I'm very sorry for your loss and for the experience you went through as a child.
Unfortunately death and illness of loved ones is something we all have to go through, and those experiences are never nice and will always affect us. Some of us may be dignified and others may scream, shout and blame others, it's human nature.
As per a previous post I made, I think it's possible she went out to make the announcement so soon because other people were making statements and announcements on social media and so maybe she wanted to make her own truthful statement (when I say this I mean truthful in that Archie passed, not talking about the murder etc).
I think when we are sad and not thinking straight, we may use emotive language, we may not realise the effect of such language on other people.
Re. İsmail, what a terrible situation and yes his mother was extremely dignified. However someone else in her shoes may have reacted completely differently, not being able to be by his side knowing he was afraid and when he passed away, not being able to go to his funeral, that they would have kicked and screamed, they may have gone to the hospital and fought to try to get to him, although not "dignified" I don't believe they would be wrong.
As per my first post on this thread, I probably shouldn't have posted because I hold a different view to maybe 95% of posters on here. My view is different based on my own experiences part of which I documented on here.
I have seen the judgment of the family and I feel some of the comments are unfair. Most normal people don't know what cyanosed means and so they describe what they feel they saw - their loved one suffocating. Whether that is the correct medical terminology, it's what they believe they witnessed. And I feel that the medical professionals (such as the one who wrote that comment) should be understanding and compassionate that family members aren't always going to know what language to use and that sometimes they may react unfavorably to their loved ones passing away.
I don't have much more to say other than that I'm glad Archie is now resting in peace and not suffering.
Sorry, just edited to add, if it is true that hollie has been repeatedly abusive towards hospital staff/Archie etc. then that is disgusting behaviour which obviously I do not condone. I'm sure if there is any truth to her having being abusive towards Archie/keeping drugs in her house/being aware that Archie was depressed and tried to commit suicide the day before, it will come out.