As an adult she can make the decision to share any information she wants about herself, but she has no right to do that about anyone else without their knowledge or consent. It's not about shame, it's about privacy.Do you think autism is a shameful secret that should be kept quiet or something?
You should meet my 12yo who doesn’t care who knows she’s autistic, and who understands herself so well and is learning to advocate for herself at school every day. It’s because she understands that autism, for her, is neither a terrible thing nor a superpower. It’s just who she is.
The sooner we start viewing autism in a neutral way and not this hush-hush, private, still deeply stigmatised thing the better.