They look so so odd together, very mismatched looking couple
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i've been postponing this comment for so long, because there's too much to unravel
there's something odd in this relationship, yes, probably they seem mismatched as some of you have said, but izzy has been revealing weird things that i've found interesting
when she posted the video about her wedding with ali i already could tell that she felt lonely in that relationship. she mentions that she would ask ali about wedding stuff (the venue, the decorations, the menu, that kind of things) to just receive "i don't know" "do what you consider
" sort of comments from her fiancé. i don't know why but i can really imagine him seeing the wedding as something to tick of the box (so he can compete with his brother) or as some sort of procedure one has to go through, without actually putting effort into it. i can also see him saying something like that is a woman thing and he doesn't know much about colour combination, flowers, so it's totally up to her and nothing to do with him. you can see on the video that because of that, izzy felt very very overwhelmed, trying to organise and prepare a wedding almost by herself while also working as a F1 or F2 doctor (i don't recall if it was year 1 or year 2). that anecdote made me a bit suspicious, but oh boy! the best was yet to come
on the video in which she talks about her pregnancy i was truly APPALLED. i'm going to give time stamps for this one, as i recall there were many more red flags around their relationship than in the other previous video
3:15-4:56 she says she got pregnant sooner than expected: as some of their friends had problems to conceive, (sometimes only conceiving after months or whole years of trying), they started looking for a baby right after they married and (literal words) "let nature take its course". however, she got surprised when nature took its course almost immediately and according to her, ideally she'd have waited a few more months to get pregnant, (to at least settle in their married life and in hong kong). ok, both of you are doctors. do still we have to go through the flowers and the bees and all that knowing that both of you are certified specialists in the human body? if you're having unprotected s*x, what were you expecting to happen??
6:18-6:50 now that the nomad life is not possible, let's pick up a place: oh, God. i wish my problems were as severe as theirs. anyway. they move to hong kong, izzy is newly pregnant, vomiting in the first hotel rooms and airbnbs they get in the city. i can't express how irresponsible is to move abroad during your pregnancy. how are you going to navigate a health care system that you are not familiar with? how are you going to rely on somebody else if all your family and friends (your safety net) are thousand of miles away? i think it was just a big stupid move for both of them. she felt so sick and nauseous she would spend days in bed.
7:28-8:04 ali can't cook: they settle into a flat, but according to her, it isn't equipped to cook, so they live on take aways, which made her even more nauseous and sick. umm your husband is a millionaire (and i'm pretty sure you are also well paid by youtube) and you can't afford restaurants every now and then and can only afford to order (according to you) "greasy takeaways"? not only that, but her mum had to flight ALL OVER FROM THE UK to cook for her because she was so ill. wait, what? didn't you just say that your house wasn't equipped for cooking? or maybe YOUR HUSBAND wasn't equipped for cooking? Jesus Christ that is so insane. so you are sick in bed, craving good, nourishing foods, and what your partner offers you are just crappy takeaways because he's (i guess) too busy and productive to cook (or just doesn't know to cook), so your mum has to take a plane to take care of you instead!?
9:18-11:12 human incubator: she starts having feelings of sadness due to the hormones. she starts to question her own worth and what is her "purpose", as she's too ill and dependant on others. she asks her mum and ali and they tell her: "what's more purposeful than growing a new being?". mmm don't get me wrong, i see what they meant, but i think it could have been more appropiate to say "you're loved. you're a creative, intelligent human that will get well soon. you're worthy". i feel as if they minimised her struggles and told her she's just a human incubator and that's what she has to do now.
