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In a twist that absolutely no one saw coming, Noa hasn't got much interest in breastfeeding anymore due to a LOT of reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with Kate not feeding her three nights per week. No guys, this was all Noa's decision - she's ready to move on.

You'd think Siobhan would be supporting her with bonding with Noa. If Kate is ready to hear it and accept it, of course. Parenting looks different for all, but its clear she has struggled with Noa

littlepup said:

I don’t know, PND can have a lot of different symptoms but it can totally make her feel like she hasn’t any attachment or even dark thoughts toward Noa. It can make you do very strange things. Even want the baby to get poorly so they will be cared for elsewhere.

I think neglect is too strong - a night doula might not be everyone’s cup of tea but it is providing care in a round about way rather than leaving her alone to cry it out all night.

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There was a time, during my PND, that still makes my blood run cold. My eldest had run out of the play cafe we were in, I knew i hadnt checked on him as his Dad was there (i felt relieved i was off the hook from being 'mum' and catching up with friends). When he asked where our boy was, i was worried but i didnt react. I just sat there, anxious but detached. My son had run out towards a busy road and someone stopped him in time. It fucking breaks my heart now. But at the time, i remember how detached I was about it all. Its fucking awful what your mind can do. I have a lot of guilt about those early years, but hardly anyone knew. I havent actually discussed that incident with anyone because I feel so awful about it.

In case anyone is reading this thread and worrying about how they may be feeling about parenthood, concerned about lack of bonding, if you don’t seem to feel how you ‘should’ feel or think you may be suffering with PND, PANDAS is a great place to get some help and advice with zero judgement.

Did she not realise that doing a podcast about not wanting a baby, complaining about her baby for a year, refusing to be with her newborn in the night, documenting how much she HATED her new life, how many regrets she had, how she longed for her former life, storying about feeling sad/angry/regretful every single day and then writing a book about it all would alert people to her regret??! The headlines are simply repeating the content she's shared and written about. She's an idiot if she thought she'd get the psychophantic reactions she's used to getting from her arse licking followers.

elderflowerrose said:

I have to admit I put it off DS was 2 years 8 months. It’s a sort of bunk bed though, only slightly raised with a bookshelf under it and I don’t think he’s realised yet he can get out of it! But I do agree Noa’s cot was too small. I don’t think her going under the mattress was dangerous though but I might be missing something - I’ve actually just ordered it for DD!
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I have to admit I put it off DS was 2 years 8 months. It’s a sort of bunk bed though, only slightly raised with a bookshelf under it and I don’t think he’s realised yet he can get out of it! But I do agree Noa’s cot was too small. I don’t think her going under the mattress was dangerous though but I might be missing something - I’ve actually just ordered it for DD!
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Sorry dodgy signal!

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My daughter died from SIDS .. her being under the mattress is extremely dangerous.. if she fell asleep underneath she could suffocate.. children have also been known to get stuck between gaps and suffocate. I’ll forever keep on about safe sleeping as I wouldn’t wish what happened to me on anyone and my daughter was correctly positioned in her crib so just shows how dangerous it actually was for noa !

I just find it odd that of all the weekends Boj could have gone on his stag do it was the one with his father-in-laws big birthday celebration and Kates.

We were on a break said:

What does the sister do for a living?

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She’s a top model apparently

Seeing that beautiful baby call out mummy and left to self soothe is actually neglect..... I think Noa doesn't scream out or cry because she knows nobody is coming and it's actually heartbreaking they sleep with those fucking dogs but their actual.baby who has been poorly is left alone in a dark room to cry for her mum. I'm disgusted and she is a vile horrible woman who.shpuld never have been a mother. Surprised she hasn't given her away because she really hates her own child!!! Scumbags - her and that ugly slaphead husband..... wronguns I'm so angry and upset for that dear little girl.

