bolimepipi
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just smoked my last cigarette and threw the rest of them away 
- Notice
NAIVENELLIE
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Tattlers Transformation 
at-the-disco
Chatty Member
i posted about how i quit my job due to my mental health earlier in the thread and well yesterday i had a job interview for the nhs and they said ive been successful and offered me the job!! SO excited for a fresh start and doing something new. unfortunately this meant i celebrated last night with 5 cans of beer and an indian takeaway. 
but im feeling more motivated today. im going to eat loads of veg and go on a long walk! happy friday everyone x
but im feeling more motivated today. im going to eat loads of veg and go on a long walk! happy friday everyone x
judgejohndeed
VIP Member
Calorie counting is SO much better than SW, WW etc I can't even tell you. I was literally saying to my partner this morning it's been so easy for me to lose weight on calories that I regret the years I spent on and off SW/WW never reaching my target.
SW I find doesn't teach you anything about portion control and isn't realistic long term unless you're prepared to always get a jacket potato when you're out and about. It used to stress me going anywhere in case there wasn't anything I could have. Plus restricting the type of food made me binge wildly. It's also very easy to overeat on 'healthy' foods, I've sometimes eaten 2k cals on an SW day which isn't a deficit for me so I wouldn't lose weight.
WW is so little food. I added it up to around 1000 calories. And I get they're trying to push you towards eating protein as it's more filling but demonising chocolate etc is stupid. I didn't cut it out, I just ate it anyway and went over my points.
Also really hate the once a week 'weigh day' thing. I do have a 'weigh day' on calories but I tend to check my weight on a Wednesday and a Saturday. So many factors affect your weight on any given day - what you ate the night before (salty food bloat etc) if you've been to the loo, if you've slept a decent amount, if you're on your period. As long as the overall trend is heading downwards, there's really no point getting hung up on any individual weight of one day. You could drop 2 lbs the next day if it's bloat, but if you've been to SW and feel crap that you've maintained or gained you might just go home and say 'sod it' get a take away and then never get that loss anyway.
In a similar vein - I used to hate on SW/WW the whole weekly points or syns thing. Because if you do go over, what do you do all week? On calories, I know what my target is for a loss and what my maintenance is if I'm feeling hungry (then I try not to go over that). If I go wildly over, I just get up the next day and carry on. None of this 'Oh I can't have any syns or weeklies all week now'. It's so much easier.
It also really really helps on calories that all food is basically equal. You could eat 200 cals of banana or 200 of chocolate, ultimately you will lose weight regardless of what you eat as long as you count it. I find this a much healthier mindset and I find myself barely ever thinking about food anymore unlike SW where I used to sit all day thinking about my next meal. I really believe 'hunger' isn't just about if your stomach is full but also mental satiety. If you're eating stuff you don't like much all the time, you're going to be thinking about food all the time. I'm sure lots of people will know the feeling of wanting a pizza or something, but trying not to get it so you sit nibbling at other bits in the kitchen all night instead when you could've just had a couple of slices and felt satisfied mentally.
Sorry this ended up being a huge essay
I'm just so pro calorie counting compared to SW/WW, which are based on cal counting anyway - they're basically cal counting for dummies. And they're also businesses, by taking the calorie counting out of it they're taking away your control which means you're always reliant on them. Myfitnesspal is free, does the same thing, seems a lot healthier mentally. Eat what you like, just less of it. I feel like I will actually hit my target this time - currently 20lbs down, 11 to go!
Libertine1975
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I'm going to do a weekly weigh in (generally this will be on a Saturday morning but might vary depending what I am doing each week).
Today I weighed 22 stone 10. I've not weighed myself in a long time and I've not actually eaten too badly over Christmas and been on some family walks so I've probably already lost a few pounds.
I am also going to measure myself as I know that can be a good measure of loss too.
I'm hoping to do some form of exercise everyday as well as working on my eating habits. I know my problem is the evenings when I am home alone and I don't make the right choices and over indulge.
I think my first goal will be to get to under 22 stone by January (even if I'm 21stone 13!).
Wish me luck - I really need it.
Today I weighed 22 stone 10. I've not weighed myself in a long time and I've not actually eaten too badly over Christmas and been on some family walks so I've probably already lost a few pounds.
