i don’t usually post in this thread, only lurk and i’m catching up so i don’t know where this will land sorry! i just wanted to point out that the bit about family dynamics in the report she posted doesn’t mean that her difficulties were CAUSED by any family situation. If you have a neurodivergent child they need to be parented differently and parenting is often extra difficult. Difficulties they have are not caused by you as parents, but the responsibility to manage the difficulties is on the parents (not because of limited resources in the NHS or whatever - only because it’s evidence based). ADHD is highly hereditable. If you have a child with ADHD then there’s a 70% chance you will also have it. The type of parenting that children with ADHD need is difficult for their parents, even more so if you’re a parent who struggles with the same executive function deficits (which you are most likely to). This is absolutely undisputed in research.
Medication is the first line treatment but whole family coaching or intervention is also a big thing - ‘family dynamics’ exacerbating the symptoms/features/difficulties DOES NOT mean that the child is the way they are because of a family situation, it means that a family’s natural response doesn’t support the child’s differences. This is the case for all families regardless of socioeconomic status.
Also as a small additional point, a girl being diagnosed with predominantly inattentive ADHD even in 2014 or whenever means her presentation must have been very clear. Even in 2021 I would say that’s the case. I absolutely would not be questioning her ADHD diagnosis and as I kinda highlighted before about hereditability there is a rationale for her being concerned about the twins.
I know I could just scroll on if I don’t agree but for the first time in these threads (apart from the car seat chat) I’ve felt like a line’s been crossed. She posted personal medical documentation online in response to people in here then everyone started slagging her for posting it.
Eagerly awaiting accusations of being Donna or Charlotte!
and eagerly awaiting just general snarking rather than victimising a girl who actually should be getting a lot of credit for being a stable, loving, influence in her girls’ life despite everything that’s been thrown at her (in terms of genetics, not even considering environmental factors!)