Definitely right to be annoyed. It's such a weak reason, it could piss it down on that day and there'd be no BBQ (if there even is one at all). I'd try your best to get someone else to go with you and forever put her in the 'flaky friend' category. Gigs are expensive, not something that can just be dropped a week before by people.A friend of mine messaged me today..we are going to a gig next weekend. We bought the tickets months ago. A friend of hers from home (i'm a uni friend) is now planning a bbq for the evening of the gig. She has asked me to find to ask any other friend to go to the gig and she will give them her ticket as she hasnt seen this friend from home in a while. I should say my friend lives in her home village and the gig is in our uni city 30 mins away.
I'm pissed off as I feel like a weeks notice to someone for a gig and asking someone else now makes it obvious that they are just a backup option. Plus she is prioritising a bloody bbq over a gig. She went to great lengths to say she wont leave me down and if I can't find someone else she will go. As if she is doing me a favour.
I also have a lot going on at the moment which she is well aware of and the last thing I want to be doing is contacting friends to find a replacement gig buddy for the night. Am I right to be annoyed?