Turning 30

[Mamacita]

Don't really have much advice beyond - it's not really all that bad, I actually feel better after I turned 30. It was all this big milestone coming up but once you're there it doesn't seem like such a big deal. I feel like something changed in my brain as well that less things bother me and I'm a lot less emotional.

On not being where you are, I guess the only advice if have is to not compare yourself with others and as long as you keep working on getting there, you'll be fine. It's the journey that matters, as cliche as it sounds once you get to where you want to be it's probably still not going to be enough, it's just human nature so might as well embrace it.

No advice on the party haha can you do something more low key or go out with friends rather than host?

 

[bcfc999]

I'll be 30 in a few months and generally feeling okay about it - I've never really bought into the idea that you absolutely have to have x y and z sorted or it's the end of your life, so it's been quite easy to detach from other people trying to put that on me. I'm not where I expected to be career-wise (realised I hated the career I was training for) and as a result I'm earning less than colleagues who have been doing the same job as me for longer, but that's just life isn't it and I'll get there in time. My main worry is for my health: I have a lot of weight to lose and I'm not really taking it seriously but I know it's only going to get more serious over time, so I need to stop messing around.

 

[Kim Mild]

You could do something else to celebrate/ mark the occasion without having a party. Like spa day, meal at a nice restaurant, night away or some kind of other experience?

 

[kachoochoo]

So I'm turning 30 in the next few months and it is freaking me the eff out. So I'm seeking advice from those of you who have hit this milestone.

My life isn't currently where I want it to be, which is why I think I'm freaking out. I'm trying to work on my self love and self esteem and spirituality etc.

On a more materialistic note, I'm trying to decide if I want a party or not. I don't know if I want to celebrate my birthday as traditionally they've never been great. But also, I hate hosting parties

Thank you wise tattlers

38 here and honestly, turning 30 was the best. I'd never actually had a birthday party at all before then. I'm still not where I thought I'd be in life, but you know how everyone's always told you that you give less of a shit about shit as you get older? It's all true

have the party. have a great time. embrace your 30s

 

[Megansnarkle]

I’m turning 30 in 6 weeks and freaking out. I settled down very young, had 2 children, got married and now find myself 29 with the life I thought I wanted except I am no longer in love or happy with my partner, a totally different person to I was at 20, with huge regrets and in a horrible place of do I make a horrible decision to start again at 30 or keep on keeping on. It boggles my mind that I’m almost 30 and I’m terrified of getting to 40 and thinking I wish I’d done this at 30. I gave up my career and have been a Sahm and now have no idea who I am. Sorry total dump there. But 30 feels very daunting right now

You don't have to change your life completely all in one go. Could you perhaps look for a part-time job? That might help you take the first steps back into the workforce and also reclaim some of who you are. Then work on the rest gradually.

 

[whisperchat]

I’m 30 in June next year and I can’t wait. My 20’s we’re about growing and learning and becoming the person I am now and I’m proud of how far I’ve come. So bring it on

 

[Mrspowell]

You don't have to change your life completely all in one go. Could you perhaps look for a part-time job? That might help you take the first steps back into the workforce and also reclaim some of who you are. Then work on the rest gradually.

I do work in a job I love in the nhs but only once a week. I’ve been looking actually for something more of a career type job. For some reason the looming 30 seems to be personifying all my other life issues!