12:37-13:53 ali's unable to check the appliances before moving to a flat: besides of the struggles of eating take aways everyday, they moved into an appartment where all the kitchen appliances were broken, moldy and dirty, which they didn't check before signing the contract because she was too exhausted and ill to check that stuff. and ali? why didn't he check all of that? is he really THAT busy? "when moving to a new country, make sure the living standards are reasonable" she says. i'm pretty sure that in hong kong there are many sublets above the living standards, it's just that your husband is too stingy to expend a little bit more comfortable for both of you. so they spent another whole month on takeaways<3
20:52-21:53 she has changed her relationship with productivity: that's what she says after feeling bad all her first trimester because she couldn't get up from bed. I truly hope her brain has made the shift into a more healthy vision of productivity and avoid the guilt of "not doing things"
23:48-24:45 unfortunate comment on femminism: "in a lot of liberal/femminist/girl boss cultures being a stay at home mum is seen as a negative thing". i think her wording here is very unfortunate. a true femminist would support another woman despite of her being a stay at home mum or not. the truth here, izzy, is that you're projecting your own insecurities and blaming femminism. you're a cambridge graduate in medicine, you have worked as a doctor in london, you have learned chinese after months and months of hard work. you are a very capable and intelligent person that was told all her life that should not strive for less. and now that you see yourself miles away from your family, being pregnant and isolated in a foreign country, you have to face the reality and accept that probably you'll have to raise that child by yourself because your useless husband is not able to make a proper meal or to look for other apartments to accommodate you
ok that was a very long post and english is not my first language, so i hope to have expressed my opinions properly without swearing too much but that marriage is for sure very crooked and one-sided from just what she's been telling through her videos
EDIT: just to fix the video inserts
there's something odd in this relationship, yes, probably they seem mismatched as some of you have said, but izzy has been revealing weird things that i've found interesting
when she posted the video about her wedding with ali i already could tell that she felt lonely in that relationship. she mentions that she would ask ali about wedding stuff (the venue, the decorations, the menu, that kind of things) to just receive "i don't know" "do what you consider
" sort of comments from her fiancé. i don't know why but i can really imagine him seeing the wedding as something to tick of the box (so he can compete with his brother) or as some sort of procedure one has to go through, without actually putting effort into it. i can also see him saying something like that is a woman thing and he doesn't know much about colour combination, flowers, so it's totally up to her and nothing to do with him. you can see on the video that because of that, izzy felt very very overwhelmed, trying to organise and prepare a wedding almost by herself while also working as a F1 or F2 doctor (i don't recall if it was year 1 or year 2). that anecdote made me a bit suspicious, but oh boy! the best was yet to comeon the video in which she talks about her pregnancy i was truly APPALLED. i'm going to give time stamps for this one, as i recall there were many more red flags around their relationship than in the other previous video
3:15-4:56 she says she got pregnant sooner than expected: as some of their friends had problems to conceive, (sometimes only conceiving after months or whole years of trying), they started looking for a baby right after they married and (literal words) "let nature take its course". however, she got surprised when nature took its course almost immediately and according to her, ideally she'd have waited a few more months to get pregnant, (to at least settle in their married life and in hong kong). ok, both of you are doctors. do still we have to go through the flowers and the bees and all that knowing that both of you are certified specialists in the human body? if you're having unprotected s*x, what were you expecting to happen??
6:18-6:50 now that the nomad life is not possible, let's pick up a place: oh, God. i wish my problems were as severe as theirs. anyway. they move to hong kong, izzy is newly pregnant, vomiting in the first hotel rooms and airbnbs they get in the city. i can't express how irresponsible is to move abroad during your pregnancy. how are you going to navigate a health care system that you are not familiar with? how are you going to rely on somebody else if all your family and friends (your safety net) are thousand of miles away? i think it was just a big stupid move for both of them. she felt so sick and nauseous she would spend days in bed.
7:28-8:04 ali can't cook: they settle into a flat, but according to her, it isn't equipped to cook, so they live on take aways, which made her even more nauseous and sick. umm your husband is a millionaire (and i'm pretty sure you are also well paid by youtube) and you can't afford restaurants every now and then and can only afford to order (according to you) "greasy takeaways"? not only that, but her mum had to flight ALL OVER FROM THE UK to cook for her because she was so ill. wait, what? didn't you just say that your house wasn't equipped for cooking? or maybe YOUR HUSBAND wasn't equipped for cooking? Jesus Christ that is so insane. so you are sick in bed, craving good, nourishing foods, and what your partner offers you are just crappy takeaways because he's (i guess) too busy and productive to cook (or just doesn't know to cook), so your mum has to take a plane to take care of you instead!?
