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I am the wife that James and his followers took the piss out of during his live the other night, along with my husband.

I've created an account on here to write this because I don't think there'd be any point contacting JS about how I feel. He'd probably just twist it or publish it for everyone to take the piss out of again, anyway.

I recognised my best friend from some of her posts further up this thread. She said things that we've talked about together so I was sure it was her. She's confirmed it's her and thinks I should post too. So here I am!

A little history.
I've followed JS since his very early days, pre-JSA, when we would all get excited for him if he got over 100 people watching a live on FB.
I signed up to JSA on the very first day he launched it and have been a paying member ever since.
To this day, I still really like the content of the app and find the training videos really great.
The JSA FB group is awful and not an aspect I like.
I have learnt a lot about fitness and nutrition and thank him for that.

I am not one of the crazy followers of JS that is always desperate for him to notice me.
I have never, not once, emailed him, messaged him or tagged him on FB.
To me, JS is the head of a fitness brand that I can learn a lot from. He is not my friend and never will be and I find those that desperately seek his approval very strange indeed.

I rarely watch his live FB videos now as these are aimed at recruiting new members of JSA so are very repetitive and the questions dull. But occasionally I do. I have laughed along when he takes the piss out of Joe Wicks, diet clubs etc and never thought any real harm was done.

Until the other night.

Everything he said on that live video about my husband and I was an outright lie. He twisted everything for laughs and FB Likes.

A little about my husband.
He is big.
29 stone.
But he is also very tall. 6 and a half feet tall. So people never believe he weighs as much as he does. He carries it well. Neither of us deny he is fat. He just doesn't look 29 stone, that's all.
He spoke to his GP and has a referral to a 'fat fighters' help class. But COVID scuppered that for now so he agreed that he'd do it the JSA way for a little bit so see if he liked that method.

The whole point of JSA is centered around using the JSA calculator to work out your allowance and counting your calories. He always talks about not under eating and making sure you eat your calorie allowance as not eating them will cause you to binge.
The calorie calculator 'only' goes up to 180kgs.
Now. My husband and I know he weighs a lot. We do. We are in no denial of that. We know that the calorie allowance for 180kgs is a lot. But it's a big drop from the amount of calories he normally eats. And if he went from his usual amount to that amount overnight, he wouldn't sustain that. It sounds a lot of calories, yes. But that's be the equivalent of an average weight person being told to eat 1000 cals a day and no more. Not practical.
Also, there are lots of people that are a lot bigger than my husband who would benefit from JSA.
So -

*I did NOT email JS with a complaint.
On the app is a 'contact us' section.
Within that, you can send a message to the app team about various things.
One of these sections is 'suggestions and improvements to the app'.
THAT was where I sent a message. You know, because I had a suggestion on how the app could be improved!
All I messaged was that the calculator only goes up to 180kgs and could this be extended?
I said my husband wanted to join JSA but as he couldn't get an accurate calorie amount, there wouldn't be much point as that is the cornerstone of JSA. I said it's a shame as very big people are the ones who may need JSA the most but cannot access it as they cannot get an accurate calorie total.
That was it. Nothing more.

I NEVER said we didn't know his weight. Nothing even close to that.

I NEVER said he was fatphobic and prejudice against fat people.

I was NOT bitching. I made a suggestion to improve the app on the section of the app that is there specifically to encourage you to make those suggestions!

He mocked us on the live, saying it was me that contacted him and not my husband. Like my husband didn't really want it or he would have messaged himself.
BOLLOCKS.
It was me that messaged because I am the one who is the JSA member and you've got to be a JSA member to use the 'improvements and suggestions' form on the app! My husband couldn't have done that!

Comments calling me a 'Karen' or suggesting I was projecting my frustrations on to JS and making people around me miserable are bullshit. I'm not frustrated with my husband. I fell in love with him when he was big. I couldn't give a flying fuck how big he is. I love him and am proud to be his wife.

180kg is big. Very big.
I get that.
But if people think that's the upper end of 'functioning fat' people, they are very much mistaken. Not these days.
People way bigger than that go about life with no input from medical services (yet) and are embarking on weight loss journeys.
If JSA won't help them by adjusting the upper limit on a calorie calculator, more fool JS. He's missing out on a big corner of the market.

