I think I'd have to mention it to him! What would happen if your relationship progresses and you ended up living together or getting married? Maybe it's something as simple as him not realising that hair straighteners exist and wondering how your hair is so different, but it seems strange to be bothered by it!
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nah i’m sorry but if he can’t even look at you with your natural hair that’s a big ol’ red flag to me
If it were the other way around I’d be cautious of fetishisation.
In this case, possible racial element, possibly only likes how you look one way… nah. Maybe ask but unless you’re mistaken, it doesn’t sound worth your while.
I not sure I’d keep going on dates with anyone who “can’t even look at me” for any reason.
In this case, possible racial element, possibly only likes how you look one way… nah. Maybe ask but unless you’re mistaken, it doesn’t sound worth your while.
I'm not sure whether to mention something in my catch up with my manager. So my work team consists of 3 teams of 2 covering the day but we don't ever overlap. There are assistants who overlap with us all.
My and the person I'm with have been on the team a while. The second team hasn't start yet as the two on that team have left. The third team one of the people has joined from another department.
During the handover the other day the person who had come from the other department said to someone that they actually do their job unlike people from another team. Now she didn't like the two people that left from team 2, especially one of them and always had issues with her work.
One of the assistants told me last week that she didn't have a problem with us just the people who left and not to worry as it's definitely not us. But she said this comment about her team doing work properly unlike others since the assistant told me this. Now we are the only team she could be saying it about unless she is still talking about the team that left but they left over a month ago.
Do I mention it to my manager say I've heard from people she has been saying stuff about us? Shall I ask the assistant who originally told me it wasn't about us what she thinks?
We do all the work we need to. Their team does do an extra task however we were specifically told not to do this task. So I also didn't know whether to say something about this as I don't want the teams that take over from us to think we just aren't doing this task, as it does help the teams taking over but there is good reason why we shouldn't be doing it, as it sets out the tasks for the next shift but this needs to be checked with the managers daily to make sure they want the same things doing otherwise the same things get copied over if we do it and if they don't want it done it makes a mess of the task sheet. We did do it in the past and they changed it due to them reasons but the person from the other department is also training the people from the brand new team meaning all but my team will probably be doing this so will probably look bad on us
My and the person I'm with have been on the team a while. The second team hasn't start yet as the two on that team have left. The third team one of the people has joined from another department.
During the handover the other day the person who had come from the other department said to someone that they actually do their job unlike people from another team. Now she didn't like the two people that left from team 2, especially one of them and always had issues with her work.
One of the assistants told me last week that she didn't have a problem with us just the people who left and not to worry as it's definitely not us. But she said this comment about her team doing work properly unlike others since the assistant told me this. Now we are the only team she could be saying it about unless she is still talking about the team that left but they left over a month ago.
Do I mention it to my manager say I've heard from people she has been saying stuff about us? Shall I ask the assistant who originally told me it wasn't about us what she thinks?
We do all the work we need to. Their team does do an extra task however we were specifically told not to do this task. So I also didn't know whether to say something about this as I don't want the teams that take over from us to think we just aren't doing this task, as it does help the teams taking over but there is good reason why we shouldn't be doing it, as it sets out the tasks for the next shift but this needs to be checked with the managers daily to make sure they want the same things doing otherwise the same things get copied over if we do it and if they don't want it done it makes a mess of the task sheet. We did do it in the past and they changed it due to them reasons but the person from the other department is also training the people from the brand new team meaning all but my team will probably be doing this so will probably look bad on us
Ask the person themselves if possible, if it’s allowed, email maybe. Politely, like “I heard you’d been dissatisfied with some of the work of the other teams. If you feel our team isn’t doing something correctly perhaps we could discuss it and make sure the managers and new trainees are all on the same page”.
They’ll either say “no it was the ones that left”, not say anything because they don’t want confrontation or answer honestly.
