The advice thread for random problems #6

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Does anyone compare themselves to others? And if you had a friend who said they’re not comparing themselves to others anymore would you assume they think they’re better than others and self righteous. I have a friend who does this constantly and such a negative way of thinking. I’ve told her I...

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[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I’m sick and feel like crap. My body aches and I have a headache, probably flu 🥲
What is your go to remedies? What do you swear by?
Also what do you eat?

 

[Snippysnips]

I’m sick and feel like crap. My body aches and I have a headache, probably flu 🥲
What is your go to remedies? What do you swear by?
Also what do you eat?

I've just gotten over it, I use the lemsip cold an flu tablets, it doesn't actually get rid of it but I find especially with the night ones it lessons the aches an gives me a chance at a better night sleep so speeds up the process with feeling better

As for eating an drinking I take in more water an I try to keep my eating as normal as I can, even when I cannot face cooking I force myself just so am still keeping a good diet, while junk food feels like the easy choice you feel worse in the long run with it

Hot showers/baths as well, steam does wonders for the stuffyness

Hope you feel better soon

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I've just gotten over it, I use the lemsip cold an flu tablets, it doesn't actually get rid of it but I find especially with the night ones it lessons the aches an gives me a chance at a better night sleep so speeds up the process with feeling better

As for eating an drinking I take in more water an I try to keep my eating as normal as I can, even when I cannot face cooking I force myself just so am still keeping a good diet, while junk food feels like the easy choice you feel worse in the long run with it

Hot showers/baths as well, steam does wonders for the stuffyness

Hope you feel better soon

It’s the achy stuffy face that’s keeping me awake. Even my teeth are aching.
I will get some lemsip and see if it helps

 

[Thank(space)you]

You can get a nasal spray which helps loads if you've got sinus pain/congestion

 

[aouc23]

I don’t know if this is the right thread but I’m not sure how to set up my own.



I’m in my early 30s, been in a relationship for approx 6 years and live together, no kids. We've both been previous quite big drinkers - would love to go out to the pub and for meals etc - would do this every weekend. Been in this habit of spending weekends this way since my early 20s. Ive started to react differently to alcohol - hangovers terrible and no longer get the enjoyment out of spending my weekends drinking. Manage to go a few weekends of everything in moderation then I'll slip up and fall back into old habits. Drink a higher amount, hungover the next day which is wasted eating crap and lying on the couch. It now causes a lot of anxiety and it takes me days to get in a positive and productive mindset again. I feel sick of falling back into this weekend habit but it's so engrained it's hard to change and not get carried away.



Im just wondering if any other 30 something is feeling this way, stuck in a rut but feeling the cycle is hard to break? Has alcohol started to have a different effect on mental wellbeing? Is it time for us to grow up and start a family? has starting a family helped to break unhealthy cycles?

 

[Phil Anne Throw Pee]

I don’t know if this is the right thread but I’m not sure how to set up my own.



I’m in my early 30s, been in a relationship for approx 6 years and live together, no kids. We've both been previous quite big drinkers - would love to go out to the pub and for meals etc - would do this every weekend. Been in this habit of spending weekends this way since my early 20s. Ive started to react differently to alcohol - hangovers terrible and no longer get the enjoyment out of spending my weekends drinking. Manage to go a few weekends of everything in moderation then I'll slip up and fall back into old habits. Drink a higher amount, hungover the next day which is wasted eating crap and lying on the couch. It now causes a lot of anxiety and it takes me days to get in a positive and productive mindset again. I feel sick of falling back into this weekend habit but it's so engrained it's hard to change and not get carried away.



Im just wondering if any other 30 something is feeling this way, stuck in a rut but feeling the cycle is hard to break? Has alcohol started to have a different effect on mental wellbeing? Is it time for us to grow up and start a family? has starting a family helped to break unhealthy cycles?

The only advice I have is that starting a family is never a way to break unhealthy cycles. Families should be started from a good place and not to try and plaster over cracks in life. I'd say starting a family would be the worst thing to do until you have both tried to sort out your issues.

 

[gabbysolis]

I don’t know if this is the right thread but I’m not sure how to set up my own.



I’m in my early 30s, been in a relationship for approx 6 years and live together, no kids. We've both been previous quite big drinkers - would love to go out to the pub and for meals etc - would do this every weekend. Been in this habit of spending weekends this way since my early 20s. Ive started to react differently to alcohol - hangovers terrible and no longer get the enjoyment out of spending my weekends drinking. Manage to go a few weekends of everything in moderation then I'll slip up and fall back into old habits. Drink a higher amount, hungover the next day which is wasted eating crap and lying on the couch. It now causes a lot of anxiety and it takes me days to get in a positive and productive mindset again. I feel sick of falling back into this weekend habit but it's so engrained it's hard to change and not get carried away.



Im just wondering if any other 30 something is feeling this way, stuck in a rut but feeling the cycle is hard to break? Has alcohol started to have a different effect on mental wellbeing? Is it time for us to grow up and start a family? has starting a family helped to break unhealthy cycles?

The cycle is yours to break - it’s not the job of a baby/child to distract or busy you (it won’t work). If you both really genuinely want kids, focus on your health (physical, emotional, mental). Work on yourself for yourself so that you’re capable of life and feel strong in your ability to be a good parent.

Some people can drink in moderation. I can’t. I can’t just have ‘two or three’, I still feel a heavy impact. I used to drink and go out all the time, but had to stop when I was 25 to focus on myself. 27 now and still feel pangs of sadness missing my past life but those pangs are nothing compared to the torture and fog of being hungover.

