I was going to post on another “parenting based” site for advice and realised how batshit they are. That being said I’m not just looking for people to agree with me so please be honest.
I’ve had a male friend through work for the last 10 years. We worked in the same team and hit it off and used to go for lunch together. He’s married and for the sake of transparency I thought he was good looking but there’s never been an emotional affair. We always kept pretty good boundaries - no flirting, no talking about relationship problems, no texting etc. These were unspoken, it was purely platonic.
We’re no longer working in the same location but same company so for the last 3 years I’ve seen him a lot less but we IM in work and have lunch once every few months. About 3 months ago he told me his marriage had broken down. It was a total surprise to me- I always thought they were good, but he said there was no big drama, they’re amicable just had grown apart over several years and were successfuly co-parenting.
Anyway we’ve been texting a bit since- again purely platonic, but a few days ago he asked me on a date. I was stunned tbh. I think he’s attractive but in no way have been pining for him or thinking this might happen at some point. I’d like to give it a bash but do you think people will assume this has been a decade long affair? Will his STBX think that? I’m a bit worried about the fall out and although it won’t impact me work wise, people will no doubt gossip in his office as that’s where I used to work.
I’ve had a male friend through work for the last 10 years. We worked in the same team and hit it off and used to go for lunch together. He’s married and for the sake of transparency I thought he was good looking but there’s never been an emotional affair. We always kept pretty good boundaries - no flirting, no talking about relationship problems, no texting etc. These were unspoken, it was purely platonic.
We’re no longer working in the same location but same company so for the last 3 years I’ve seen him a lot less but we IM in work and have lunch once every few months. About 3 months ago he told me his marriage had broken down. It was a total surprise to me- I always thought they were good, but he said there was no big drama, they’re amicable just had grown apart over several years and were successfuly co-parenting.
Anyway we’ve been texting a bit since- again purely platonic, but a few days ago he asked me on a date. I was stunned tbh. I think he’s attractive but in no way have been pining for him or thinking this might happen at some point. I’d like to give it a bash but do you think people will assume this has been a decade long affair? Will his STBX think that? I’m a bit worried about the fall out and although it won’t impact me work wise, people will no doubt gossip in his office as that’s where I used to work.