If not possible then perhaps raise it with the manager but frame it as thing a good idea to get feedback from each team so that the trainees get it right going forward. “With the new starters perhaps it’s a good time to make sure we’re all doing what we need to in order to facilitate the best hand overs. A good opportunity to iron out any issues”.
I had Chronic Idiopathic Urticaria (CIU) for 6 years, looking back now it was likely caused by a virus my son had at the time. I saw a dermatologist and an immunologist. I was put on 4 x Anti Histamines dose for weeks to ‘flush it out’ didn’t work. Had to take an anti-histamine everyday, as soon as AH wears off broke out it hives. They appeared as raised lines as if an invisible cat attacked me and they were so itchy they stung. Very distracting when driving. Immunologist said my histamine response was faulty and they activated at anything. Which is why it is called Idiopathic.
Anyhow here is the crazy part. I no longer get CIU or any hives at all. It all started when I had my first covid shot (pfizer) I noticed I only needed an AH every other day. After my second pfizer shot I only needed to take an AH every 3-4 days. My third shot I reduced taking an AH to once or twice a month, and after my 4th and final shot I was only needing AH a few times a year!!! I now no longer get hives. I would love to know if any other CIU sufferers also had the same experience.
I wonder because mine was activated by a virus it was killed by the covid vax. I have heard that it can come on in pregnancy because of hormones. So there are probably other ways it was activated too, food allergy etc..
You asked if it was auto immune and yes it is, apparently a lot of sufferers also have Thyriod issues, hashimoto, I don’t but it is in my family.
This is really interesting. I had sudden onset of urticaria after my second child was born and anti histamines just didn’t touch it. It eventually went away but it took a good few months. I’ve always wondered if I have thyroid issues but all tests come back’normal’.
Very late to this but just want to put shouts out for Northern Scents and Ralph's Orchard!
Any hacks for getting the adhesive residue left from the sticker off a Primark tshirt ?
Alcohol wipe? Not sire if that would discolour the t-shirt
Lighter fuel will remove most sticky stuff without damaging the product
That sounds a bit extreme ! I don't have any lighter fuel in the house .
Heat it up using a hairdryer and then you should be able to scrap them off
xxFreeze it and it should peel off easily.
I’ve started having sharp pains in my neck back and right arm which I’m constantly using clicking with the mouse at work. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong maybe I’m sitting wrong, I don’t see anyone else at work with back and neck and arm pain from working/sitting and typing even if they’re slouched in their chair. I actually try to sit up straight but I do have so much tension. I find myself having to stretch my neck and back every 10 minutes or so and adjust myself and I really don’t know what to do or ask my doctor if it’s my job to sit at a desk all day. My chest hurts too
Your screen might not be high enough. You can also get aids from your employer to make you more comfortable e.g. chair, foot rest, arm and wrist supports etc.
They should be doing checks to make sure there isn't a problem.
I remember being told my thighs should look like they're sloping down a bit.
Basically sounds like you need an assessment which your line manager can organise.
@Jas28
I've found this with a picture which does show the slight thigh slope I remember being told about. My thighs were sloping up which I'd been doing for 25 years, hence my painful hip.
We had a visit from a medical person to our office who caused an absolute stink with management about my office equipment & chair and computer setup. Really had them panicking and jumping to it. So they could probably have got done for it.
www.mayoclinic.org
I've found this with a picture which does show the slight thigh slope I remember being told about. My thighs were sloping up which I'd been doing for 25 years, hence my painful hip.
We had a visit from a medical person to our office who caused an absolute stink with management about my office equipment & chair and computer setup. Really had them panicking and jumping to it. So they could probably have got done for it.
Office ergonomics: Your how-to guide
Use this visual ergonomics guide to make your sitting work space more comfortable.
www.mayoclinic.org
I think you have to be a VIP but even then I couldn’t work it out. I wanted to delete my current account and start over but couldn’t generate one.
It's not extreme at all, the fuel will evaporate almost immediately