The Chateau Diaries #402 Regretting getting down on one knee, 'cause you'd rather get down on two, eh Philip?

[SaucySaysSo]

On IG the English actress Caroline Quentin has an account called cqgardens. She is currently filming at an old estate called Homme House in Herefordshire. A few days ago she put up a video of a tour of the walled garden at the house. If you have 5 minutes see if you can find it and then compare said garden to fan’s. Although they both contain raised beds, espaliered apple trees, arches over the walk ways, there is no comparison it is like chalk and cheese. fan when will you learn that with all your aspirations and even with all the money you throw at everything, you will never be the real deal as you have no taste, you will always be just a bargain basement copy.

I’m not on IG, so I did a search and found the Homme House website. It is stunning. Two acres of walled garden…wow. Your comment BIB nailed it.

 

[Hercule P]

In this video they show the cleaning they do before starting the season. With what they usually show, I am sure that everything was cleaned after their last guests, last year. Of course they do a big cleaning before the starting of the new season. Spectacular??? No, just normal for clean and tidy people, respectful of their clients.
Their flats are clean, tidy, well decorated and not full of tat up to the ceiling. All things SJ and her Gaygolo cannot understand.

 

[JackSpratt]

There were no guests, just more of fan’s lies.

She wouldn't give a toss if there had been either.

 

[JackSpratt]

In this video they show the cleaning they do before starting the season. With what they usually show, I am sure that everything was cleaned after their last guests, last year. Of course they do a big cleaning before the starting of the new season. Spectacular??? No, just normal for clean and tidy people, respectful of their clients.
Their flats are clean, tidy, well decorated and not full of tat up to the ceiling. All things SJ and her Gaygolo cannot understand.

They don't care 'staff' do that job sp they can blame them if things are not right.

 

[Arfarf]

Gracie, I reckon they don't use the drone they bought because Fuzzy is too incompetent to use it and has actually tried to figure it out but he's too stupid to make it work properly.

I bet they can't find it! Its probably lost/broken under piles of trash in Nutti's never-to-be apartment or the filthy bird tit, crumbling area of the dump that will never be cleaned.

 

[Arfarf]

I’ve never quite recovered from this apparition - the prancing twerp in the reception area at the Coral Reef Club in Barbados.

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*retires to a darkened room with smelling salts and intravenous brandy*

Wow! Even though that photo has made us all want to vomit over the years, it shows just how large and pudgy and old Snorts has become since that time. Living the "high" life has NOT served him well. Now just and uneducated, soft, deceitful, lazier balder, rendition of how he appeared when he arrived on the dump's doorstep. How we rue the day he showed up!

 

[Mr Magoo]

Is fan's life of lies (and excess) making her sick? The shitoo could be making her sick too, but she's rarely there!

The Truth About Lying and What It Does to the Body
Dishonesty can take a toll on the body and mind.
Posted January 5, 2020 | Reviewed by Ekua Hagan

In the hit film Knives Out, Detective Benoit Blanc is hired to investigate the mysterious death of a wealthy novelist named Harlan Thrombey. Blanc questions the members of Thrombey’s eccentric family and his nurse, Marta Cabrera.

When Marta admitted, “Just the thought of lying makes me puke,” she was not kidding. Marta is like Pinocchio, but instead of lies elongating her nose, they make her vomit. Marta’s strange reflex is a dream for a private investigator trying to uncover the truth, but could such a biological anomaly actually exist off the movie screen?

What happens to the body when we lie?

We tell lies all the time. A 2002 study performed by psychologist Robert Feldman at the University of Massachusetts found that 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation, telling an average of two to three lies.

The tendency to lie is deeply rooted in our evolutionary history, as other primates have been observed to cheat and deceive. Human children pick up this crafty behaviour between the ages of two and five, and it is seen by some psychologists as a milestone of cognitive growth.

Many lies are trivial and are told simply to keep the peace or make someone feel good. Examples include niceties such as “You can’t tell that you’re wearing a toupee!” or “The turkey doesn’t taste dry to me!” But more sinister lies, such as falsely accusing someone of a crime or lying to investors, can have devastating consequences. Dishonesty puts the brain in a state of heightened alert, and this stress increases with the magnitude of the lie.

Why does the brain care about honesty? As social animals, our reputation is paramount. Consequently, most people work very hard to maintain an image of trustworthiness and integrity. Knowing that dishonesty risks irrevocable damage to one’s reputation, lying is an inherently stressful activity. When we engage in deceit, our respiratory and heart rates increase, we start to sweat, our mouth goes dry, and our voice can shake. Some of these physiological effects form the basis of the classic lie-detector (polygraph) test.

People vary in their ability to tell a lie due, in part, to differences in the brain. To take an extreme example, sociopaths lack empathy and therefore do not exhibit a typical physiological response when lying. Liars can also pass a polygraph if trained to stay calm during the test. Similarly, innocent people may fail the test merely because they are anxious about being hooked up to the intimidating equipment. For these reasons, the accuracy of polygraph testing is heavily contested.

In contrast, brain imaging studies are proving to be much more informative for learning about the body’s response to lying. Symptoms of anxiety arise because lying activates the limbic system in the brain, the same area that initiates the “fight or flight” response that is triggered during other stresses. When people are being honest, this area of the brain shows minimal activity. But when telling a lie, it lights up like a fireworks display. An honest brain is relaxed, while a dishonest brain is frantic.

Short-term and long-term effects of lying on health and well-being

Two doctors were recently questioned about Marta’s peculiar reaction to lying. Speaking to Fast Company, gastroenterologist Kara Gross Margolis of the Columbia University Medical Center stated that she has never seen a patient that suffers from chronic vomiting after lying. Nor has David A. Johnson, a gastroenterologist at Eastern Virginia Medical School. Speaking to Slate, Johnson said, "Never, at least in my 42 years of experience, has it [chronic vomiting] been brought up that it was specifically around a lie."