I am also going to measure myself as I know that can be a good measure of loss too.
I'm hoping to do some form of exercise everyday as well as working on my eating habits. I know my problem is the evenings when I am home alone and I don't make the right choices and over indulge.
I think my first goal will be to get to under 22 stone by January (even if I'm 21stone 13!).
Wish me luck - I really need it.
MarthaFarkus
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Good morning. It’s the first ‘official’ weigh day for me and I’ve lost 3lbs, really happy with that as I didn’t deny myself things but didn’t go full on pig fest with it like I would normally. Cutting portion sizes has helped too I think plus the ridiculous amount of water I’m drinking. The second weigh day is always the hardest for me so I’m going to be slightly stricter this week (not too much) and see how I get on. I hope everyone is doing ok.
prinnygrace
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I find weighing myself very triggering and get fixated on numbers so I prefer to go by how I feel and how my clothes fit! I’m currently wearing the biggest I ever have and would love to get back to sitting at a 12 on top and 14 at bottom (big hip problems!!). Gives me 1-2 clothes sizes to drop.
I need new breakfast ideas that isn’t sugary cereal or toast!! Cutting down on snacks should be easier (although I have so much Christmas chocolate.. will just have to very slowly pace myself through it). I got the pinch of nom cookbook for Christmas so looking forward to trying a few things from that.
I might try using the ribbon technique so I can see progress faster rather than waiting to drop clothes size. Measure areas with a ribbon (waist, thigh, stomach etc) and cut the ribbon to that size. As you loose the ribbon will become looser around those areas. You can see the inches coming away without putting numbers to it.
I need new breakfast ideas that isn’t sugary cereal or toast!! Cutting down on snacks should be easier (although I have so much Christmas chocolate.. will just have to very slowly pace myself through it). I got the pinch of nom cookbook for Christmas so looking forward to trying a few things from that.
I might try using the ribbon technique so I can see progress faster rather than waiting to drop clothes size. Measure areas with a ribbon (waist, thigh, stomach etc) and cut the ribbon to that size. As you loose the ribbon will become looser around those areas. You can see the inches coming away without putting numbers to it.
AnderbeauJohnson
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I've made my first goal of 1/4 stone! Weighed in this morning as -4lbs overall, though I know that some of that is obviously water weight.
Goal #2 is 5lbs total so that's only 1lb to go. Feeling re-motivated now.
Goal #2 is 5lbs total so that's only 1lb to go. Feeling re-motivated now.
RoseBush23
Well-known member
Weighed myself this morning- 7.5lb loss!! Very happy!
Sailorontheseasea
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I just need to document here that I just weighed out 34g/187 cals of malteasers from a big box. Who am I ? Who have I become ? Is this what life is now ?
It's been an awful year for so many. Let's enjoy Christmas and the New Year then focus on all the positive changes we plan to make.
This year has been unprecedented. So much sorrow and misery on so many levels. We have all come through difficult times. Enjoy the Quality Street and let's make 2021 the year for US. I feel more now than ever that I need to get healthy. Physically and emotionally. Enjoy these previous few days with loved ones and here's to a better New Year for all.
This year has been unprecedented. So much sorrow and misery on so many levels. We have all come through difficult times. Enjoy the Quality Street and let's make 2021 the year for US. I feel more now than ever that I need to get healthy. Physically and emotionally. Enjoy these previous few days with loved ones and here's to a better New Year for all.
AnderbeauJohnson
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I'm in - starting on the 1st.
I was a runt growing up. No matter how much I ate, I didn't gain weight. That all changed when I turned 13 and went straight from underweight to obese in just two months after I discovered comfort eating. Now I'm 34 and have remained obese ever since. I weighed myself the other day and I'm now my heaviest ever - 15st 5 at 5'0". According to the NHS that counts as Class III Morbid Obesity (yikes) with a BMI of 42. My knees crackle going up/down stairs and my asthma is now both severe and poorly controlled (I've had it since before I was 1 year old so it isn't caused by my weight but the weight can't be helping matters.) Something's got to give and I refuse to give up and keep gaining like this.