JS knew my husband's weight. That is all.
The way he described him on that live gave no context.
He and the watchers of that live we're making out like he was one of those super obese people from 'my 600lbs life' or something. Bed bound and close to death.
Hs 6 and a half foot tall, not 5 foot nothing. So he's not some huge guy with folds and folds of fat that can't leave the sofa.
He works 60+ hour weeks in a VERY physically demanding job (which he hasn't had a single sick day from in years, might I add). His main hobby is metal detecting where he walks miles at a time. He's more active than me, FFS!
But JS or the viewers who took the piss don't know any of that. Because the only information JS had was a few sentences from an app suggestion. Nothing more.

Like my friend further up this thread said, there are rugby players and other sportsmen who weigh close to that.
Greg Davis (comedian) talked about his height and weight in an interview a couple of years ago. My husband is the same height near enough as him and weighs just over 6 stone more than him at his heaviest. (just so you can visualise him).
Yes, he's huge. But not at deaths door like they made him sound like.

My husband is not aware of that FB live.
And I will never tell him. It would break him. Not because of the weight jokes, per se, as he knows he's fat and needs to lose weight. But because he has been made a joke out of on the internet.
I'm upset and VERY angry. And the person I'm meant to be able to talk to about these things can't help me. Because it's about him.

The app suggestion feature says they'll respond within 24 hours.
I have had no response.
If I hadn't happened to have seen that live, I'd have just have thought I'd been ignored. Or the app had glitches so resent it. And potentially been bullied on the internet for a second time.
JS has not messaged me directly with a response. If I'd not have seen that live, I'd never have known his thoughts on very overweight people joining JSA.

JS has made it clear that if you are over 180kgs, JSA will not help you.
Him and those viewers of the live have made it clear their true thoughts about people that size.
IF I'd have emailed JS directly and bitched and been a year, MAYBE I'd have accepted being made the feature of one of his emails or lives. MAYBE.
But that didn't happen. I didn't bother him with any of it.
I made a suggestion on the app. That's all.

JS twisted and spun a very short message in to a hateful and bullying video.
It's now made me doubt any of the other ones he's done talking about some awful email / DM he's received were true either.

Like my friend said upthread, he is a guy who goes on and on about men's mental health. But when it comes to gaining followers, he'll destroy one man's mental health for laughs.

JSA and JS has been a large part of my life for years. It worked perfectly for me.
Now, I'm so upset and angry about it all.
I feel like the loyalty and money I've given him have meant fuck all.

Not a single thing has been mentioned about that live in the FB group. There are some really overweight people in there. I don't understand why they aren't upset about it too.

I'm sure by me joining here and posting this, if JS sees it I'll be thrown out of JSA anyway. Or he'll twist it and make me another feature of a live or email.
I might not even leave it up here for long. I might change my mind and delete my account on here soon.
But I just wanted to post somewhere about how it has made me feel (for myself AND my husband).
Thanks to my bestie upthread who wrote some lovely things (without, yet, even knowing it was my husband she has been defending!). And thank you to every one else on here who has said that what JS did was wrong.

Shame on JS.
And shame in anyone who commented on that live in a derogatory way.

If he gets refused his visa, the next thread title should be called ‘visa fucking deficit’

Just because he gets to triggered by the use of pronouns, I think the new thread should be called:
James Smith (he/him)

i signed up to JSA and to do the challenge... you had to fill out a form which i did and i was actually really honest about how it was affecting me and in different situations... the next day on a live he used what i said i found difficult and spoke about it as though it was pathetic... he obv didn't say who i was but it was quite specific stuff and i realised then he does look down on people who are very big. this was about 18 months/2 years ago now. Last year I joined SW again & have lost 6 stone so far so sod him & his academy.

Back a few years ago..I was keen on signing up to the full mship he offered.Paid a few months of the limited mship...received a email about signing up for full mship.Replied..stupidly..that I was dealing with breast cancer treatment and would do so when I was at optimum health.He responded..( or whoever pays to reply)..basically with..whatever..excuses..when you are serious..youll join.Felt like a kick in the face...unfollowed him then.He is no advocate for women.

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James Smith 4: Wannabe Chess Master, relationship disaster, hair getting thinner faster and faster

SO SOME OF THEM ARE BACK I SEE... ...Apologies to all who catch this rant the wrong way... ...But James & Dirat who 100% read and are hurting after reading comments, this is for you:

1. I can match you both financially (even with mummy & daddy’s money), but you wouldn’t know it if you(when you) saw me because I am not flash, I grew up in poverty, I can survive if unfortunate circumstances return me there. I’m prepping for my future grandchildren/charity projects, not Gucci T-shirts normally worn by 21 year old girls from Claygate & Oxshott, not meant for balding, juiced up, 32 year old narcissistic coke heads.

