I wonder if her parents are ashamed of her exploits? She’s done well but I wonder if there was a grain of truth in what happened in the series with her parents (trying to be the centre of attention at a suburban event and being so look at me an ex alcoholic falls off the wagon, getting with random friends, bringing class As (from the series bribing seniors with pills seems to be how she gets what she wants (know the series isn’t gospel truth)!
She’s very quiet about her parents which I think is a bit odd? She obviously owes a lot to them and in the TV series they are characterised as being endlessly loving and supportive. I’m surprised a self scribed exhibitionist like Dolly, who puts a lot of her life into the public arena, is so quiet about her parents. Maybe they do disapprove?
I wonder if the irony of Dolly’s character screaming at her lovely supportive parents that they “loved her too much” and then her mother the next day saying “we didn’t raise a spoiled brat” bypassed the writing team or if it was intentional. Because… they most definitely did raise a spoiled brat.
it felt like Maggie/Dolly’s mother was saying we didn’t raise you to be a spoiled brat in relation to her behaviour with their alcoholic neighbour, and Dolly/Maggie apologies for getting drunk and doing that, and that’s the end of it. It doesn’t seem to be a big wake up moment for her in relation to other behaviours
her attitude overall is very spoiled and entitled and I think the show doesn’t quite .. delve into that. It very much just treats it as if it’s part of her quirkiness. She’s so self centred and selfish and her only real likeable moments was when she was being vulnerable on the phone to Birdy.
when she let the random guys into the flat and they steal laptops…Nell is annoyed because shes lost her laptop for work. But I’d have been devastated. My photos from years back are backed up on my laptop. I have personal communications and security info, all of which could be very easily accessed. It would feel like a huge violation. Not to mention the safety risk of letting strangers into their home just so she can chase a high is deeply selfish and spoiled.
they don’t really seem to call her out on it though. She says she’ll replace the laptop and that seems to be the end of it. I don’t blame birdy one bit for wanting to get out of that mess, but it’s painted out as though Birdy is obsessed with her new boyfriend and that’s the reason for the distance.
the most relatable moment for me was when Amara was saying Dolly didn’t “get it” and that she got her job eating pizza on the sofa. Because Maggie/Dolly doesn’t get it. She doesn’t really get anything outside of her limited scope of experience, which is why her writing is so poor - she has zero real empathy. Amara didn’t want Dolly to apologise, she just wanted her “to see”. Which is what irks me so much about Dolly and her writing set. She
knows girls like Amara exist, she knows working class girls like me exist. She knows she benefits from her privilege and family wealth and support. But she refuses to open her eyes and
see, never mind actually
do something about it. Imagine how powerful it would be if Dolly showcased talent that wasn’t middle class and white? If she highlighted that the publishing world is actually not diverse enough? If she took a step back and let someone else be the star of the show. If she let an Amara be the star instead of a Maggie.
I’m not black, but a lot of my experiences are similar to Amaras - I was told I “wasn’t the right fit” for a job and it was clearly because I was too working class. I spent 10 years working for my breakthrough in my career that my middle class peers got straight out of uni - which is similar to the dance instructor telling Amara she can dance professionally, but it’ll be hard. When Dolly, in her little bubble of delusion, dismissed Amara’s experience with online dating as a “bad batch” the look on Amaras face perfectly encapsulates SO MANY times I’ve felt fed up at my experiences of not being understood. That feeling of being a part of a social group but always being a little bit on the periphery because they are all blind to anyone else’s experiences but their own. I don’t have the experience of being fetishised in the same way as Amara, but I’ve definitely been spoken to badly by men when they realised I was from a working class background. Or they’ve seen me as a bit of “fun” before they go on to meet the middle class girl who is “wife material”. I’ve been dumped by men when they realised I didn’t have the right credentials in terms of family background. One ex explicitly told me he didn’t see a future with me because of who my father was (working class), whereas his was high up in academia.
Amara was exponentially the more interesting, powerful, intelligent and relatable character, and I’d bet the character wasn’t created by Dolly. Whoever was responsible for the creation of Amara in the writing room is probably a lot more talented than Dolly. Even though her experiences were of being a black woman in dating and carving out a career, those feelings of exclusion, of trying to fit into a world that isn’t created for you - is so relatable to so many people. There are tons of spoiled rich white girls on TV, I wish they’d made the series focus more on Amaras experiences. But we never heard from the Amaras because media is dominated by the dolly’s of the world.