 

[TheGlossy]

The clocks went backwards yesterday and I can say my anxiety kicked in immediately. When I realised it’s pitch black at 5.30pm, I literally almost cried.

It’s never really affected me much but this year, it has. I’ve been in an anxious mood since the clocks went backwards. Aside from buying those sunlight lamps and waking up early, is there anything I can do to deal with this?

 

[conrea37]

The clocks went backwards yesterday and I can say my anxiety kicked in immediately. When I realised it’s pitch black at 5.30pm, I literally almost cried.

It’s never really affected me much but this year, it has. I’ve been in an anxious mood since the clocks went backwards. Aside from buying those sunlight lamps and waking up early, is there anything I can do to deal with this?

It might be hard for many reasons but try and get out and about when you can during the day? That helped me massively, got myself an outdoor hobby. Vitamin D tablets can also be helpful.

 

[Jas28]

Can anyone recommend a good office chair for home use which fits the health and safety requirements. I’ve got back issues at the moment and I think it’s from my posture when working

 

[cowtastrophe]

Can anyone recommend a good office chair for home use which fits the health and safety requirements. I’ve got back issues at the moment and I think it’s from my posture when working

We have the IKEA Markus. It’s not the cheapest but both of us have suffered from bad backs from desk work and it’s really good.

MARKUS Vissle dark grey, Office chair - IKEA UK

MARKUS Vissle dark grey, Office chair. Adjust the height and angle of this chair so your workday feels comfortable – the mesh backrest lets air through so you keep cool even when the workload rises. Built to outlast years of ups and downs.

www.ikea.com

 

[RocksOff]

We have the IKEA Markus. It’s not the cheapest but both of us have suffered from bad backs from desk work and it’s really good.

MARKUS Vissle dark grey, Office chair - IKEA UK

MARKUS Vissle dark grey, Office chair. Adjust the height and angle of this chair so your workday feels comfortable – the mesh backrest lets air through so you keep cool even when the workload rises. Built to outlast years of ups and downs.

www.ikea.com

Can absolutely recommend this too, like.you we were both getting dreadful backache and these chairs helped a lot

 

[Bobbleowl90]

iPhones. Anyone got the 15 pro and is it ok? Don’t want to upgrade to a silly price per month and this is cheaper than the 16 but obviously not the newest model. Just wondering peoples opinions and if they’d recommend. Thanks.

 

[littlepup]

iPhones. Anyone got the 15 pro and is it ok? Don’t want to upgrade to a silly price per month and this is cheaper than the 16 but obviously not the newest model. Just wondering peoples opinions and if they’d recommend. Thanks.

My OH has just done this. The 16 wasn’t vastly different. I’d usually say don’t buy old technology but it this instance they they didn’t really make many improvements between the two models.
The next release will probably be the next big jump as it seems to go in cycles.

 

[BearOnChair]

My partner (man) is friends with a couple (m&f), tonight he's going out with the woman of the couple to meet a couple of other people we know in passing. The man of the couple is doing something else and I'm at home with the kids.
They'll share a taxi to and from the pub.
I don't know why but it feels a bit weird. I think because we don't go out alot ourselves due to lack of childcare and we're also not in a great place generally at the moment.

Is that just me or would it make anyone else feel odd?? I told him it felt uncomfortable he said it was me.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

My partner (man) is friends with a couple (m&f), tonight he's going out with the woman of the couple to meet a couple of other people we know in passing. The man of the couple is doing something else and I'm at home with the kids.
They'll share a taxi to and from the pub.
I don't know why but it feels a bit weird. I think because we don't go out alot ourselves due to lack of childcare and we're also not in a great place generally at the moment.

Is that just me or would it make anyone else feel odd?? I told him it felt uncomfortable he said it was me.

Personally I wouldn’t be bothered and I also wouldn’t let yourself go down that path with your thinking.
Unless he’s done something previously try to let it go. If people feel they aren’t being trusted the relationship will start sinking.

 

[Rodneytrotter]

My partner (man) is friends with a couple (m&f), tonight he's going out with the woman of the couple to meet a couple of other people we know in passing. The man of the couple is doing something else and I'm at home with the kids.
They'll share a taxi to and from the pub.
I don't know why but it feels a bit weird. I think because we don't go out alot ourselves due to lack of childcare and we're also not in a great place generally at the moment.

Is that just me or would it make anyone else feel odd?? I told him it felt uncomfortable he said it was me.

I wouldn't like it, unless it would be fine for me to do the same. Why can't he stay with the kids and you go out with a man?

 

[Thank(space)you]

Any advice for someone feeling like they're stuck in a rut?
I'm a single mum to an 8 year old, with limited free time and money. I have a job I mostly enjoy, but I feel like my life hasn't really changed in the last 4 years and I'm just stuck in a rut. Don't get me wrong, there have been some changes (a promotion at work, came off anti depressants and lost weight) but my life just feels so stagnant and dull. It seems like everyone else's lives are progressing around me and I'm just here

 

[Aliali23]

Saturday night I'd had a few wines and when I woke on Sunday I saw I'd accidentally followed one of the dads from my kids school I swiftly unfollowed but they'd seen it, accepted it and requested to follow me. I left it but today accepted. I can't stop cringing the. I've never even spoken ti them!! How am I supposed to face the school gates. Should I have messaged saying it was an accident!!!