2. I have done more sports than the pair of you, again, despite growing up in poverty. You both live in gyms, but you can’t fake toughness (or a ‘ghetto’ accent). Absolute liars and frauds, Diren is a frightened boy trapped in a man’s body, and James is the type of guy you expect to beat in all sports, esp combat sports. Semi pro rugby & football boys forgot that we have internet access, can spot all their loses & lies.

3. I’ve travelled to more counties than the pair of you plums. Seen amazing places outside Indonesia(Bali), Dubai, Turkey, Australia and Ibiza... ...you plums have been nowhere any random gap year student hasn’t been. At the age of 29/32, as spoilt brats, your travel list seems pretty basic & dull.

4. Unlike some people here, I was never a fan, would never buy your books or join your cult PT scams. I only noticed you when you disturbed the peace in two of my gyms... ...you were reasonably polite on the surface, your boyfriend Dirat is a nasty hateful rodent, he can’t even hide his bitter to core at being good at nothing persona. I feel for all your victims, glad they can vent here, as you suppress all free thoughts and opinions, like the fragile dictators that you are. But they can warn others here, Amazon reviews, and trust pilot for your garbage ‘academy’. Bring on the revolution! And never forget that it’s the ‘snowflake’ civilised society that stop guys like me & others spinning your jaw. There is no jealousy, the thought of having your lifestyles sends a shiver down my spine. Bed hoping with rough ‘bogans’ or waking up to see Felicity’s sandblasted verucca salts smirk, no thanks boys. If my kids end up anything like you & soft boy (Dirat). I will genuinely, hand on heart, feel I’ve failed them as a father...



To the good people on here having a rough time, believe in yourself, fight through the struggles, cherish your family (even the ones you don’t always get on with). Travel if you can, save if you can, buy a home if you can. On the fitness, hire a decent PT if you can, if you’re struggling, join a budget gym or find some decent free online content, loads on you tube. I’m not a life coach, but simple & rational advice from good people took me from poverty to comfort. Just don’t fall victim to:

ONLINE PT CULTS/FAKE LIFE COACHES

FX/JUICE PLUS TYPE PYRAMID SCHEMES

BJJ CULTS

BIKRAM YOGA CULTS

These people, like James Smith, lie lie and lie again, ruthless in their pursuit for money. Do your bit, warn, review and then enjoy watching Rome burn...

Recap/recycled content for new followers on the David Brent of Fitness.

If people can't see they are just chancers after a quick buck and not eDuCAtoRs then maybe more fool them. If reading JS's book has "transformed your life" maybe it's in such a state that you can't make it that much worse anyway. Maybe the answer is to live and interact in the real world rather than basing your view on things on Instagram.

Look at them for eye candy, if that's what floats your boat, but don't give them your cash. As well as funding their party lifestyle, it just encourages the constant mansplaining, masquerading as advice and support mainly for women. Not sure what's worse, if JS and Diren genuinely buy into their own BS social media world about somehow helping people, or if they realise they are the social media equivalent of door to door salesmen chasing a sale.

Tough Love

If you're on social media promoting products, even if they're your own, you're a social media influencer. Without being a social media influencer, you would never have been a No.1 bestseller. Own it.

Number of followers on social media does not equate to how many people you have helped. People follow for different reasons. Donald Trump didn't help or educate all the people who happened to follow him on twitter. Just because you have a lot of female followers doesn't mean you get a free pass for bullying women or constant mansplaining.

Calling people lazy when you take afternoon naps and spend most of the day playing video games is a bit rich.

If someone disagrees with you or offers a different opinion then base your response on what they have actually said. Don't extrapolate and make up things that the person hasn't actually said.

Arguments can be nuanced and not just black and white. I suppose this might seem hard when you're a professional keyboard warrior chasing the gratification of likes and shares. Maybe one day you'll grow up.

Working in Fitness First for a few years and being an online PT doesn't make you qualified to be a life coach, especially when you haven't experienced a lot of the challenges that life can bring. Also life coaching is more than just telling people to copy your lifestyle. If you're telling people to copy you then it looks like you're more interested in justifying yourself than helping others.