However, both experts mention the so-called gut-brain axis as a plausible mechanism behind a regurgitative reflex. The gut-brain axis refers to the two-way communication that takes place between these two bodily systems, explaining why we sometimes get butterflies in our stomach when nervous. Kara Gross Margolis admits that “significant anxiety can lead to nausea and vomiting,” opening the door for such a condition to exist in someone who is constantly worried.

In addition to short-term stress and discomfort, living a dishonest life would seem to take a toll on health. According to a 2015 review article, constant lying is associated with an array of negative health outcomes including high blood pressure, increased heart rate, vasoconstriction, and elevated stress hormones in the blood.

Other studies suggest that long-term effects could be minimal since it appears that we get more comfortable with lying the more we do it. In other words, we develop an unsettling tolerance to being devious.

Brain imaging experiments conducted by Tali Sharot at University College London show that the brain adapts to dishonest behaviour. Participants showed reduced activity in their limbic system as they told more lies, supporting the idea that each lie makes lying easier. In addition, the findings support the adage that small acts of dishonesty can escalate into larger ones. If true, Marta’s tendency to vomit after lying could diminish over time as her brain adapts to being dishonest.

If our brain can cozy up to lying with enough practice, it would explain society’s disdain for dishonesty and why people hesitate to give liars a second chance. These strong social rules and the penalties that come from breaking them might be what really keeps us honest at the end of the day.

I'd agree for people like me... I am like a big red thumb if I lie... but fan?.. well my search just came up with this.
"Narcissists do not suffer from health issues caused by their lying; rather, they lie to manufacture health issues or exaggerate symptoms to gain control, attention, and sympathy. Research indicates that individuals with high narcissism are more likely to engage in malingering or fabricate "health scares" because they lack the empathy and guilt that typically inhibit deception in healthy individuals."

 

[Arfarf]

I'd agree for people like me... I am like a big red thumb if I lie... but fan?.. well my search just came up with this.
"Narcissists do not suffer from health issues caused by their lying; rather, they lie to manufacture health issues or exaggerate symptoms to gain control, attention, and sympathy. Research indicates that individuals with high narcissism are more likely to engage in malingering or fabricate "health scares" because they lack the empathy and guilt that typically inhibit deception in healthy individuals."

My sister lies all the time. My brother and I figure it gives her a thrill to deceive?? We can't figure her out. She is the oldest, prettiest, tiny, great hair, smart...and yet, selfish, narcissistic, and needs constant praise and attention from men in particular.

 

[LittleMore Cottage]

In this video they show the cleaning they do before starting the season. With what they usually show, I am sure that everything was cleaned after their last guests, last year. Of course they do a big cleaning before the starting of the new season. Spectacular??? No, just normal for clean and tidy people, respectful of their clients.
Their flats are clean, tidy, well decorated and not full of tat up to the ceiling. All things SJ and her Gaygolo cannot understand.

And they have two small children, travel to Spain frequently and renovate, real renovation . Their spaces are calm, cohesive, not cluttered and beautiful. They have a fun, easy.going relationship and I wish them all the best. Those boys will have a beautiful life.

 

[Pno]

Anyone wager they are off to see Sultana?

 

[Madame de Pompanddoodoo]

Anyone wager they are off to see Sultana?

Let’s face it they could have gone anywhere. They legged it as soon as the Easter retreat was over so have had 2 weeks away from the dump that they profess to love so much. I just wish someone somewhere would let the cat out of the bag as someone is bound to have seen them in passing. Yet all her crazies still think she is languishing in her bed desperately ill through overwork. Idiots.

 

[Sticks_Stones_Bones]

OMG! fan's horrible taste is influencing Nutti!! Why paper this sad little rental?

Didn't they buy that mobile home? It will probably take a few years to get that tiny permanent house on the property ready for move in (is the mobile home bigger than that tiny place?) The yellow decor was horrific and I can see why they would want to make that place more pleasing to look at. The wallpaper wouldn't be my choice but I've seen a lot worse. What was that weird headboard looking thing? Seriously, what was that?

 

[Lady Lindy]

In this video they show the cleaning they do before starting the season. With what they usually show, I am sure that everything was cleaned after their last guests, last year. Of course they do a big cleaning before the starting of the new season. Spectacular??? No, just normal for clean and tidy people, respectful of their clients.
Their flats are clean, tidy, well decorated and not full of tat up to the ceiling. All things SJ and her Gaygolo cannot understand.

Love them

 

[Sticks_Stones_Bones]

Not if outlives her

Yes, if Gerry outlives her, Barnacle will have to get fake engaged to Gerry.

 

[Heathcliffe]

Perhaps they are indeed on the Orient Express...

 

[Heathcliffe]

 

[Heathcliffe]

 

[Daisy Br]

Didn't they buy that mobile home? It will probably take a few years to get that tiny permanent house on the property ready for move in (is the mobile home bigger than that tiny place?) The yellow decor was horrific and I can see why they would want to make that place more pleasing to look at. The wallpaper wouldn't be my choice but I've seen a lot worse. What was that weird headboard looking thing? Seriously, what was that?

I was wondering the same thing. I think it's a headboard, because I have no clue what else it could be.

 

[Daisy Br]

Yes, if Gerry outlives her, Barnacle will have to get fake engaged to Gerry.

Or maybe it'll be true lurve

 

[vitanova]

la ferte's newest vlog is about mold. they put furniture in stables last year (!!) and it's moldy. after one winter. imagine state of things they put in filthy shato's outbuildings years ago. or in shipping containers around the house.