I've tried so many diets over the years - calorie counting, high fat, high carb, Team RH, macro counting, plant based, GI, SW, WW and so many more. My biggest issue is that I suffer from OCD. It is normally pretty controlled and only background noise nowadays but when you're on a diet, you have to count and weigh and measure everything and you have to be somewhat obessive to make it work. This always ends up spiraling and reigniting previous obsessions/compulsions and it takes a huge toll on my mental health. I'll lose some weight (my lowest adult weight was 12st 7) but eventually I collapse from mental fatigue and eat nothing but junk food while I dig myself out of the pit. I'm totally safe in this thread btw, other people counting and talking about numbers doesn't trigger me at all.
So, I've decided to take a different approach in 2021. I'm going to try and make food a source of fun in my life for the first time ever rather than a source of shame. I've spent my annual leave going through my recipe books and I've created a spreadsheet with 'recipe title / book title / equipment / ingredients' and my NYR is to cook as many as possible and the spreadsheet should help me with meal plan/prep. I'm going to try and eat larger portions of healthier food at lunch/dinner so that I don't snack on high-calorie stuff throughout the day and I'm going to try and reduce or quit caffine so that I get better sleep which reduces hunger hormones. I have dug out my MR Soup Maker (highly recommend) and I'm currently planning on vegetable soups with a bit of bread for lunch M-F.
Exercise wise I've convinced some other people at work to enter a 'get the most steps' challenge for January and I've created some playlists, got some audiobooks and found some new podcasts to get me up and moving. I've also recently started City Strides which uses my strava data to count what percentage of the streets in my city I've walked. I have Ringfit Adventure and a kettlebell so I'll possibly sprinkle a couple of workouts in per week but for January I want to focus on easing myself into a routine rather than going full force and risk burning out.
I don't really have a goal weight. I've never been a healthy weight as an adult so I don't know what I would look like. According to the NHS a healthy BMI for my height is between 6st 10 and 9st 1 so I've probably got a good 7 or 8 stone to lose. I plan to track my weight of a morning with the Libra app and, if I have a downward trend, keep doing what I'm doing but if I get an upward trend for a few days then reduce portion sizes a bit until it becomes a downward trend again.
I've rambled on a lot but I'm looking forward to this thread. I liked the social aspect and accountability of SW/WW groups but some of the talk there was a bit too intense - you don't need to add quark to everything and you're not a bad person because you had two slices of bread instead of one. Plus it is so hit and miss with consultants, I remember visiting a group once where the consultant told an overweight but not obese man that he'd gained a pound that week and she wanted him to lose a minimum of eight pounds next week to make up for it. She was a proper Marjorie Dawes type.
I was a runt growing up. No matter how much I ate, I didn't gain weight. That all changed when I turned 13 and went straight from underweight to obese in just two months after I discovered comfort eating. Now I'm 34 and have remained obese ever since. I weighed myself the other day and I'm now my heaviest ever - 15st 5 at 5'0". According to the NHS that counts as Class III Morbid Obesity (yikes) with a BMI of 42. My knees crackle going up/down stairs and my asthma is now both severe and poorly controlled (I've had it since before I was 1 year old so it isn't caused by my weight but the weight can't be helping matters.) Something's got to give and I refuse to give up and keep gaining like this.
I've tried so many diets over the years - calorie counting, high fat, high carb, Team RH, macro counting, plant based, GI, SW, WW and so many more. My biggest issue is that I suffer from OCD. It is normally pretty controlled and only background noise nowadays but when you're on a diet, you have to count and weigh and measure everything and you have to be somewhat obessive to make it work. This always ends up spiraling and reigniting previous obsessions/compulsions and it takes a huge toll on my mental health. I'll lose some weight (my lowest adult weight was 12st 7) but eventually I collapse from mental fatigue and eat nothing but junk food while I dig myself out of the pit. I'm totally safe in this thread btw, other people counting and talking about numbers doesn't trigger me at all.
