What have you done today? #3

[aimzalicious]

@ClockworkDolly I am so excited for you to get to my favourite series of LOD (the third one)
@watermelon sugar it broke my heart to read how sad you are today. You're not failing as a parent at all, it's not your fault your son grew up in the pandemic, try not to blame yourself! I have no clue about babies but I've heard that all babies develop at a different rate and he will definitely begin talking when he's ready

I am back to my usual self after yesterday's rage-filled day! I spent most of the day working for once, instead of getting distracted on my phone My best mate and I had a nice catch-up this morning. We also had a rant about that friend I'm meeting up with on Friday, who is a mutual friend of ours. Turns out he's doing everyone's head in, so I don't feel like a fool for not wanting to meet up I caught up on the Blossoms Pubcast as well.

I went to Aldi and Tesco to do my big shop during my lunch. I picked up a cinnamon bun to watch with Celeb Bake Off tonight For lunch, I finished off my spaghetti aglio e olio and had a smoothie afterward. I'm weirdly not that hungry today, maybe all those custard creams I ate yesterday are still digesting lol

I continued beavering away with work until I had my first counseling session at 4pm. I was really nervous about it because I didn't feel like I "deserved" the session as I'm no longer depressed/anxious (not compared to last year anyway), but I decided not to cancel as it's always beneficial to speak to someone about any problems. My counselor was so nice and she said I seemed really positive, excited and that I had a "zest for life"! She also said she could tell that I've done a lot of my own research and reading and that I am very self-aware about therapy stuff. It made me feel pretty chuffed that I spent a lot of my 2020 reading tons of online resources to improve my mental health, so I'm glad it's paid off.

After that, I watched Pointless, washed my hair and made a pea and paneer curry to have with naan bread and mango chutney Had a little smile to myself as someone is making something rum and raisin flavoured on Celeb Bake Off

 

[Tit4Tattle]

He had his 12 month check when he was 9.5 months and the hv didn't seem concerned then. He has been really advanced crawling and walking wise but I said about the babbling and she said to let her know if he's still quiet when hes 12 months. Then the last week he's been a bit more louder and chattier so I was gonna hold off and wait and see. Then I noticed the arm flapping but I dont know if I'm just being super paranoid about it, he sort of does it when hes excited but then not when he's excited too. I dunno if I'm being paranoid! He doesnt do it a lot. Aaaahhhhh
I think I just worry a lot cos I'm the one who's with him the most and no one else sees him? Like i dont have any of my family or my boyfriends family seeing him so they don't see what he's like to relay back to me if it's normal? And my bf works a lot so he doesnt see what he's like all day. I worry a lot can you tell
I just hate the way he's grew up in lockdown and missed out so much. I'd hate if it affected his development. I try so hard with him but I dont feel like im enough for him I feel like im failing him as a parent. I've just started crying typing this i need to go to sleep

Ahh chick please don’t feel like you’re failing him you sound like a fantastic mummy and just by saying you’re worried and upset about it demonstrates it. I know it’s hard but try not to Google things and definitely phone the HV you shouldn’t have had the 12 month check earlier as there’s loads on that checklist they would struggle to do even at 12 months. My son had his last august (he was 1 in the april) and I flagged up I was concerned about his speech (all he would say was mamma and then babbled a bit) and they basically said they wouldn’t do speech therapy or even show much concern unless he was a lot older. My little boy is now nearly 2 and still not a massive talker but is getting there one day he will just start talking and you will think bleeding hell just give me 2 mins peace. Here if you need a chat though I’m at home with a 3 and nearly 2 year old....my day is full of paw patrol/hey duggee/baby shark and freezing my bits off in the park!

 

[bolimepipi]

@watermelon sugar i'm so glad you're feeling better

@aimzalicious nice to ''see'' you back in a good mood!! your posts are always like a little ray of sunshine to me

@under the ivy argh i don't even know your ex and he's annoying me! what did he want now?

 

[under the ivy]

@watermelon sugar i'm so glad you're feeling better

@aimzalicious nice to ''see'' you back in a good mood!! your posts are always like a little ray of sunshine to me

@under the ivy argh i don't even know your ex and he's annoying me! what did he want now?

Literally just wrote 'hope you're ok'

I'm all the better for not being with an emotionally unavailable Mummy's boy thanks

Seriously though, I'm sick of hearing from my ex. It's not verging on stalker territory but what goes through someone's mind to break-up with someone cruelly then keep being in touch? I don't get it. It doesn't help that my depression isn't good and I put a brave face on but honestly, I've had really dark thoughts the past few nights about not being here. I feel stupid typing that out. I'm glad I'm at my Mums tbh.

