As the title says really… I’ve always struggled with confidence issues, unless I’m really, really comfortable with someone I’m not confident. I’ve recently gone back to work after 3 years off and I’m struggling with my confidence. I had a work review today and they said I need to work on it and I know a few others have said the same.
I just want to know the secret to holding my head up high and not giving a
duck 
Or at least have some confidence at work lol
Thanks x
I personally think everything links back to self esteem. Work on building that up and the confidence will follow. There was also a thread about it here too.
Get your hair/ nails/ lashes if that's your thing or just give it a go. Book a massage. Buy yourself nice soap. Nice flattering clothing.
Make a compliment book. Write down everything a loved one has said about you.
Listen to songs that help stuff sink in. I play "this is me" from the greatest showman. Some of Sia's unstoppable is pretty good too.
For my youngest sister I also hired a professional photographer to prove to her that she wasn't ugly and to get help get rid of her complex. It was expensive but worth every penny. The photographer also said they had noticed a change in her from her first to her second. We also saw someone else in between.
For work I would recommend the book "How to win friends and influence people " by Dale Carnegie. It's simple things like remember people's names. I bought a copy and it really did help me learn how to talk to people. Often just getting them to talk more about themselves!
There's no shame in also asking for more training if you need it.
From my T: make a "Ta dah" list. Write down all your accomplishments and things you got done during the day.