So, I've decided to take a different approach in 2021. I'm going to try and make food a source of fun in my life for the first time ever rather than a source of shame. I've spent my annual leave going through my recipe books and I've created a spreadsheet with 'recipe title / book title / equipment / ingredients' and my NYR is to cook as many as possible and the spreadsheet should help me with meal plan/prep. I'm going to try and eat larger portions of healthier food at lunch/dinner so that I don't snack on high-calorie stuff throughout the day and I'm going to try and reduce or quit caffine so that I get better sleep which reduces hunger hormones. I have dug out my MR Soup Maker (highly recommend) and I'm currently planning on vegetable soups with a bit of bread for lunch M-F.
Exercise wise I've convinced some other people at work to enter a 'get the most steps' challenge for January and I've created some playlists, got some audiobooks and found some new podcasts to get me up and moving. I've also recently started City Strides which uses my strava data to count what percentage of the streets in my city I've walked. I have Ringfit Adventure and a kettlebell so I'll possibly sprinkle a couple of workouts in per week but for January I want to focus on easing myself into a routine rather than going full force and risk burning out.
I don't really have a goal weight. I've never been a healthy weight as an adult so I don't know what I would look like. According to the NHS a healthy BMI for my height is between 6st 10 and 9st 1 so I've probably got a good 7 or 8 stone to lose. I plan to track my weight of a morning with the Libra app and, if I have a downward trend, keep doing what I'm doing but if I get an upward trend for a few days then reduce portion sizes a bit until it becomes a downward trend again.
I've rambled on a lot but I'm looking forward to this thread. I liked the social aspect and accountability of SW/WW groups but some of the talk there was a bit too intense - you don't need to add quark to everything and you're not a bad person because you had two slices of bread instead of one. Plus it is so hit and miss with consultants, I remember visiting a group once where the consultant told an overweight but not obese man that he'd gained a pound that week and she wanted him to lose a minimum of eight pounds next week to make up for it. She was a proper Marjorie Dawes type.
fluffyglitterbug
VIP Member
Right my fellow healthy people - I'm off for day 1 of Couch to 5k.
It's very likely I won't make it back so it was lovely knowing you
It's very likely I won't make it back so it was lovely knowing you
Brian Butterfield
VIP Member
Morning all, thank you so much for all your kind words and encouragement yesterday. I actually ended up in bed all day (still here actually).
I can’t remember if I mentioned it but I have ulcerative colitis, which is an autoimmune/inflammatory bowel disease. I’m feeling so sick, wiped out and weak at the moment so I can’t really do anything other than rest and feel sorry for myself.
V frustrating when I just want to be exercising but on the plus side, I didn’t overeat yesterday as I felt so nauseous.
I’ve lost 5 pounds in two weeks so I guess I should be happy with that even if it’s not as much as I would like.
Hope everyone has a lovely weekend Xx
I can’t remember if I mentioned it but I have ulcerative colitis, which is an autoimmune/inflammatory bowel disease. I’m feeling so sick, wiped out and weak at the moment so I can’t really do anything other than rest and feel sorry for myself.
V frustrating when I just want to be exercising but on the plus side, I didn’t overeat yesterday as I felt so nauseous.
I’ve lost 5 pounds in two weeks so I guess I should be happy with that even if it’s not as much as I would like.
Hope everyone has a lovely weekend Xx
JLXRD
VIP Member
I feel so motivated today, I think my motivation this time is that when this lockdown ends/summer comes around I wanna be able to have the absolute time of my life and not have to worry about how my body looks.
Really hope I can keep this mindset and reach my goals, I know I’m only in week one but throughout the last year I’ve only managed a day or 2 before I just gave up so this is the most dedicated I’ve felt since I dieted for my wedding!
Gotta try and stay in this headspace
Really hope I can keep this mindset and reach my goals, I know I’m only in week one but throughout the last year I’ve only managed a day or 2 before I just gave up so this is the most dedicated I’ve felt since I dieted for my wedding!
Gotta try and stay in this headspace
BongoBingo
Member
Can I join please? I’ve got 5 stone to loose 
. I’m only 5 foot and used to be 9 stone even after my kids ...I’m 14 stone now. I lost 2 stone towards the end of last year but put all back on since covid.