Sorry for writing that out, I just needed to get it out. I'm going to watch something to take my mind off things. Thanks everyone on this thread - it really gives me a purpose to motivate myself through the day so I can share it all with you x

 

[aimzalicious]

Literally just wrote 'hope you're ok'

I'm all the better for not being with an emotionally unavailable Mummy's boy thanks

Seriously though, I'm sick of hearing from my ex. It's not verging on stalker territory but what goes through someone's mind to break-up with someone cruelly then keep being in touch? I don't get it. It doesn't help that my depression isn't good and I put a brave face on but honestly, I've had really dark thoughts the past few nights about not being here. I feel stupid typing that out. I'm glad I'm at my Mums tbh.

Sorry for writing that out, I just needed to get it out. I'm going to watch something to take my mind off things. Thanks everyone on this thread - it really gives me a purpose to motivate myself through the day so I can share it all with you x

Please know that even though we don't know each other in real life, you are important and we need you here on this planet I'm so sorry to hear you've had dark thoughts and I'm really glad you're in a safe space at your mum's. I wonder why your ex keeps pestering you after all this time? As you say, it seems unnecessarily cruel to continue to pop up in your life where he is not wanted.

I've been reading your posts for ages (since the Strictly threads back when you were Yorkshire Fox!) and you seem like such a nice person who doesn't deserve this pain. I've noticed that you've really bettering yourself with your Ph.D., your workouts, and saving for a house since your split from your ex, whereas he sounds pathetic and stuck in his ways.

Also don't apologise for writing it out! Please continue to post as much as possible so we know you're okay. Sending massive hugs.

 

[lemonlime]

He had his 12 month check when he was 9.5 months and the hv didn't seem concerned then. He has been really advanced crawling and walking wise but I said about the babbling and she said to let her know if he's still quiet when hes 12 months. Then the last week he's been a bit more louder and chattier so I was gonna hold off and wait and see. Then I noticed the arm flapping but I dont know if I'm just being super paranoid about it, he sort of does it when hes excited but then not when he's excited too. I dunno if I'm being paranoid! He doesnt do it a lot. Aaaahhhhh
I think I just worry a lot cos I'm the one who's with him the most and no one else sees him? Like i dont have any of my family or my boyfriends family seeing him so they don't see what he's like to relay back to me if it's normal? And my bf works a lot so he doesnt see what he's like all day. I worry a lot can you tell
I just hate the way he's grew up in lockdown and missed out so much. I'd hate if it affected his development. I try so hard with him but I dont feel like im enough for him I feel like im failing him as a parent. I've just started crying typing this i need to go to sleep

You're a great mama You've done nothing to feel guilty about, your son adores you and loves you very much. If you have concerns speak to a doctor but also to hell with Dr. Google, it may give correct information but but that information might not be correct for you. At this age I still get scolded by my doctors for reading the thing that comes up first and giving myself anxiety cries until my appointments lol. Try not to worry yourself sick, he'll make up for the missed stuff when the time comes. He's well taken care of, you're doing great

@under the ivy I'm glad you're still here

 

[watermelon sugar]

Literally just wrote 'hope you're ok'

I'm all the better for not being with an emotionally unavailable Mummy's boy thanks

Seriously though, I'm sick of hearing from my ex. It's not verging on stalker territory but what goes through someone's mind to break-up with someone cruelly then keep being in touch? I don't get it. It doesn't help that my depression isn't good and I put a brave face on but honestly, I've had really dark thoughts the past few nights about not being here. I feel stupid typing that out. I'm glad I'm at my Mums tbh.

Sorry for writing that out, I just needed to get it out. I'm going to watch something to take my mind off things. Thanks everyone on this thread - it really gives me a purpose to motivate myself through the day so I can share it all with you x

I'm sorry you've been feeling that way babe. Those kind of feelings are the worst. Just know that whenever I see your blonde little avatar I smile and your posts make me laugh that feeling will pass eventually and until it does, keep your head high and remember you have us all to vent to! duck your ex, he sounds like a manipulative little head

 

[prinnygrace]

Literally just wrote 'hope you're ok'

I'm all the better for not being with an emotionally unavailable Mummy's boy thanks

Seriously though, I'm sick of hearing from my ex. It's not verging on stalker territory but what goes through someone's mind to break-up with someone cruelly then keep being in touch? I don't get it. It doesn't help that my depression isn't good and I put a brave face on but honestly, I've had really dark thoughts the past few nights about not being here. I feel stupid typing that out. I'm glad I'm at my Mums tbh.

Sorry for writing that out, I just needed to get it out. I'm going to watch something to take my mind off things. Thanks everyone on this thread - it really gives me a purpose to motivate myself through the day so I can share it all with you x

My ex sounds just like this. He resorted to LinkedIn after email too It’s so awful to go through. Sending you lots of love

 

[Nolongerjustalurker]

Literally just wrote 'hope you're ok'

I'm all the better for not being with an emotionally unavailable Mummy's boy thanks

Seriously though, I'm sick of hearing from my ex. It's not verging on stalker territory but what goes through someone's mind to break-up with someone cruelly then keep being in touch? I don't get it.