Twistedpants said:

I really think Kate is in for a shock if she thinks the toddler stage is difficult pre teen, teen, etc etc its a wild ride

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Oh I'd quite happily go back to the toddler stage rather than have the 16 year old female hormonal teen this minute Don't even know why my dear daughter goes to school coz she knows it all apparently

I think I would genuinely have more sympathy and understanding to her situation with exhaustion if when the night nanny came they both went straight to sleep and you could see the relief as soon as their heads hit the pillows. That’s not what I see though.

I see a couple happier when away from their daughter, where they can resume their old childlike ways, chat non stop on Instagram stories, go golfing, go for trips out to Pilates, laughing away on their phones instead of cuddling their precious baby. Appearing to do anything but just be with their baby each night. If I saw a genuine desperate need to just sleep and rest when they had help that would be more understandable. However, it sadly does appear that they need it to have their breaks from her to be the old them.

The before and after pictures; we get it Kate you looked a hell of a lot happier before. The after pictures are the truly wonderful ones because little Noa is there. She is such a beautiful little thing It’s sad that there is such little warmth there; just shouty songs and shouty phrases

He’s using Noa to beg beg for likes to a shitty podcast he is doing about fucking womans underwear and nickers. The only nickers this absolute arsehole could get in is actually Kates’s because she is a C***

Noa is a commodity. Offering pictures for likes and clicks is called PIMPING. So much for him being an expert on marketing. Use your fucking ‘influencer’ wife. Not your baby! I’m fucking raging. Report him
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God, we’ve got a whole 4 days of her pretending to be 25 years old haven’t we? Funny how there’s over 20 women in this friendship group but not one of them was around when she was failing to embrace her new-found Motherhood and had to outsource to a stranger to care for her child so she could pretend she didn’t have a child sleep.

Just here for the party then girls?

I take it she isn’t expecting the four month sleep regression. Followed by teething. Siobhan, you’re re-hired.

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Kate Lawler #4 baby being a baby making me tired, homygosh no thanks, Night Nanny you’re re-hired!

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Quit work to be a full-time wife and Mum (AKA joining the world of Instafluencer Huns)

Someone needs to start a rave thread seriously. I don’t believe for one second these ravers have watched her as long as most of us. There was so much resentment of Noa in those first 6 months it was actually upsetting. The comparisons to her dogs. Getting in the doula overnight so they could piss about in bed for hours. Remember she’s only just started calling her Noa after a year and a half of calling her the potato. So many grim moments. Noa is a delight though and I agree that she’s well stimulated and cared for. But the maternal side def doesn’t and hasn’t come easy for Kate. Don’t get me started on Boj

It must be so exhausting to be around her. The constant performative bullshit. Shouting in your face, forcing you to play stupid games, the myriad of crap catchphrases she desperately tries to make a thing.

Mentally, she’s still in the Big Brother house, trying to prove she’s the coolest, funnest, geezer burd, ladette you ever did see. So tiresome. And so outdated. A bit like her wardrobe.

Give it a rest Kate. Grow up, chill out, and be a mother to your beautiful child.

Begborrowsteal said:

When I came through the haze of it all, I asked my mum wtf was she thinking and how did she cope maternal mental health shouldnt be shushed or hidden. It IS ok to feel shit and to say it. I do get on a soap box about this, sorry i dont like parenting via instagram like all these influencers do, but its a valid message imo

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Yeah this is a hill I’m willing to die on tbh I became a mum at 29 and hated near enough every minute of it and my god did I let people know. I overshared too much to friends and on social media probably but I was honestly shell shocked and woefully unprepared for a non-sleeping, bottle-refusing, dairy intolerant baby.

I remember returning to work and one of the girls asking me how much I enjoyed motherhood and I told her I liked my daughter more when I wasn’t around her. At the time I was full of PND but people just thought I was exaggerating how hard I was finding it - she looked at me like I’d just committed a murder.

I’d rather any parent talks about how difficult it is than bottle it up and does harm to themselves or their child.

A good tip for saving £2,400 per month is to raise your baby that you planned and wanted yourself.

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