Why is your ex an ex?

[Lalla]

Where to start...
- Completely unsupportive. Complained about having to take 2 days off work when I gave birth to our child (1 day to take me to hospital, next day to bring me home)
- Told me I was a useless mother as the floor was not always spotless and occasionally childrens toys were left out. Also said I was disgusting, fat and ugly regularly.
-Threw things at me, smashed up my possessions, shoved, hit and threatened me with violence/ taking the children away from me.
-Spent 40k of my money.

My only regret is I spent 8 years with him, I wanted to leave for 7 of those. On the plus side, I now have a lovely home, 2 fantastic grown up children (who have virtually nothing to do with him, their choice), and a great (and supportive) partner

 

[Clementine]

Cheating with customers (he’s a plumber), sex workers & women he met on dating apps
Coercive abuse
Body shaming
Narcissist
All in all just a massive wanker. I look back now and wonder what the hell I was thinking.

He’s the father of my daughter and even though he’s 500 miles away it’s still a bloody nightmare. He once told me she’d be better off if I killed myself...

 

[Kandy floss]

Stopped me seeing friends
Kicked off if I spoke to anyone male, including in work to cover shifts when he was demanding I see him
Called me a slut if I wore a dress
Went through my fb friends/insta followers and demanded I unfollowed certain men
Went through my phone
Raped me
Hit me

 

[Platypusfattypus]

Because he was a complete twat. Together for 5 years in total. On the night my dad was dying he went out with his mates and turned up at our house pissed, where he then fell asleep and snored all night. Then told me I was hysterical because I wasn't over my dads death a few months down the line. Used to call me a slag when he was pissed every Sunday. Smashed all the doors in because I annoyed him. Then when I eventually plucked up the courage to dump his sorry ass he said he'd only move out of I slept with him one last time. I really wanted him to go so I did and really regretted it. I dumped him because I fucked someone else (not sorry) and realised I wasn't going to need him on my life as I would find someone else (he eroded my confidence). He then called me 2 weeks later and asked if he could move back in as I'd had my fun. When I said no he threatened constantly not to pay his half of the mortgage, not to pay the bills he was responsible for etc. Told me I was getting fat (I was a size 10). But I met another guy who was 13 years younger then him, sold our house and made a £10000 profit (he made a loss) and went travelling like this

 

[Ladymuckx]

I pushed him away after my mum died Nearly seven years later and I’ve never been able to entertain the idea of being with anyone else.

 

[If you say so...]

A looong time ago I was with someone who told me early on they had kinks. I (naively) thought I was open minded and could get on board with anything. A few months later it turned out that he had a huge foot fetish and wanted me to mock his small penis. I’m not keen on feet, especially my ugly sweaty feet being deep throated when I get home at the end of a long shift. The strangest thing was that he didn’t have a small penis at all! I’m sure I got athletes foot after the deep throating episode too. Needless to say - It didn’t last too long after that.

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

He turned out to be a pervert and potentially more. We split up after 4 years when he was 19 and I was 18 because I found 100s of messages to other women on his iPad, plus he had been on dating sites and making fake accounts to speak to underage girls.
After we split up he began stalking my adult half sister who lived alone with her son, he made a fake account and told her he knew where she lived and that he wanted naked photos otherwise he would break in...I knew it was him because I recognised his writing (he was dyslexic) and I threatened to go to the police if he didn’t confess it was him, so he confessed.
He has done this to so many other girls since, even describing what they are wearing to prove he is watching and he has even told them what times they catch the bus ect. I know all this because twice now he has been outed on Facebook by the girls he is stalking, very scary and I fear he will only progress, he’s 26 now.

 

[yournumberonefan1]

Emotionally abusive
Heroin & the rest addict
mummy issues

his only perk was the size of his dick.

 

[ChloChlo]

I have only mentioned my last ex boyfriend of 2 and a half years.

I was with a lad before him on and off for a few years but he was the other end of the scale. He was best friend material and we totally ruined it by taking any further. He is so nicey nice and would go to the end of the earth for absolutely anybody he knows. He was also a rattling alcoholic and that was also his downfall. I cheated on him because I knew I would get away with it and did on several occasions. I felt too comfortable with him. I left him, not long after, had a one night stand and had got pregnant, he was back on the scene rubbing my back, buying me my random cravings and offering to raise the baby as his, I shamelessly took full advantage of it. The pregnancy did not progress and I just did not want him. I really wish I kept him as just a friend. He paid so much attention to detail when it came to me, knowing and still knowing all my likes and dislikes. The best I can describe him is as a very early days Alfie Moon.

I was married twice before these and

Ex husband 1 - We were very young and very possibly just showing off and playing at being adults when we decided to get married. We were both still finding ourselves. Our interests both changed, we grew apart and into different people.

Ex husband no 2: He was also abusive but x2000000 than many can comprehend. He was a much older, charming man. An East End Villian. He was a very dangerous man. He stabbed me in my arm, split my lip in two, held me over a quarry in the Kent Marshland where he also tortured me in front of our children. He abused me in every way possible from performing humiliating sexual acts and using me as a Guinea pig to try drugs to punching me like a man and making sure I never had any money of my own. I had two of my kids and two suitcases and went 250 miles into a refuge to get away from him and restart our lives from scratch.

