The advice thread for random problems #5

[Peonyprincess]

Does anyone know if it’s at all possible to self study for A-levels at home for free when you’re 16 , rather than go to college ?
Context … my niece is absolutely hating college , to the point wheee her mental health has massively worsened . She had a panic attack on the journey there this week , and had to go home and hasn’t been able to go since .
She has an awful lot going on on her personal life , and genuinely doesn’t think she can physically / mentally handle going into college , but would still like to study A-level at home
We’ve googled and there our places that offer an online learning experience for A-levels , but they cost £££££….. is there anyway do student home for free , for 16-18 year olds ?
Any advice would be much appreciated xx

 

[littlepup]

Does anyone know if it’s at all possible to self study for A-levels at home for free when you’re 16 , rather than go to college ?
Context … my niece is absolutely hating college , to the point wheee her mental health has massively worsened . She had a panic attack on the journey there this week , and had to go home and hasn’t been able to go since .
She has an awful lot going on on her personal life , and genuinely doesn’t think she can physically / mentally handle going into college , but would still like to study A-level at home
We’ve googled and there our places that offer an online learning experience for A-levels , but they cost £££££….. is there anyway do student home for free , for 16-18 year olds ?
Any advice would be much appreciated xx

I don’t know re home study but if she was ok at school, is there a 6th form she can attend - less intense environment?

Hi it’s not a road it forms part of the pathway to my house/drive if that makes sense

if it’s your land I’d have a word and say you didn’t realised it wasn’t a 1 off and you’d like to keep the space free for your own visitors. You could say you’ve got someone coming to stay if you need to soften the blow. It’s unlikely they’ll come back and question you on it when they see you don’t.

 

[griftalo]

Does anyone know if it’s at all possible to self study for A-levels at home for free when you’re 16 , rather than go to college ?
Context … my niece is absolutely hating college , to the point wheee her mental health has massively worsened . She had a panic attack on the journey there this week , and had to go home and hasn’t been able to go since .
She has an awful lot going on on her personal life , and genuinely doesn’t think she can physically / mentally handle going into college , but would still like to study A-level at home
We’ve googled and there our places that offer an online learning experience for A-levels , but they cost £££££….. is there anyway do student home for free , for 16-18 year olds ?
Any advice would be much appreciated xx

You’d have to apply for an EHCP and possibly get funding through that but a semh college would be more likely what you’d get. One of my kids went to one and it was an absolute godsend. If you had an EHCP you can get transport often which means that going in is made easy as your taxi picks you up and brings you back again after

 

[Jas28]

honeslty I dont have any achievments and they are the ideal child my parent wanted to it hurts even more. but as the advice is easily given. but thank you fro replying and i am sure you also have achievements sending lots of love.
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yh thats true, it's just I have been compared to this person and their achievements/milestones and now they got thier next one so it feels like a stab in the heart and i cannot shake the feeling off.

That’s rude, someone else comparing you to others. Especially if they haven’t walked in your shoes. I would be wary of that person don’t let anyone make you feel less than.

 

[Rodneytrotter]

My daughter is in Year 10 and doing well academically but struggles socially. She won't do her Maths homework because the teacher shows on the board who has completed their homework and who hasn't. She doesn't want to be called a nerd for doing her homework. My daughter is extremely shy and I'dhate for her to feel embarrassed, but equally Year 10 is an important year and I'd like her to keep doing well in her Maths.

I just wondered what other people think as I've just had a notification that she hasn't completed her maths homework again.

 

[Mamacita]

My daughter is in Year 10 and doing well academically but struggles socially. She won't do her Maths homework because the teacher shows on the board who has completed their homework and who hasn't. She doesn't want to be called a nerd for doing her homework. My daughter is extremely shy and I'dhate for her to feel embarrassed, but equally Year 10 is an important year and I'd like her to keep doing well in her Maths.

I just wondered what other people think as I've just had a notification that she hasn't completed her maths homework again.

What is the teachers aim with showing who did their homework

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

My daughter is in Year 10 and doing well academically but struggles socially. She won't do her Maths homework because the teacher shows on the board who has completed their homework and who hasn't. She doesn't want to be called a nerd for doing her homework. My daughter is extremely shy and I'dhate for her to feel embarrassed, but equally Year 10 is an important year and I'd like her to keep doing well in her Maths.

I just wondered what other people think as I've just had a notification that she hasn't completed her maths homework again.

In your position I'd approach the school about this. This is a wellbeing issue that could potentially impact her education. She may start getting into trouble for not completing the homework. Also, there might be aspects of the subject she's unsure of and that will be missed if the teacher isn't getting to see the homework.

I really think in this instance the school should be requesting the teacher adjust that particular element of her teaching style for that class. The GCSE's years are stressful enough for students and mental health and wellbeing is being taken seriously by a lot more schools these days.

In the meantime, do you think your daughter would consider a compromise? Perhaps she could complete the homework even if she doesn't hand it in. That way, if challenged, she can demonstrate she has done it and prove she isn't just being defiant. I know that might be a bit more awkward if the homework is on an app (my children's Maths h/w is) but copying the questions into a workbook should be OK.