I am so sick of hating myself and being miserable but even worse than that it’s making me a shit Mum. My kids were always healthy and normal weight ...actually my son would have been quite skinny with a really good appetite! I don’t know when it started happening ...originally I thought it was a natural filling out as he got older, he is 8, but in the last year he has put on a lot of weight. I hadn’t thought anything of it but a few weeks ago he was really upset and refusing to go to school because the trousers (that we had already added elastic to) wouldn’t close. He was embarrassed and so upset telling me none of his clothes fit him. I was absolutely heartbroken, not because he put on weight but because of how he was feeling. Growing up with a mother who was very looks and weight concious I always swore I would never let my kids feel that way no matter what size they were. We’ve always been careful about not making food or weight an issue for them. We’ve had to buy plus fit school trousers for him which have helped with the embarrassment at school but The last few weeks he has started making more and more comments about the size of his belly. He is just a normal boy with a bit of a belly it’s nothing major but he seems so conscious of it. For instance he loves dancing and is bloody brilliant at it, he often makes videos with his sister etc. When we were having Christmas Dinner my Mam was telling him how much she loves watching him and how good he is and he he told her didn’t think he was good because he didn’t look good in his videos because of his belly. Yesterday he didn’t like his coat cause it gave him a big belly. I’m just heartbroken to hear all this coming from him..he is so amazing and the thoughts of him disliking himself so young is killing me. I’m also very aware of how bad relationships with food start so there is no mention of diets etc in my house. It feels like such a fine line trying to cut out the junk food for him but not give him any issues. Obviously it’s a case of monkey see monkey do and as someone who binges on junk myself it’s all my fault. I’ve let him down so much . I want my happy carefree boy back.
. I’m only 5 foot and used to be 9 stone even after my kids ...I’m 14 stone now. I lost 2 stone towards the end of last year but put all back on since covid.I am so sick of hating myself and being miserable but even worse than that it’s making me a shit Mum. My kids were always healthy and normal weight ...actually my son would have been quite skinny with a really good appetite! I don’t know when it started happening ...originally I thought it was a natural filling out as he got older, he is 8, but in the last year he has put on a lot of weight. I hadn’t thought anything of it but a few weeks ago he was really upset and refusing to go to school because the trousers (that we had already added elastic to) wouldn’t close. He was embarrassed and so upset telling me none of his clothes fit him. I was absolutely heartbroken, not because he put on weight but because of how he was feeling. Growing up with a mother who was very looks and weight concious I always swore I would never let my kids feel that way no matter what size they were. We’ve always been careful about not making food or weight an issue for them. We’ve had to buy plus fit school trousers for him which have helped with the embarrassment at school but The last few weeks he has started making more and more comments about the size of his belly. He is just a normal boy with a bit of a belly it’s nothing major but he seems so conscious of it. For instance he loves dancing and is bloody brilliant at it, he often makes videos with his sister etc. When we were having Christmas Dinner my Mam was telling him how much she loves watching him and how good he is and he he told her didn’t think he was good because he didn’t look good in his videos because of his belly
. Yesterday he didn’t like his coat cause it gave him a big belly. I’m just heartbroken to hear all this coming from him..he is so amazing and the thoughts of him disliking himself so young is killing me. I’m also very aware of how bad relationships with food start so there is no mention of diets etc in my house. It feels like such a fine line trying to cut out the junk food for him but not give him any issues. Obviously it’s a case of monkey see monkey do and as someone who binges on junk myself it’s all my fault. I’ve let him down so much . I want my happy carefree boy back.
AnderbeauJohnson
VIP Member
It has been a day of many pros and cons. It probably seems like it but I'm honestly not trying to post this to be miserable and woe-is-me-poor-diddums, it is more to just force my thoughts out and confront them tonight rather than having them spinning around in my head for the next few days - please feel free to ignore me.
Cons
Despite thinking that I was coping absolutely perfectly with being locked down for almost 10 months (as a severe asthmatic I couldn't risk socialising during the summer lull) and focussing all my attention on keeping my family member's poor mental health up, I am apparently depressed. I had an asthma review with the nurse this morning who told me to make an appointment with the doctor asap who assessed me and gave me the news. I'm really annoyed at myself for not realising how bad things had got, reading back my posts on here I sound like a right miserable cow so I should have realised. I'm going to make an effort to post more positive things going forward (after this post).
