Turning 30

[Thank(space)you]

So I'm turning 30 in the next few months and it is freaking me the eff out. So I'm seeking advice from those of you who have hit this milestone.

My life isn't currently where I want it to be, which is why I think I'm freaking out. I'm trying to work on my self love and self esteem and spirituality etc.

On a more materialistic note, I'm trying to decide if I want a party or not. I don't know if I want to celebrate my birthday as traditionally they've never been great. But also, I hate hosting parties

Thank you wise tattlers

 

[Mamacita]

Don't really have much advice beyond - it's not really all that bad, I actually feel better after I turned 30. It was all this big milestone coming up but once you're there it doesn't seem like such a big deal. I feel like something changed in my brain as well that less things bother me and I'm a lot less emotional.

On not being where you are, I guess the only advice if have is to not compare yourself with others and as long as you keep working on getting there, you'll be fine. It's the journey that matters, as cliche as it sounds once you get to where you want to be it's probably still not going to be enough, it's just human nature so might as well embrace it.

No advice on the party haha can you do something more low key or go out with friends rather than host?

 

[Curlywurly85]

I’m 34, 35 in march and honestly, I love my 30s. They are so much better than my 20s, I’m more sure of who I am, I’m more secure in myself and I’ve got more money. To me it’s just the next party decade and I always think growing old is a privilege because not everyone gets to do it.
You may never be where you want to be, thats not the problem, the problem is how you react to it. Its good to have goals and dreams but dont make them conditions to beat yourself with.

 

[EddyDarling]

Well if you want to know my thoughts on turning 30, listen to 30 by Bo Burnham and that summarises my experience quite well

 

[Tove_drew]

I’m 35 and I think my 30s are far better than 20s. I have better boundaries now and am more comfortable with who I am and what I want. I didn’t feel that upset about turning 30 but I did feel freaked out when I turned 35. Like you said milestones are hard when you wonder if you’re where you should be at that age. I didn’t have a real concrete idea of where I should be at 30 but I guess I had ideas of 35.

If parties are your thing then go for it but it doesn’t sound like it! I never like having a party so I always like to travel on my birthday. When I was turning 30 I went to Berlin with my partner.

 

[candyland_]

It’s not a big deal at all. I’m 32 and happier than I was in my 20s because you live, learn and realise what’s important as you get older.

Stop worrying about not having X Y Z and appreciate what you already have and you’ll be happier.

 

[101d]

'93 baby! Looking forward to being 30 Really hopeful it's going to be the best decade yet

 

[Slaybutter]

I’m in my thirties and I have to agree with what everyone else in this thread is saying! Thirties are just better than twenties. You get settled into adulthood, your career, and your own skin. I don’t perform well under pressure so I think that’s also a big part of why I like my thirties better. My biggest worry was never being able to meet someone but that hasn’t been the case

 

[whisperchat]

I’m 30 in June next year and I can’t wait. My 20’s we’re about growing and learning and becoming the person I am now and I’m proud of how far I’ve come. So bring it on

 

[Gloria Rostron]

So I'm turning 30 in the next few months and it is freaking me the eff out. So I'm seeking advice from those of you who have hit this milestone.

My life isn't currently where I want it to be, which is why I think I'm freaking out. I'm trying to work on my self love and self esteem and spirituality etc.

On a more materialistic note, I'm trying to decide if I want a party or not. I don't know if I want to celebrate my birthday as traditionally they've never been great. But also, I hate hosting parties

Thank you wise tattlers

Your life isn't currently where you want it to be but you could make it where you want it to be. Think of it as a birthday present to yourself. As for age, it is just a number. Yes, there are stigmas, especially at 40+ but these are all illusions. As a birthday present to yourself, you could try and work on the things you want in life.

As for a party, I think it would be great. It doesn't have to be all about age, just a celebration. Perhaps you could challenge yourself to organise the party?

 

[Snowjoke]

Enjoy it … have the party! Make it something to remember. Most people you ask, at any age, are never 100% where they want to be in life. So don’t dwell on that at all is my advice. Not to be that person but growing a year older is a great privilege, enjoy it, appreciate it and celebrate!!!

