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Misbehaving said:

I don't think it's the act of feeding as such or the kind of milk that provokes such a strong reaction I really think it's the immense pressure women are put under to breastfeed that is actually the problem? That in itself is probably off-putting?
No one should be shamed or made to feel guilty because they can't or won't breastfeed.
We all know breast is best but it doesn't work out for everyone?

I agree though that breastfeeding is a skill and used to be taught by elder family relatives i.e mother aunties grandmother etc etc
Now it can feel like you get a lecture from a overworked health visitor or struggle to get a nurses attention on a busy maternity ward ......hospitals are not very restful places noise bright lights short of staff and then if you have a baby that doesn't settle or cries a lot I can see how tempting it would be to turn to a bottle of formula? Plus I had to in the beginning because my baby's blood sugar was dangerously low?
Plus it has to be said that in this country we have many who have disordered eating patterns well that's passed down to babies and toddlers as well?
Knowing the stress of modern life frankly I blame no one when I had PND and no family or help I was glad to turn to formula because it gave me peace of mind?
That's another thing it's kind of related to confidence as well i was over protective I didn't have the courage to take the risk of breastfeeding (not having the knowledge or support to fall back on if I failed)?
So I don't think it's mother's shaming other mother's more than actually a lot of people lead isolated lives and you know because this is the unpopular opinions thread I will just spit it out....

The main reasons women Don't breastfeed....
The NHS give very little after care or support
The breakdown of the nuclear or extended family old people shoved into retirement homes.... grandparents are quite often divorced. ..
Stay at home mother's get vilified or slagged off probably because for some (misogynist's yes even female ones) it's not seen as a proper job!
Basically if your not earning money you're seen as a waste of space nevermind that carer's (including mother's) contribute so much in as I said unpaid labour!
Just look at how mother and child unfriendly the world is in general?
Mother's can't afford in a lot of cases to stay at home that's also a bad thing?
Childcare is ridiculously expensive. .
Things that are seen as traditionally female or feminine are low Paid without status and not really respected (and I include nurses the very fact that we feel the need to put them on a pedestal is to over compensate)?

So much talk of the excuse of mental health being used when I think it's the opposite I think it's under reported and lots just suffer in silence?

So that's another reason woman don't breastfeed in my opinion.... Depression ..
Also a younger generation of men that have grown up entitled (capitalism) with poor boundaries and behaviour (lack of positive role models) and desensitized to porn (objectification is the new normal)?
So what happens when they become dad's do they support their wives or partners? How do they react to a crying child? Do they know how to be helpful?

I am painting the bleakest picture and worse case scenario because unfortunately that's what a lot of people are dealing with?

So for some women poverty lack of resources lack of care and support lack of family lack of energy and then the resulting lack of confidence means that they are mentally and emotionally over taxed and then cannot or maybe understandably enough Don't want to go through the extra strain and challenge of nursing a child because they are already running on empty as it is and their cups do not runneth over!
I believe when life is too much of a struggle for survival or feels that way stress can inhibit the body's functions and that includes lactaction?

We talk a lot of bollocks about feminism and be kind no don't be fucking kind ( patronising) it's not kindness we need but to eradicate social inequality!

So many negative attitudes towards women towards the poor towards people on benefits towards the disabled towards the mentally ill no wonder so many struggle?
When you struggle for instance to feed yourself how are you going to feed your baby? If you've never been nurtured or loved or cared for how can you break that cycle?
When womens bodies are viewed only as sexual objects how can some women accept that they've been groomed and that they are programmed only to seek male approval? So being a mother will come second place (in some cases to an even bigger baby!)

Woman are socially conditioned to please others to an unhealthy degree for many having a baby reverts them back to being a child themselves?
So the blind lead the blind ....

Meanwhile in different cultures or in different social or economic brackets a few have what is exotically termed (exotic to me anyway) a normal life with loving parents and a degree of confidence and maybe their relationships are mutually supportive and beneficial?
They have the foundation maybe of stability to work through the blistering or bleeding nipples or feeding every 2 hours or not minding being sleep deprived?
Or having a supportive partner?
So much of life depends on or responds to our beliefs security safety and capability follow each other but so does chronic stress and feeling depleted or inadequate or not wanted or welcome?

Basically when a woman energy does not flow I think she'll find it difficult to lactate also lactation releases oxytocin the love chemical if you've never been loved maybe it's difficult to access that (natural) state?

Last but not least think of the hypocrisy of women being criticised when all the big companies who manufacture baby formula who actually created a niche and a demand for this product?
Why don't more people get up in arms about that?
When women are ruled they are divided sometimes when we feel like we have to fight for everything we fight each other . ..it's a pressure cooker sometimes and it's always that devil of the feeling of not having enough and not being enough that gets used and exploited!
Makes me fucking angry!

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Dot_Cotton said:

I think that hospitals still not allowing any visitors or patients to take a person with them for support are taking the piss at this point.

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