 

[Rodneytrotter]

In your position I'd approach the school about this. This is a wellbeing issue that could potentially impact her education. She may start getting into trouble for not completing the homework. Also, there might be aspects of the subject she's unsure of and that will be missed if the teacher isn't getting to see the homework.

I really think in this instance the school should be requesting the teacher adjust that particular element of her teaching style for that class. The GCSE's years are stressful enough for students and mental health and wellbeing is being taken seriously by a lot more schools these days.

In the meantime, do you think your daughter would consider a compromise? Perhaps she could complete the homework even if she doesn't hand it in. That way, if challenged, she can demonstrate she has done it and prove she isn't just being defiant. I know that might be a bit more awkward if the homework is on an app (my children's Maths h/w is) but copying the questions into a workbook should be OK.

Thanks yes she's just agreed to do her homework as she has a supply teacher at the moment who doesn't name them on the board. Her homework is on an app, it's really good. I'm going to email the school to ensure they aren't named and shamed.

 

[becca7721]

My daughter is in Year 10 and doing well academically but struggles socially. She won't do her Maths homework because the teacher shows on the board who has completed their homework and who hasn't. She doesn't want to be called a nerd for doing her homework. My daughter is extremely shy and I'dhate for her to feel embarrassed, but equally Year 10 is an important year and I'd like her to keep doing well in her Maths.

I just wondered what other people think as I've just had a notification that she hasn't completed her maths homework again.

It sounds like the teacher is viewing doing that as encouragement for the class and, not actually thought it through, sometimes things that work on paper/assignments don’t actually translate into the real world of a class of 14/15 year olds who are going to be pouncing on differences because that’s what happens at that age.

I’m sure if it’s pointed out to the teacher in an appropriate way by another they won’t do it anymore.

 

[WeHadFunRight]

It sounds like the teacher is viewing doing that as encouragement for the class and, not actually thought it through, sometimes things that work on paper/assignments don’t actually translate into the real world of a class of 14/15 year olds who are going to be pouncing on differences because that’s what happens at that age.

I’m sure if it’s pointed out to the teacher in an appropriate way by another they won’t do it anymore.

Yeah, this is a nudge tactic that tries to get people to “do the right thing” like when you see those signs like “96% of people don’t litter” people don’t want to be the odd ones out but at school you just want to be cool bless them

 

[Rxt156]

I bet the teacher will have no idea how your daughter is feeling. Definitely bring it up. If i was doing something that upset someone I would want to know. This happened once, I used a wheel spinner to pick names. One boy told his parents he was so anxious his name would come up that he would feel so sick he couldn’t concentrate. I had no idea. I left his name off the spinner (no one else knew ofc) and I would engage with him 1 on 1 when there was less pressure which in turn made him feel better . Although these days we are told that cold calling pupils is the way forward (very modern and popular on twitter - there’s no putting up hands these days) so we are back to square 1 I suppose.

 

[littlepup]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

 

[Snippysnips]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

I still have it listed as what it is an what I got for each one but I've yet to meet anyone who actually cares about it, company's like the look of being able to see it but I don't think they are actually interested, when I was at school it was standard grades we done which have long since moved on as it's GCSE's now

IMO once you hit mid 20s what you done at school shouldn't matter nor should you be expected to provide it an company's shouldn't discriminate you for not putting down subjects an the grade, it should be your experience you have that matters an anything you took as an adult or stages in a company you climbed that matter

 

[qqwertyy]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

Yep I do. “9 GCSEs grades A-C” or whatever

 

[WeHadFunRight]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

Yes, the more your work experience goes on the less they give a flying duck you got an A* for media studies x

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

I cant remember my grades from high school Also I don't think anybody even looks at it but as I'm from abroad I will be making up my grades

 

[Mamacita]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

I'm not from UK so my grades don't mean anything to people here and I've never put them on my CV. Only my uni and work experience.

 

[becca7721]

Do you think by the time you're 30+ and have more industry experience you can just put under 'education' on a CV something like "Spring field high school, 2005 - 2010 - GCSEs - All grades A-D" or does it need to be more specific? Then the name of the college, course and grade without any explanation of the content. It's not really relevant to the role, is anyone going to care if you got a B for history and a D for Art?

Depends on the job. I got asked at interview why I chose the subjects I did and got the grades I did.

I had the required professional degree to do the job but got turned down because I had no idea; in feedback I asked why and I was told because GCSEs were essential part of the criteria.

So yes it might matter.

Sorry if that doesn’t help.

 

[tomato_paste]

Depends on the job. I got asked at interview why I chose the subjects I did and got the grades I did.

I had the required professional degree to do the job but got turned down because I had no idea; in feedback I asked why and I was told because GCSEs were essential part of the criteria.

So yes it might matter.

Sorry if that doesn’t help.

That's just dumb. "Lets use something you chose at an age where hormones are high and you aren't even fully formed as a person to determine your suitability for a job years later"
Smh

 

[becca7721]

That's just dumb. "Lets use something you chose at an age where hormones are high and you aren't even fully formed as a person to determine your suitability for a job years later"
Smh

I never said it was a good idea or mine for that matter; simply that was my experience at an interview.