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What sort of event? I would wear a leather jacket or just take a warm shawl
I would take nothing else just in case n it ruins the outfit/you have to hold it/you have to put it down and potentially forget it. If it’s indoor event certainly no outer layer for me
I want to change schools for my 7yr child ( it'll be their third school). They don't want to because of one favourite teacher who's there 2 days a week. Academically and socially, they've gone backwards in a big way. They have a few friends but their bestie moved states. Should I move her or should I allow her one more year at the "easy" school? She is not being challenged in any area, despite me talking to teachers about it.
Many thanks in advance
Many thanks in advance
In that case, I would definitely take a top layer. Churches can be quite cold.
I don’t have children but I imagine changing schools so often can also knock their confidence. Plus the issues might not go away. Also your child wants to stay so the underlying problem might be different to what you think.
Personally I would try and work with the school. Are they being bullied? Or is it more that they don’t make friends?
How do you know she isn’t being challenged?
a change of school is a big deal and being the newbie again would be tough
Thank you for your response. She tells me it's very easy, she shows me what she does. I have also had her tested and she is considered gifted. She was bullied but that was kind of dealt with but now is kind of left out of things.
. Which she doesn't mind too much... it's just said to witness.
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She would know 2 people at the new school
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She makes friends fine. She also wants to stay because she doesn't have to try very hard... her words. She wants to stay because she loves this particular teacher who is there two days a week.
If she is gifted then why not have her skip a grade or 2? Is there a reason they’ve not offered you this option
Keep the school, get a tutor or resources at home to encourage her if she’s socially happy there.
Gifited status can be a curse. Have a look up online. The weight of expectation, the feeling ahead to they stop listening then get overtaken, being told how clever they are so again the above happens. The school should support every child but if she’s really advanced compared to her peers can they really cater for her individually in the way you’d want, it is plausible at any school?
So I sent a cat picture to the crazy stalking ex-neighbour with some generic message of everyone is doing well, enjoying the last of the summer. She responded normally - said she's glad he's happy and wishes me all the best. All good and peaceful.
Today I see she's tagged me in a comment on Facebook. She had found me on Facebook when she lived nearby and I had, stupidly, accepted the request (back when she seemed relatively normal). She began to tag and send me 6, 7 memes a day - to the point where I had to tell her several times I just don't use Facebook, I don't check my messages, I'm not on often. I set my account so she wouldn't see when I was online (I call/message my daughter using it so I am on a lot).
The comment was on a post of a complete stranger to me, she'd shared a 'happy ginger cat day' post. The crazy neighbour commented saying she's so very very sad that I don't realise she needs me to reach out proactively rather than her asking for updates and it breaks her heart after she 'entrusted' the cat to me. She tagged me in the comment.
I'm honestly speechless - I answer every message she sends, but I don't reach out spontaneously because quite frankly she's easily encouraged and her behaviour is quite scary (she's previously turned up at my door uninvited). She reads into everything and wants us to be best friends. I'm scared of proactively messaging because I don't want her to think I want more of a relationship.
I've explained why I'm scared to go no-contact before considering she knows my address and legally I'm not quite sure where I stand with the cat (and there's no way I'm giving him back). But Jesus, what would you do???
There is a way you can set your FB to stop people tagging you, so I'd set up the FB to the point she can't do anything like that without you knowing
I know you said you are scared to go no contact but personally I think it's best to really look into that, if you are able to sit in your house without anyone knowing you are home (like living area to the back) then I would do that an just not answer the door, maybe look into a ring doorbell so you can see who's at the door as well? Just so you don't miss anyone you don't want too, an just straight up an block all contact
I assume you have the cats registered to a vets? Maybe ask advice there on where you stand with having her cat, do you have anything where she's said she was handing it over? Messages, written paper? If you have anything keep it, but maybe see if the vet can advise, personally if she's said you are to keep it then Tbh you aren't under any obligation to even keep her updated, she's handed the animal an all rights over to you an needs to learn that
Or you can take a real risky chance an say that due to funds or due to a new job you are "moving in with friends/family" an state a place that's miles from you, like other side of the country
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Ignore the FB comment. You’ve said you’re not on there, she doesn’t know you’ve seen it. No one who knows you will see it if you don’t comment on it. Do not engage with her on FB - keep the contact limited to just replying to her texts (and of course only replying to texts she sends). She’s trying to draw you back into conversation in different forums now she can’t just turn up on your doorstep and expect to speak to you. It doesn’t seem it, but this means the slow freeze is working.
She’ll drop the FB angle if she doesn’t get any engagement on there. You might get more texts but keep to the plan of bland non-committal replies and you will see the back of her soon.
Sounds like an attention seeking move from her. Ignore and continue to grey rock.
I need to book some train tickets for early next year - is there a sweet spot when they are cheapest?
Good to know about the FB tag! I'll get my daughter to set it up. I actually share an access gate with a few houses - a bit like the front door in a block of flats - and for deliveries we have our names and house numbers on the buzzer. It's a very outdated phone system we've had talks about replacing but for now, it's almost impossible for her not to know I'm still there (and we also tend to just buzz in whoever calls as it's a safe area and usually just post for each other).
I'll reach out to the vet and see what they say. What makes me nervous is that despite now not having seen the cat in over a year and no actual requests to, we never signed any kind of formal contract. Any time she's mentioned it now, she seems careful with her words - she's 'entrusted' him to me but never 'XXX owns him now' outright. But I've registered him to a vet, taken him regularly, and he's well looked after now and I have all of his medical papers from her.
Thanks @Clickbait and @Rodneytrotter also!
Hmm it's tricky if she's being smart by using the words "entrusted" an hasn't just outright said it's yours, am not sure how it works but I'd imagine there's some sort of time limit on it like if it's been over a year then surely she can't suddenly have claims to the cat again or be entitled to any news of said cat
How old is it? If it's getting on I know it sounds cruel an nasty but could you say it's passed on?
I'd still do what clickbait said an just really limited the messages, even take a few days to reply an say you are just busy an keep them short, I hope she eventually leaves you alone, it must be incredible annoying an frustrating that she keeps at you
Are they for UK travel? You usually can only book a certain amount of weeks ahead in the UK. Unless a promotion is running, the earlier the better I’d suggest. I would recommend checking out the TrainPal app - they offer split tickets search as standard which will usually save around £2-3 per ticket and they’re also offering money off for new users of the app.
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