9:18-11:12 human incubator: she starts having feelings of sadness due to the hormones. she starts to question her own worth and what is her "purpose", as she's too ill and dependant on others. she asks her mum and ali and they tell her: "what's more purposeful than growing a new being?". mmm don't get me wrong, i see what they meant, but i think it could have been more appropiate to say "you're loved. you're a creative, intelligent human that will get well soon. you're worthy". i feel as if they minimised her struggles and told her she's just a human incubator and that's what she has to do now.
12:37-13:53 ali's unable to check the appliances before moving to a flat: besides of the struggles of eating take aways everyday, they moved into an appartment where all the kitchen appliances were broken, moldy and dirty, which they didn't check before signing the contract because she was too exhausted and ill to check that stuff. and ali? why didn't he check all of that? is he really THAT busy? "when moving to a new country, make sure the living standards are reasonable" she says. i'm pretty sure that in hong kong there are many sublets above the living standards, it's just that your husband is too stingy to expend a little bit more comfortable for both of you. so they spent another whole month on takeaways<3
20:52-21:53 she has changed her relationship with productivity: that's what she says after feeling bad all her first trimester because she couldn't get up from bed. I truly hope her brain has made the shift into a more healthy vision of productivity and avoid the guilt of "not doing things"
23:48-24:45 unfortunate comment on femminism: "in a lot of liberal/femminist/girl boss cultures being a stay at home mum is seen as a negative thing". i think her wording here is very unfortunate. a true femminist would support another woman despite of her being a stay at home mum or not. the truth here, izzy, is that you're projecting your own insecurities and blaming femminism. you're a cambridge graduate in medicine, you have worked as a doctor in london, you have learned chinese after months and months of hard work. you are a very capable and intelligent person that was told all her life that should not strive for less. and now that you see yourself miles away from your family, being pregnant and isolated in a foreign country, you have to face the reality and accept that probably you'll have to raise that child by yourself because your useless husband is not able to make a proper meal or to look for other apartments to accommodate you
ok that was a very long post and english is not my first language, so i hope to have expressed my opinions properly without swearing too much but that marriage is for sure very crooked and one-sided from just what she's been telling through her videos
EDIT: just to fix the video inserts
This all makes sense, especially that he's had ataf leave and start their own businesses
Also very strange that one of them said in her 122s with him he would also ask about personal stuff so relationships, etc.
This guy doesn't have a clue how to be a manager or an actual man that takes care of his wife and unborn child. He's too focused on making sure he does whatever his brother does as he feels very small compared to him.
Also very strange that one of them said in her 122s with him he would also ask about personal stuff so relationships, etc.
This guy doesn't have a clue how to be a manager or an actual man that takes care of his wife and unborn child. He's too focused on making sure he does whatever his brother does as he feels very small compared to him.
Seeing Ali after not watching him for a while can see how he has deteriorated in to some strange sub humam, it’s weird to hear him speak. I can imagine it’s hard for his friends/family to recognise this guy.
It’s like his search for optimisation has just led him to become such an unrealistic guy. Especially feel for his wife, he isn’t a man anymore, just some walking impractical human embodiment of ChatGPT-2.
It’s like his search for optimisation has just led him to become such an unrealistic guy. Especially feel for his wife, he isn’t a man anymore, just some walking impractical human embodiment of ChatGPT-2.
I agree. I do think parenthood could be the slap in the face he needs to get back to reality. Though it will probably take him the first 5 years of the child’s life to adjust.
Wonder if his kid will obey its sleep schedule. I kinda hope that, for the sake of Ali’s personal development, the kid is a terrible sleeper. Life doesn’t always go to plan / isn’t always controllable. I dunno, I just get the feeling he’ll struggle to genuinely bond with his child.
