This is a cross post from something I’ve talked about on here before but watching what poor little Noah has been subjected to recently has made it relevant again. On the subject of SS involvement with Noah - there is so many children (I was once one of them) that are being failed because they’re not deemed ‘neglected/abused’ enough for intervention. I have been this child, I’m a 29 year old woman now and I’m still having therapy. There are so many different forms of abuse and neglect, as a child I was always dressed ok and fed relatively ok, I did get smacked but I wasn’t beaten by my mum - but she did drag me from pub to pub, new man to new man. Party to party. I had to watch her destroy herself along with which ever man was around at the time. I was the one who had to pick up the pieces. Call an ambulance when I got home from school and found her half dead from another suicide attempt.
Charlotte reminds me of my mum - I’m not suggesting she doesn’t love Noah, I know my mum loved me too. But that is the absolute bare minimum of what she should be doing as a mum. Her and Matt’s needs come first and Noah just gets taken along for the ride, it’s actually quite painful to watch. That boy deserves so much better. There’s 1 million people watching this child be neglected and it blows my mind how this can even happen.
Charlotte I know you read here - take it from me, a woman of 29 with three kids of her own who still has panic attacks and PTSD. If you do not change your behaviour now, you WILL traumatise your child and cause massive amounts of damage that will seep into every aspect of his life as he tries to navigate himself into a functioning adult.
Fake over the top parties, clothes and holidays will never ever be enough, sort yourself out before it’s too late. Fyi - myself and my four siblings have absolutely zero contact with my mum now and that will never change, is that something you can live with?
say what we do it’s more classy than what chava is showing in the Maldives we go to authentic tapas (yes it exists in Benidorm!) we spend endless days at the beach digging holes mainly and walk miles with lots of pit stops (beer and milkshake stops!) Benidorm for 2adults 2kids all inclusive one week feb £1500 she’s cocked up big time they even have kids club and little rooms near the evening entertainment they can go to and have face paint and do play doh etc Benidorm gets a bad rep but I’m actually a decent human and love it if you seek out crap you’ll find it otherwise it’s like most Spanish / infiltrated English resorts.
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