 

[kachoochoo]

So I'm turning 30 in the next few months and it is freaking me the eff out. So I'm seeking advice from those of you who have hit this milestone.

My life isn't currently where I want it to be, which is why I think I'm freaking out. I'm trying to work on my self love and self esteem and spirituality etc.

On a more materialistic note, I'm trying to decide if I want a party or not. I don't know if I want to celebrate my birthday as traditionally they've never been great. But also, I hate hosting parties

Thank you wise tattlers

38 here and honestly, turning 30 was the best. I'd never actually had a birthday party at all before then. I'm still not where I thought I'd be in life, but you know how everyone's always told you that you give less of a tit about tit as you get older? It's all true

have the party. have a great time. embrace your 30s

 

[Tommyb]

I struggled with 30. Until I realised that the pressures I put on myself to have certain things were from outside sources. I have a great bf, an amazing amazing family, my own house, a career, good friends and my health.

I also realised social media and the picture people would portray was not true at all. So I stopped judging myself by other people's standards. Those people that kept telling me I should be married by now and why wasn't I married... It came about that they were miserable in their marriages. So I learned that misery loves company is true!

 

[Thank(space)you]

Your life isn't currently where you want it to be but you could make it where you want it to be. Think of it as a birthday present to yourself. As for age, it is just a number. Yes, there are stigmas, especially at 40+ but these are all illusions. As a birthday present to yourself, you could try and work on the things you want in life.

As for a party, I think it would be great. It doesn't have to be all about age, just a celebration. Perhaps you could challenge yourself to organise the party?

BIB, unfortunately the things I want to change are outside of my control. I'd expected to have a family by now, right now I'm very much single and it is just myself and my daughter. I'd hoped to be a homeowner, I don't earn enough & I can't afford it on my own.
The only thing I can control is my weight and I am trying

 

[Kim Mild]

You could do something else to celebrate/ mark the occasion without having a party. Like spa day, meal at a nice restaurant, night away or some kind of other experience?

 

[EasterEggs]

Another 1992 baby! I turned 30 in June

Throughout my late 20s I looked forward to it, didn’t get why everyone hated it so much - I thought I don’t care for societal pressures, I’m happy in myself, 30s will be so fab, blah blah.

But then in early May this year.. the panic set in. I don’t know why it hit me like that? Like I have a good job, good relationships with my friends and family, very single and no kids but I’m happy with that! After speaking to my friends, every single one of my friends had the same thoughts so I think it’s just something we all go through and it does pass. For me it only lasted maybe 2 weeks haha.

I’m happy being 30 and I would much rather be entering my 30s than entering my 20s!

 

[LittleMy]

I agree with what others have said, it’s not that bad. I’ll be 34 in the new year and I do have days where I wake up and think “tit, I’m getting old” but generally I just get on with it. I do feel more aware of the passing of time, but I have children and I think that’s why I notice it more because I’m so wrapped up in them and they’re growing too. I do feel a lot more settled in myself overall and I’m much better at standing my ground, keeping boundaries in place and saying no (things I struggled with when I was in my early 20s). I’m also not as preoccupied with what other people think. I like this age most tbh and I remember my own mum saying similar about her 30s.

 

[User_name_100]

I was terrified of turning 30! Not sure why, felt like my life wasn't in the place I wanted it to be. When I was growing up I had images of being sorted with everything, nice house, amazing job, a big family etc at the age of 30.

I look back now and could laugh at myself! Life only just begins at 30. I don't know anyone personally who had everything sorted at that age.

I always think your 20s are difficult, you're out of childhood/adolescent years but most likely you still don't know yourself. You're trying out jobs, partners, life experiences etc and finding your feet in this world. My life started only really making sense when I hit my 30s. I'm still learning though!

 

[strawb]

i literally turned 29 yesterday and i'm already terrified of turning 30

but reading this thread has made me feel much better!

 

[milkywaymelon]

Life begins at 30!!

I'm much happier in myself now, I don't give a tit what anyone thinks of me and I don't have that same pressure to keep up with my peers that I felt so much in my 20's.