Ali has always been all about the money, snake oil, and trying to be a slickster. I came cross him when he was a virtual nobody stalking Graham Stephan for clout. He sees other people have success with things and incorporates it into his persona. His entire being is whatever trend sells best at the time.
I can fully see Ali being a terrible father because he is more interested in productivity and hustle rather than being present for his wife and child.
Wild that they decided to have the baby in Hong Kong - do they have family support out there? I can imagine it being so isolating, expecting to go to a cool city and live your best life and instead being hit with a pregnancy.
Ali has shown real signs of regressing - hugely overwrought desk set up again, starting to look dishivelled and tired. So much clutter in the flat. Odd guy.
Wild that they decided to have the baby in Hong Kong - do they have family support out there? I can imagine it being so isolating, expecting to go to a cool city and live your best life and instead being hit with a pregnancy.
Ali has shown real signs of regressing - hugely overwrought desk set up again, starting to look dishivelled and tired. So much clutter in the flat. Odd guy.
wowww, grass is greener on the other side
money truly cant bring happiness
money truly cant bring happiness
Good god, I watched one of Izzy's videos (I think it was the pregnany one) and I found her so insufferable. She seems like an overthinker (both of them are) and looking for the 'perfect' philosophical answer to everything! can you imagine what their conversations are like? LOL. she was just overthinking everything and I would hate to be in her brain!
this is exactly what I felt with Izzy's video! it was just a WHOLE lot of navel gazing.
hey, you appeared on ali's last video at the 8:47 minute mark
he says reddit instead of tattle life but man... you're just showing that you read us lol
Tbh he is a clown for watching anime at 4x speed or even recommending people to do so.
I'm surprised he didn't just tell people to just read the synopsis on wikipedia instead of watching the anime.
I wouldn't be surprised if he started recommending some AI to produce an abridged form of all media that will fit in a 15-20 minute meal time
I'm surprised he didn't just tell people to just read the synopsis on wikipedia instead of watching the anime.
I wouldn't be surprised if he started recommending some AI to produce an abridged form of all media that will fit in a 15-20 minute meal time
That’s the second time he’s using my comment (from 2.5 years ago…) in a video
Does he have it saved? I promise you I’m not the only one who has critiqued thisI haven’t watched his videos in awhile because I’m not interested but I briefly checked what he said. He’s strawmanning the argument.
No one cares if you listen to audiobooks or podcasts or videos at higher speeds. I listen to podcasts at 1.5x speed and find a lot of educational content boring to watch at 1x speed. I graduated from my MD/PhD watching lectures and seminars at high speeds. That’s not the argument.
the critique on the anime video was because this man doesn’t allow himself to just enjoy watching art as a means to slow down - and then promotes that to everyone else. Everything has to be productive. If I recall that video correctly he said he would fast forward the whole anime but selectively chose parts he found less interesting to move through at ridiculously high speeds. At that point you are putting productivity into an artistic medium that wasn’t developed that way. You can do what you want, it’s fine, but Im sorry thats hustle culture.
Watch the beach episodes and enjoy the leisure. Give yourself time to laugh at jokes from a different culture that you might not have appreciated. Take in the scenery, identify objects in the background you might not be familiar with. Watch the slower scenes in a Miyazaki movie that don’t move the plot forward but are critical to the pacing - at the speed they were meant to be enjoyed at. We don’t need to be in a rush all the time or impose our lens of what’s important on everything because it keeps us from learning about the world.
I had a student who was a YouTuber who had a more refreshing, less hustle mindset so I know it can be done. The people in my field who let themselves enjoy life sometimes are the ones who have longevity while those like Ali burn out… and in the medical field they unfortunately shorten their lifespan from the pressure they put on themselves to be productive at all times. I lost a dear friend to a heart attack and he was young. Work induced stress and didn’t give himself time to enjoy life. I’m sorry if it comes across mean but your mindset impacts people if you’re an influencer so you need to contend with what you’re putting into the world.
I’ll get off my soapbox now.
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