A decade is ten years. "Almost a decade" is just less than ten years. If you're confident and comfortable in your content, there is no need to make up/exaggerate numbers like hours worked.

Not being able to sustain a relationship longer than six months, suggests you maybe aren't qualified to give advice on relationships.

Needing a tache, big sunglasses and speedos to show that you have a fun personality, suggests you might want to work on your personality and how you're perceived. If you're wearing them because you think you look good, then fine, own it.

Just because you read something on the internet, learned a space fact or listened to a podcast doesn't make you an expert, even if you have a posh voice or are a little bit cleverer than your mate, Diren.

If you want people to believe that you don't care about criticism than simply ignore it. Talking about how much you don't care, makes it sound like you care.

If you're hearing hooves and thinking polo ponies, you're probably privileged. No need to apologise for it, but you should have a basic level of intelligence to recognise it.

Louiselb said:

I’m fuming at this, deeply saddened for you tbh, and I think someone should screen shot it and send it to James. Really.
Give him a chance to apologise. And make things right.

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Please nobody screenshot my post and send it to him / post it in JSA etc.

I know your heart would be in the right place but I don't want to be made the subject of more bullying or bitching.

He said what he said.

I've said what I wanted to say on here.

That's the end of it for me.

I've learnt a lesson.
And I've also learnt a lot from JS over the years so can help my husband with an alternative calculator off the internet, MFP and workouts myself.
James doesn't want to help me or my husband and he can't take back what he's said anyway. Damage is done.

We'll do it ourselves and save the cash my husband was going to invest in JSA!

PiesAndLattes said:

Wow haha imagine being his gf thanks!

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Can you imagine...

GF: What did you get up to while I was at work?

JS: Got up and had breakfast. Told internet what I'd had for breakfast. Told internet that eating less will help lose weight. Took photo of sea for the internet. Went in the sea. Came home and learned some facts off internet so I could have an argument on the internet about something I don't know much about. Then told internet that I didn't care what internet thought. Told it again. And again just to make sure. Later had a chat with a mate and recorded it for the internet. Told internet that the chat was amazing, because we like talked to each other about things. Played some video games and then had a nap.

GF: Isn't that the same as you did yesterday?

JS: Let man live. I'm an educator. I'm not bound by your normal repetitive work schedules or lifestyle. Any way I'm off to BJJ to get choked. I need to get a photo with my top off and will tell the internet how great I am.

TwentyTwentyWon said:

The daily email is just wow.

F*ck me.

I know it's the weekend, but I asked for one thing yesterday.

To watch 1x video for 7 minutes.

The click through was pretty pathetic if I am honest. I'm pretty pissed off about it

How many people in your are trying to make your life better?

How many?

I'm one of them! I just asked for one thing.

When you watch the video, your answer may be yes, it may be no.

But f*ck me, please respect my position enough to at least give me 7 minutes.

If not, if you won't give me that. Then just go

Do someone else's plan, wait for someone more convincing to come along.

PLEASE WATCH THE VIDEO I MADE TO LAY IT ALL OUT FOR YOU, you're either in or you're out... I'm fine with either.

I've spent 8 years being a PT to get you to this very point, if you can't do something as simple as clicking a link, then you'd be f*cked following my advice for 12 weeks, know what I mean?

If you can't do this for me, I probably can't do much for you if I'm honest.

Watch here >> www.youtube.com/jamessmithpt

James

p.s I do hate to sound like a moaning prick but it gets tiring trying to convince you it's time to make these thoughts become actual actions

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Calorie fucking DESPERATE! If anything the tone of this email would make me not click the link out of pure pettiness

Like some of you guys, I loved JS a few years ago. I was getting disillusioned with Joe Wicks and the other “buy my £150 plan” online PTs who seemed to be smug and a bit fat shamey in their approach, and I loved James’ no nonsense attitude and how he took into account things like female hormones and I found him so informative and watchable.

But success has ruined him. He’s just become one of the same old smug, fat shaming PTs. Also, a few of the “life coach” statements he has made recently have really rubbed me up the wrong way. In particular, he has said a few times something along the lines of (I’m paraphrasing) “don’t stay in your nice house with your wife and kids if they make you miserable and bored. Leave and be happy in a bedsit instead.” Maybe he was trying to say don’t stay in relationships that make you unhappy, which I totally agree with, but the wording was just clumsy and offensive. So every time something is hard or unenjoyable in your life, you should just fuck it off? And who is going to look after those boring and annoying children when their father fucks off to his bedsit to be a #lad, James?! Male privilege at its finest.

