and it’s toxic. All put on for SM - when behind the scenes there’s lots of bitching, back stabbing and so on x

 

[jenna6387]

i have a little cat and she finds the fireworks so startling. her ears go back and her eyes are all big and panicked



I've decided to clean my bedroom specifically top to bottom. Full cleanse for my mind and symbolic also. hoovered, clean sheets, incense, polish etc and I just want to snuggle with my cat and probably be on tattle too
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It’s so horrible to see our pets so scared. I really recommend classic radio. It really helps mine.

That sounds like a perfect plan, and plenty of cat snuggles in fresh bedding

 

[Blockster]

I've had covid this Xmas and it's really affected me mentally, I feel so low and the thought of a new year fills me with horror! I'm sorry that's so depressing isn't it?

 

[Gymhoned]

my sister and her friends. they came over and my mum joined too and both her and my sister love to drink and when they do they get snappy, aggresive and mean (but only at me - im the youngest) reminds me of when i was in school and would come home to my mum drunk and nasty.
my sisters friends are not my kind of people - made awful jokes about horrific things that gave me a lump in my throat and my eyes water. at one point i had to go upstairs because my heart was pounding out my chest and i was on the verge of tears
i tried to speak to my mum about the "jokes" and i was dismissed and snarled at

they didn't even notice when i slipped away and when i did try and re-join it was like i wasn't even in the room. id try to join in and joke and play games and id be ignored and it was like they all decided that anything i said wasnt funny or worth listening to.

i went to bed feeling truly alone and sad in my heart. felt trodden on

this was after christmas where once again, my sister made me cry from being so nasty (but it's all in direct so my mum acts obvliviois most times) and when i want to call her out on it, i get told not to because "it'll cause drama"

that was a ramble, apologies
~

thank you all for posting on this thread, it's making me feel better 🥹

Think you need some nicer people to hang out with!! Just because theyre family well who cares. My sister is vile too we havent spoken for 6 years and they really have been the happiest years!!!

 

[FullFatWater2021]

I'm at home with my Husband and cat but I do feel quite alone at times. I'm happy and ready for a new year but sometimes I just feel lonely.

I live a quiet life and moved away from my closest friends aswell so can't even pop and see them without a 100 mile drive. Also some family are out not too far away for NYE and haven't invited me so that's not helped.

Thank you for this thread it's helped me not feel so lonely.

 

[xbxbx]

I’m alone tonight out of choice. I spend a lot of time alone because it’s the only time I truly feel at peace. Other people can be so overwhelming lol.

Currently drinking homemade margaritas and catching up on YouTube. Will probably do a face mask later or my nails maybe.

Hogmanay is just another day for me. I’ve spent many years going out and getting drunk with friends that I don’t feel like I’m missing out anymore (not that my friends go out anymore either). Just do what makes you happy - pay no attention to anyone else

 

[Some People!]

I'm finishing off some New Year's tarot readings, getting the kid into bed before too late, and getting into a scaldy hot bath with a couple of glasses of hot mulled cider.
Then I'll sit around for a bit, write an over-ambitious to-do list for tomorrow, and slope off to bed.
I'll be posting & reading here and elsewhere I expect

I love my own company at times like these when expectations are high. Just opt out and do my own thing.

 

[mozzarellagirl]

I’m alone tonight out of choice. I spend a lot of time alone because it’s the only time I truly feel at peace. Other people can be so overwhelming lol.

Currently drinking homemade margaritas and catching up on YouTube. Will probably do a face mask later or my nails maybe.

Hogmanay is just another day for me. I’ve spent many years going out and getting drunk with friends that I don’t feel like I’m missing out anymore (not that my friends go out anymore either). Just do what makes you happy - pay no attention to anyone else

i'm going to do my nails too! probably have a late night snack and watch this drama i've been recommended on bbc. it's called Mayflies

Thank you for this thread it's helped me not feel so lonely.

You are most welcome. Thank you for joining in and sharing