 

[Chipstiz]

I'll start -
- had no inclination to ever parent, clean or cook but somehow managed to find fault with the way I did it
- bit of a sex pest (including the day after I had just given birth )
- increasing right wing views

Tell me yours! I'm nosey x

 

[BigQueenEnergy]

Far out, this makes me never want to be with a man again.

I’ve been single for 3 years and my life has been so peaceful!

Men have only ever caused me stress and pain. I’ve been cheated on by every man I’ve been with. I don’t really want to date again because being single is pure bliss.

 

[Missgobby124]

My boyfriend isn’t actually my ex but it feels like it’s going that way. Today he went missing for a few hours and my intuition knew something was up. He said he went to a random place and did something dodgy that he couldn’t talk about on the train. I wanted to obviously know, naturally I’m very curious anyway, anyway he just went quiet and wasn’t answering me, his excuse wa that he was tired and needed time alone. He still hasn’t told me what happened and why he’s acting so weird about it. He’s just gone sleep without even replying to me. I feel really hurt by him tbh.

 

[Causewaygal]

Ex 1 - violent psychopath. Broke my ribs on my 21st.
Lazy and spoilt. has never had a job and he will be 51 now
Stole money from my family and I had to hide my purse every evening or he would take my money I’d saved for food.
burgled our house for the insurance twice!
killed my kitten

ex 2 - kind thoughtful generous.
hard working .. he won an Oscar !
Love of my life
I’m bipolar and I left him during a manic period ... I am an idiot !!!
I married his friend and he still forgave me

 

[Londoncailín]

Mine was a complete narcissist and Tory a**ehole, who could barely wipe his own arse.

Next!!!!!!

 

[Mulholland Drive]

A complete and utter tart
Crap in bed
Wouldn't know an intelligent conversation if it smacked her in the face
Sesame Street was probably her most challenging TV programme
Was more in love with her phone and social media than me,
had one of those accents with a rising inflection, which made every statement more a question.

 

[BigQueenEnergy]

Welcome to my world, happily single, however it does have it's drawbacks, loneliness will kick in now and then.

Yeah, true. But I’d rather be lonely than be in a bad relationship. I was actually much lonelier when I was in a relationship!

I feel like a lot of people stay in relationships because they’re scared to be alone when there is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone! It’s actually quite wonderful. I am free.

Fill your life with great friends and hobbies and you won’t even notice you don’t have a partner because your life is already full.

 

[265]

Yeah, true. But I’d rather be lonely than be in a bad relationship. I was actually much lonelier when I was in a relationship!

I feel like a lot of people stay in relationships because they’re scared to be alone when there is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone! It’s actually quite wonderful. I am free.

Fill your life with great friends and hobbies and you won’t even notice you don’t have a partner because your life is already full.

I'm more than single, no friends either, but I live for nostalgic TV and I have my computers so my life is quite full with no interfering
buggers. It's a great life but there are some things I do miss.

 

[ClockworkDolly]

My ex would constantly accuse me of cheating on him and would follow me, stalk me, spy on me, scream at me in the car when I was doing the driving, so much so he has totally ruined my confidence now with driving. I used to absolutely love driving and would drive anywhere and loved motorways, but now I can barely drive down the road without feeling anxious.

He used to say to me, “if you are lying and you get found out I hope you die of cancer.” He had no qualms about coming out with these nasty statements.

He also used to call me by his ex-wife’s name, something he did time and again. His answer when I told him not to do it, “you’re a grown woman, it shouldn‘t bother you, you should be able to handle it.”

He really was the most rancid piece of shit I have ever had the misfortune to meet.

 

[ChloChlo]

My ex hit me. He was so controlling. He would read my messages. I should have ended things when he confronted me because I told my best friend "I am falling in love but he has a wotsit knob" a few weeks into our relationship. It felt so invasive. He was ridiculous and would look through my messages to find things to hurt himself. For example getting jealous over lads I was talking to years before I met him. He did have an unusually small penis. A chode, if you will. So I suppose he had security issues and in a way pandered down to them because of it. I shouldn't have though he would accuse me of cheating on him all the time or eyeing up lads walking down the street. His mum was spiteful and excused her sons actions alot of the time. I could only get rid of him when he went to jail, when I ended the relationship he cut up all my clothes on the washing line and jumped out of a pile of a sheets in my wash house with a knife. His mother who I unfortunately also worked with hounded me every day on his behalf and saw absolutely no wrong in what he did.

Ironically my current partner who I have a baby with, used to sleep with his mum when he was a teenager. Apparently she was a bit of a cougar that did the rounds back in the day.

 

[DoctorWho]

Let him move in when he was skint so he could find full time work. Never paid me a penny for living in my house. Then smashed my house up when I broke up with him and posted intimate pictures of me all over social media. Rat.