His attitude seems to be unless you are 100% happy all of the time, then just fuck it off. He is highly immature and has no place in offering advice on things like marriage, children, and actual grown up responsibilities as he doesn’t have a fucking clue what he’s talking about. He’s never had

Anyways, my kids are annoying me today so I’m gonnna fuck off to a bedsit. I’ll leave CBeebies on and give them some fruit shoots and wotsits, they’ll be fine

Well I have never done a recap before but as this man has the personality of a teaspoon it should not be too hard.

In the last thread:
James was still in Australia, doing his book tour and doing a one day course for PTs, to tell people how they should be doing things his way, and if they weren't he'd make them aware of how totally wrong they are.
James became rather obsessed with preferred pronouns, which is why we've added his to the thread title. Apparently you are a snowflake and an idiot if you put your pronouns in your bio, even though most people do it just to make others feel comfortable and to be more inclusive. But you've heard the man, we're all twats for doing so!! *angry rugby player noises*
James prepared to go back home to England, as he needs to be in England to get a permanent residence visa for Australia. He made it seem like he went back to England to see family. He doesn't seem to be too sure of Australia granting him the visa, so expect some boasting from him when and if he does.
He was an idiot to multiple of his clients, who only recommended certain changes to be made to his app/website/services. He took to publicly shaming people on multiple Facebook Live's, which only proves how much of a twat he is and how bad he is at communicating. He publicly degraded customers who have been loyal to him for a long time. What a sick little man. He has all the grace of a reversing dump truck without any tires on.
His bromance with Diren ended when Diren went home before him, but thankfully they're back reunited in England. They have been seen at different pubs, with very young girls. Such class acts these 30+ year olds.
He got his purple belt in BJJ, which took him about 4 years to get.
He has been seen with multiple women in Australia, but never on the gram and always on the down low. Let us say a prayer for these poor women who can obviously do much better in life, if only they saw what a troll the man is.
James left Australia and went home to the UK. He rents a flat in Richmond, which is one of the least exciting and whitest boroughs in London. He will feel right at home.
Since his return to England James has mainly been posing with his nephew to make his female followers' ovaries explode.

I forgot to add:
Lately James has been exploring new business tactics to grow his audience even further: answering Q&A's every day, and only picking out questions which he can answer aggressively or questions that he deems too stupid to even answer so he can block his customers/audience. I am very interested to see how this business tactic will play out. I almost feel sorry for his business partner Shaw. Shaw, if you are reading this, I highly recommend you look into alternative streams of revenue.

Mooordgirl said:

That gym manager loves a GDPR breach. I seriously hate when people dont have an ounce of discetion

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He doesn’t manage the gym they are going to now, so chill out Felicity. He’s a free citizen, and we are allowed to converse about what we want to. Hope you’re this passionate about online gym scams (DK/FR/JS), fake plagiarised life coach books (JS), laughing at Size 12+ women (FR), unsolicited scam emails (DK), casual & blatant racism/snobbery (DK/FR), casual drug (mushrooms. steroids & coke-JS/DK) use, lying about qualifications (degree-JS), lying about PT experience (JS & FR), abusing front line workers (DK), scamming for freebies (DK/FR/PO/JS), misogynistic & sexist behaviour (JS/PO/DK), lying about personal wealth and investments(JS), dangerous training of pre post natal women with no ground floor experience or qualifications (FR). Lying about sports achievements (PO/JS/DK), being rude to staff (PO/FR). If the answer is yes, then fair point about GDPR breaches not being a good thing.

Recap.

James is still an a**ehole. The end.

lidflipper said:

Anyone know much about Pippa? One of my mates sisters signed up to a course she is doing. Guessing this is aside to JSA?

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She's vile.

She's one of the ones that had James as an online PT when he charged £50 or so a week for an online group of clients.
She did the Joe Wicks plan before she found JS and stayed in the JW Facebook group and would share JS live videos and try recruit from in there.

She then became admin for the FB group of JSA. And felt like she ran the place because she paid JS money for his plan before most other people.
She thinks she's Queen Bee and has finally say on anything in the group.

