Watching friends do stupid things

[Onepotatotwopotato]

I’m going to offer a slightly different perspective here.

I don’t think it’s quite as simple as just leaving her husband.I assume she has always identified as straight - so she will have to come out to her family, friends, kids?, work colleagues etc. That’s pretty daunting. People who aren’t married struggle to come out for years, let alone if you have to change your entire life and that of her husbands.

Cheating is awful, but your friend is just as bad IMO, she knows she’s married. However, I don’t think it’s as simple in this case as she’s not leaving him because she doesn’t want to so she never will. She was probably experimenting with your friend and is now coming to terms with her sexuality, that doesn’t happen in a matter of weeks.

Yeah, I don't envy any of them to be honest. But I think the right thing to do by everyone would be she needs to tell the husband what's happened and spend some time alone to think about it all. It's definitely a horrible situation, I don't know how you could throw away that long of a marriage easily, she's even been posting fun Xmas pics up on insta with her husband at the time she's been seeing my friend? Just wrong isn't it

 

[Onepotatotwopotato]

Doesn't matter about the sexuality of the person really being strung along is being strung along. If the woman wanted to be with your friend then she would leave her husband full stop. I'd probably tell her TBH but deep down she will know already because you always do.

Yeah you are right, I think she realises this too. It's terrible because she's never had a serious relationship that's lasted longer than a few months before too so I don't know she realises the depth of emotions that come with a 15 year old relationship