This happened to me with my ex, I’m sure it’s a control thing - as soon as he felt I was pulling away and becoming strong on my own again/moving on, he’d contact me to try and bring me back down and under his control again. I just blocked him on everything, it was the only way. I don’t know the full circumstances of your relationship but just know you are not alone!

 

[calmyourritas]

Sending you so much love @under the ivy you are much loved here xxx

 

[jarv]

Echoing others - we love you @under the ivy

I hope your ex leaves you alone so you can continue to move on and do all the brilliant things you want to in life! The world is your oyster.

 

[OutrageouslyScarlet]

Literally just wrote 'hope you're ok'

I'm all the better for not being with an emotionally unavailable Mummy's boy thanks

Seriously though, I'm sick of hearing from my ex. It's not verging on stalker territory but what goes through someone's mind to break-up with someone cruelly then keep being in touch? I don't get it. It doesn't help that my depression isn't good and I put a brave face on but honestly, I've had really dark thoughts the past few nights about not being here. I feel stupid typing that out. I'm glad I'm at my Mums tbh.

Sorry for writing that out, I just needed to get it out. I'm going to watch something to take my mind off things. Thanks everyone on this thread - it really gives me a purpose to motivate myself through the day so I can share it all with you x

I wish we could talk as so much is similar with how we are both feeling. Do you have a good gp? Mine has put me forward to the crisis team today. No idea what the entails properly. Fck ex boyfriends and same goes for depression

 

[Renegadedancer]

@under the ivy , I hope today brings a better day for you. The ex doesn’t deserve any head space from you, easier said than done I know. Sending cyber hugs

 

[AnderbeauJohnson]

Hope people are feeling a little bit better today, don't ever be sorry about typing out that you're feeling down, it's far better to let feelings like those out than keep them bouncing round in your head.

 

[petitspois]

I had a night off tattle and missed loads!
@watermelon sugar you're a great Mum and your son is doing brilliantly. The amount of things I’ve used Google to diagnose with my kids over the years is unreal.
@under the ivy what a bell end- hope he slopes off.

 

[Meangirl815]

I have nothing exciting to report.

Today will be spent shopping /lazing around. SIL is decorating our bedroom tomorrow so I'm having the day at her house dog and rabbit sitting. I'm strangely very excited for the change of scenery

Kids loving school

My mood not 100% so just trying to keep my head above water

Sending love to you all

 

[Pinkblush]

Oh no @watermelonsugar, you sound like a brilliant mum. Lockdown is beyond your control. My first kid didn't walk until 14 months and didn't talk until well over three. With my first I was living in a small quiet town near darwin with husband working away a lot. I kept overthinking his development because I had nothing else to do. No parks, one small supermarket. Just me and the kid which made them really clingy and unsociable towards others because they just had me for most of the time.
When I moved back home and put them in infant school it was two weeks of screaming, they simply couldn't handle so many people but , as if by magic, they soon adapt. I've got a right energetic belter now and I can't shut the bugger up for love or money.

Edit - well I've got three now but the other two were born here and had an elder to look up and more people around them. You wouldn't know that the eldest didn't have all that.
I don't even know if I'm making sense but try not to worry too much

 

[WilmaHun]

@under the ivy so sorry to hear about your head ex. As others have said, you're well loved here. I hope today is better for you

You're a fab Mum by the sounds of it @watermelon sugar - your boy is lucky to have you.

I've woken up feeling much better today, thank goodness!
Hope you all have a wonderful day x

 

[prinnygrace]

Ugh. Come into the office today and someone has done a breakfast run, seemingly just for her favourite colleagues. I’m on a diet so probably for the best but very rude to only ask a few people if they want something when there is only a handful of us in anyway. She very much grated on me I’ll sit with my fruit whilst you all enjoy your fresh breakfast rolls 🥱🥱🥱

 

[jarv]

I'd buy everyone here a breakfast roll if I could - how fab would it be if we all worked together (no work would be done lol). Don't let the guys get you down @prinnygrace

Hope @under the ivy and @watermelon sugar are both feeling a wee bit better today

Usual routine today, up and off to work, just chillin now with a brew as there's once again naff all occurring. Got a couple of meetings at some point today but they're light touch and one is really just coffee and chat meeting, hoping it will be nice and not awkward as some of them have been previously. Might just sit there and let people natter because what have I got to say? I could tell them about the MD drama I suppose

Mr Jarv is cooking tonight, chicken and roasted veg tray bake with some quinoa and sriracha, healthy af. Got some telly to catch up but we should have some time just us two tonight, we've both been busy last couple of evenings.

Hope everyone has a good day, I'm looking forward to reading what everyone has been doing!