Shoppaholicmum
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8 weeks ago I was diagnosed with cancer. What I didn't do was put it on Facebook or Instagram. I didn't want all the fake "U ok Hun?" nonsense.
Being an influencer makes them all a bit mentally unwell
Being an influencer makes them all a bit mentally unwell
AmaliaLana
VIP Member
I asked in the last thread, a whole day later no one had answered. I searched yesterday 26 pages for a thread title suggestion, and I was not keen to continue that search today, as I am tired. We needed a new thread and I promised already yesterday to do the new thread, which I delayed, because I couldn't find a suggestion in 26 pages (or I over read it).
Your comment makes me a bit angry, then a) Yes, I literally said, I couldn't find a suggestion and asked people and b) I didn't mean to pick any name, because, again, I asked you all. So, why do you wait until the new thread is created, to complain, instead of mentioning it when I asked? You can reach out to a mod, they can change the thread name, it's not a big problem that can't be fixed.
Here-For-The-Dresses
VIP Member
She needs a THERAPIST, not a life coach. I'm not bashing coaching, but I think if you are so despondent you are posting selfies crying because you "don't know what the F to do" you need deep work with a trained professional who understands the human mind and is educated in issues and treatments.
Geranium
VIP Member
Oh gosh, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with her legs! I think the poor girl starves and restricts herself to try to keep weight off her legs to the extent her top half is non existent, I am sure many people are the same in that they don’t have model perfect bodies . I don’t think anyone should be made to feel they need to cover up parts of their body.
BeccaBanana
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I wish influencers would stop trying to garner sympathy from followers about ‘how hard’ they work and how much ‘they deserve’ a holiday. Even if she’s burnt out and knackered, the lifestyle they CHOOSE to portray is luxury. Luxury clothes, luxury jewellery, luxury events, luxury travel - the things mere mortals dream about or experience once in a lifetime. Suddenly switching from ‘I’m so lucky, I’m so happy, don’t you all want to be like me’ to ‘I’m so burnt out, this job is costing me my marriage’ doesn’t wash when 95% of your audience work could only dream of the opportunities you get. It’s tone deaf and insulting.
You know what, yes, you may be burned out and the job may be waaaaay harder than it looks but have some self awareness about what’s happening in the world! To the outside world people may look at me, my life, my earnings, what I provide for my kids etc and it’s their dream. In reality I’m working contract to contract and constantly worrying about having to provide for my family but I know others may look and me and think I have everything people wish for - just like I look at people like Vic and think ‘shut up whining and appreciate what you have’.
The difference seems to be that other people have self awareness and understand that others have it so much worse. I would never moan about my life to friends who really do have stresses and things to worry about. It doesn’t stop me worrying about my own situation- I just am aware I would look a twat with my first world problems compared to real problems. Why can’t Vic and the likes see this too?
Even with the best intentions, posting about how burnt out you are and how everyone should take time out - while on a luxury, paid for sponsored trip to the Maldives, first class - is just sooooooo tone deaf!!!!
You know what, yes, you may be burned out and the job may be waaaaay harder than it looks but have some self awareness about what’s happening in the world! To the outside world people may look at me, my life, my earnings, what I provide for my kids etc and it’s their dream. In reality I’m working contract to contract and constantly worrying about having to provide for my family but I know others may look and me and think I have everything people wish for - just like I look at people like Vic and think ‘shut up whining and appreciate what you have’.
The difference seems to be that other people have self awareness and understand that others have it so much worse. I would never moan about my life to friends who really do have stresses and things to worry about. It doesn’t stop me worrying about my own situation- I just am aware I would look a twat with my first world problems compared to real problems. Why can’t Vic and the likes see this too?
Even with the best intentions, posting about how burnt out you are and how everyone should take time out - while on a luxury, paid for sponsored trip to the Maldives, first class - is just sooooooo tone deaf!!!!
jaymie
VIP Member
ffs this woman needs to shut up. If it is a misunderstanding, you need to talk it out with your partners. Why apologise when it is not even your fault.
Fuck off. People need to stop taking advice from her. These are the red flags for divorce. Their relationship is so fucking one sided
grannypinks
Active member
Hopefully the life coach/therapist will tell her that taking photos of yourself crying and then posting them on social media is NOT the way forward
Littlemisadoughnut
VIP Member
As much as I dislike Vic, I can see that this is a lose lose for influencers. If they do speak up, it gets called performative. If they don’t they are called ignorant.
In reality, could Vic’s voice add anything worthwhile to the discussion?
In reality, could Vic’s voice add anything worthwhile to the discussion?
beautyblogger123
VIP Member
The way she thinks shoehorning as many branded products into one outfit = fashun kills me.
I was always taught that if you were going to wear anything branded/easily identifiable you could only have one at a time. Then in walks Vic looking like the returns desk at Selfridges.
thelittleone0909
Member
Guys I don’t want to turn this political but I’m so infuriated by this message she posted. She’s literally washing her hands clean by saying “not my monkey not my circus” and it’s repulsive. What a vile human being. I suppose she was an expert on BLM when she posted about that? NOPE but it was popular and came with no repurcussions for her to speak up about it - so she did. So bloody selfish and self driven it makes me sick. Children are dying and because it might jeopardise her PR image she’d rather not use her voice to speak about it because she’s “not an expert”. Good God.
I posted this comment on her last, vapid post but she’ll likely delete it. Duh.
“I just think your last story about not speaking up on the genocide and human rights catastrophe that’s happening is so hypocritical because “you’re not an expert” - you’re not an expect on American politics or BAME and BLM minority politics either but when it was popular or expected you jumped on the band wagon to talk about it. But God forbid you should post about this atrocity and ruin some of your relationships within the PR and Media world which is highly controlled by people of Israeli heritage (I won’t say Jewish because this is nothing to do with Judaism as Jews do not represent the Zionist agenda currently causing this genocide). You won’t speak up because you don’t want to offend people and communities who benefit you here in the U.K., not because “you don’t know enough” - this isn’t an attack. It’s not a rude message. You’re entitled to do what you do or don’t want to do. But I am speaking up against it being dressed up as some bambi-esque excuse rather than it being you washing your hands clean of the moral conscience we all should have to speak up against this, even if it means we lose some relationships or contacts or popularity. It wasn’t popular to speak up during the Holocaust either; but some heroes still did because it was an atrocity and a genocide and the right thing to do. Peace
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I was reading through this thread & it's my first time ever reading this forum so please excuse me if I'm not following any common rules that I'm not aware of!! But I wanted to share that Alex was using an app called Plenty of Fish a few years ago when he wasn't with Vic and we met on the app and he told me he HATED Vic then and said so much stuff about how toxic/tiring/difficult it was to be with her. We eventually fell out and stopped talking / following each other on Instagram but I was surprised to see a few years later that they started dating again & got married LOL.
KittiesTiddies
Member
In today's vlog she says, and I quote word-per-word:
"Today I have actually managed to encourage Alex to let me have one little treat.. We're going to McDonalds for drive-through." (laughs nervously, turns around to look for him)
What the actual f*** is going on in their relationship? This is some bizzare shit.
"Today I have actually managed to encourage Alex to let me have one little treat.. We're going to McDonalds for drive-through." (laughs nervously, turns around to look for him)
What the actual f*** is going on in their relationship? This is some bizzare shit.
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So as soon as you’re over 30 you have to cover all flesh as you’re past it? I’m sick of the whole Vic/bra on show thing too but saying you’re mutton dressed as lamb at the age of 30 is crazy