I have, therefore, binged today. Lots of chocolate and crisps for lunch/snacks and tuna and chip wraps for tea (and they are heaven on a hatstand.)
Pros
I am not in the mood to binge tomorrow. Today totally blindsided me so it's okay to indulge as a one off, but it doesn't have to become a week/month/year of binging and I don't want it to. I have felt sluggish and slow all afternoon/evening compared to yesterday when I felt a lot lighter so I've already planned my meals for tomorrow and I'm looking forward to nicer food - breakfast - fruit; lunch - spinach, tomato, mushroom and cheese wrap; tea - prawn and various vegetable tagliatelle.
I now have even more of a reason to keep up my walking/healthy eating now that I need to look after my mental as well as physical health. I know from past experience that if I eat lots of veg/protein my mood is a bit lighter. Speaking of walking I did another 8 miles today to get to my appointment and will do 6 tomorrow to get to the pharmacy so Wednesday will now be my day off.
I spent £30 on a weeks worth of healthy food yesterday and I spent £15 on binging food today. I thought back and realised that between Oct-Dec I was spending £8-£10 a day on nothing but junk food/pepsi max. But... if I can keep healthy eating I'm going to save an absolute packet and get my debts paid off much faster.
Cons
Despite thinking that I was coping absolutely perfectly with being locked down for almost 10 months (as a severe asthmatic I couldn't risk socialising during the summer lull) and focussing all my attention on keeping my family member's poor mental health up, I am apparently depressed. I had an asthma review with the nurse this morning who told me to make an appointment with the doctor asap who assessed me and gave me the news. I'm really annoyed at myself for not realising how bad things had got, reading back my posts on here I sound like a right miserable cow so I should have realised. I'm going to make an effort to post more positive things going forward (after this post).
I have, therefore, binged today. Lots of chocolate and crisps for lunch/snacks and tuna and chip wraps for tea (and they are heaven on a hatstand.)
Pros
I am not in the mood to binge tomorrow. Today totally blindsided me so it's okay to indulge as a one off, but it doesn't have to become a week/month/year of binging and I don't want it to. I have felt sluggish and slow all afternoon/evening compared to yesterday when I felt a lot lighter so I've already planned my meals for tomorrow and I'm looking forward to nicer food - breakfast - fruit; lunch - spinach, tomato, mushroom and cheese wrap; tea - prawn and various vegetable tagliatelle.
I now have even more of a reason to keep up my walking/healthy eating now that I need to look after my mental as well as physical health. I know from past experience that if I eat lots of veg/protein my mood is a bit lighter. Speaking of walking I did another 8 miles today to get to my appointment and will do 6 tomorrow to get to the pharmacy so Wednesday will now be my day off.
I spent £30 on a weeks worth of healthy food yesterday and I spent £15 on binging food today. I thought back and realised that between Oct-Dec I was spending £8-£10 a day on nothing but junk food/pepsi max. But... if I can keep healthy eating I'm going to save an absolute packet and get my debts paid off much faster.
judgejohndeed
VIP Member
Weighed in this weekend, now 20.5lbs down! 11 to go. Goal for this week is to get lifting some weights, I have some heavier dumbbells on the way so looking forward to trying those!
lemonlime
VIP Member
After seeing many Tattlers wanting to lose weight in the New Year Resolutions thread, I suggested a thread to share our process and journey. We can share meal plans, progress updates, motivations or problems, target weight, current weight... whatever you feel like. This shall be a non-judgement zone for all those who participate.
Important: If you feel like this thread might trigger negative thoughts or any kind of disorders for you, please stop reading.
Make sure you're on the right track for you. The goal of this thread is not comparison of progress or promoting any kind of ideal. It's just here as a motivation or a reminder for those who want to do this for their health and their own reasons.
If you think you might have an ED, please contact a professional or a helpline.
Important: If you feel like this thread might trigger negative thoughts or any kind of disorders for you, please stop reading.
Make sure you're on the right track for you. The goal of this thread is not comparison of progress or promoting any kind of ideal. It's just here as a motivation or a reminder for those who want to do this for their health and their own reasons.
If you think you might have an ED, please contact a professional or a helpline.
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