She does awkward lives that hardly anyone watches where she (awkwardly) pouts a lot, flicks her hair and thinks everyone fancies her.

She was one of those in the early days that banged on about how she LOVED her life, had an amazing husband who was her best friend, blah blah blah. Then overnight, husband became a 'fuck no' so she walked out, quit her job to become a 'guru' of nutrition and that's all worked out so well for her that she's back living with her dad and desperate to convince everyone her life is just how she planned. Her 'best friend' of an ex-husband never gets a mention, that's how amazing a BF he was!

She's in multiple WhatsApp groups away from JSA FB group that slag off people on the FB regularly.
The first few challenges, if you weren't in her 'inner circle' you had fuck all chance of winning.

She called herself 'momma fox' for ages

She shags / or tries to shag anything that moves at meet ups, desperate to show she's still got it, despite being a menopausal middle aged woman who should know better.
She was active in getting the 'towel Tuesdays' or whatever the fuck it was called started and used to really push people to flash their arses, tits and anything else on the FB group.
She's desperate to show she's 'one of the lads' and again is very instrumental at the meetups with getting the females to drink too much and let the males touch them up whenever they want.

She's JSAs Ghislaine Maxwell and is responsible for several vulnerable women in that groups mental health to decline even further.

She's toxic.

The only spectrum he’s on is the Cunt spectrum

Mooordgirl said:

I think hes going to turn out like that absolute cringe fest Wayne Lineker. In his 50s thinking hes some sort of god and it could nt be further from the truth

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You have hit the nail on the head!!
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Future Wayne Lineker, bingeing on the liquor, hair not getting any thicker

MamaD said:

James hasn’t a clue who he really is so attacks everyone else. He’s hugely privileged (and not just because of the colour of his skin). Rich parents, good schools all open doors and get you a step ahead. When I was a similar age to him, I wanted to stay abroad for an extended time. I asked my parents that if I need to come home home, could they help financially. The answer was no (they had no spare cash). He went to Oz and knew that if it all went tits up, Daddy would come to his rescue. It’s real easy to brave on someone else’s dollar!

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I’m going to chime in here and explain how the world works. I should actually do it on the next JS post too, will copy paste this in my notes.

I live in South Africa. If you google it you’ll see pictures of Cape Town and beautiful game lodges etc etc, that tourism wants you to see. In reality, our unemployment rate is sitting at around 30%.
6% of our population pays 92% of our income tax.
The majority of People here don’t even have running water or proper toilet facilities, let alone the luxury of choosing what to eat. They eat what is available.

I am an INCREDIBLY privileged white woman who has the choice to eat what I want, live where I want to live and do what I want to do with my time. My body mass is a choice and if I lower it, it is because of my own actions and not because of my circumstances.

so my point is - JS - come and tell one of these little children here who haven’t bathed in months or eaten in days , who don’t go to school because their parents don’t send them or there are no facilities, that they just need to work a bit harder and if it isn’t a “fuck yeah” then it’s a no. That life is what you make of it and that none of us are born with anything more superior than any other.

I’ve really taken this to the extreme and have taken the worst case scenario approach to my example but I’m really sick to death of people making out as if they have all had a fairytale jump to success - there are so so so few “influencers” these days who are actually self made and those who are, are humble in their teachings and actually give back in a genuine and authentic way.
The JS version? Pay me £500 and I’ll teach you how not to fly coach (Tip:it involves a black credit card from JS Snr)

I’m new here, and this may have already been talked about, but…

I really think James’s whole ‘do-whatever-I-want’ attitude is completely incompatible with parenthood. My dad has the same attitude, and he walked out on my mum when I was 2. He didn’t like the relationship, the neighbourhood, the responsibility. Now he lives on a beach in Hawaii, and yep, he takes his ‘dips’ everyday, just as James does.

Fact is, when you have kids, you do have to do a LOT of stuff you don’t want to do. You have to change nappies, deal with tantrums, deal with adolescents who say they hate you. You have to go to boring school concerts, stand around in the freezing cold to watch kids attempt to play sport for an hour or so.

And that’s just if everything goes to plan! What if your kid has mental health struggles? Or gets a terminal illness? Etc.

James is just a man-child, and his ‘philosophy’ is selfish and unrealistic.

again, this has probably been said before, but I just needed to vent. He triggers a lot of personal angst for me.