It's all making sense now. At last someone is advocating for that child.
Excuses she's not travelling for work, nothing stopping her working when he's with his Dad.
She's attempting to undermine the Fathers relationship with M, by taking him home if unwell, transferring him back and forth after one night even during the bad snow etc.
Any child would be unsettled from a 40 minute drive to school and a manic mink of a Mother having her head in the phone and dancing on the worktops every morning whilst ignoring a child's needs.
The frantic cleaning and tidying out, we've NEVER seen before. She's leaving that house and soon. No idea if willingly or by choice. I'm thinking the latter, but simply as she can no longer afford it. She's counted up how much she's spunked in rent.
The fake toilet training and speech videos was to show off to social services a few weeks back, likely damage limitation. Too little too late Vav. Maybe other parents have complained about Ms behaviour at school also if he's having outbursts and hitting.
I wouldn't be surprised if that most recent SS visit was unannounced.