Long time reader here, mostly because I knew there was something off with her stories, they never added up. I grew up in New Jersey, I never saw Jerseylicous because it would piss me off how fake and over the top it was, especially because I went to school with one of the cast members and I knew for a fact that they were not what was portrayed on the show.
Anyways, I'm glad that this thread exists because it confirms a lot of my suspicions. I think what is the most annoying about the whole separation is how she was very recently, before the holidays, talking about her marriage as if they were still together. I understand and respect her desire for privacy, but don't lie and talk about your relationship in present tense when you've been separated for a year. Jess used to be adorable on the show, and now she's insufferable like Tracy. She's definitely rubbed off on her in a bad way.
I do feel bad for what she and the kiddos are going through. (I know she said the kids didn't know yet). It's sad when a marriage falls apart.