struggling with restrictions thread.

[Cl365090]

Honestly, if you’re struggling alone with a new baby, I would say fuck the rules and see your family. Your mental health and well-being and that of your child’s is important too. You have to weigh up the risks yourself in situations like that. Props to you for taking care of baby during the pandemic. Being a new mum is isolating enough sometimes without a bloody pandemic to contend with on top of it

Thankyou so much
sending my love to you and family too!

I am in the process of sorting out a support bubble ect as everyone else seems to have one x

I can't even begin to imagine what it is like for new mums in all of this. Motherhood can be isolating enough as it is without lockdown to contend with. Please feel free to message me if you want to talk more - I'm a first time mum and my daughter is now a toddler but I remember those early days and months and how tough it was.

I feel lucky to have my husband and daughter but we have no family close by and whilst Skype and facetime is great, it's definitely not the same. I feel grateful that my daughter is still able to go to nursery but I feel guilty that she seems to prefer being there than at home because it's more fun and she can see other kids but the weekends are just being home and we are exhausted from work and the general monotony of lockdown. I can't get excited over the 200th trip to the same park, we have no space for crafts as my husband is working at the dining table and we have to be careful of noise because his bosses moan that our daughter occasionally shrieks or cries at meal times which are taking place less than a metre away from his workspace because it is THE ONLY place either of these things can happen! I can't bring myself to even consider what is going to be announced next week as I dont care about pubs or shops. I just want to see my mum and dad, let my daughter play with her friends, go back to a brilliant toddler class every week and do something other than the fucking park!

Thankyou so much I can’t imagine how hard is trying to keep a toddler entertained indoors and just going to the park especially when it’s not the warmest!
You are doing well don’t forget to give yourself credit x

 

[Renata]

I find the routine so boring. I have started organising my cupboards again.

I feel like we are far away from anything normal (shops, restaurants , family etc).

This routine is killing me.

 

[TheScarletgirl]

I use to go out a lot before lockdown saw my friends went shopping and cinema by myself and just had a me day to get my hair done. These were my little comforts that i enjoyed . i know it is really silly things but i just miss having the freedom to do as i like .

 

[Kim Mild]

I can't even begin to imagine what it is like for new mums in all of this. Motherhood can be isolating enough as it is without lockdown to contend with. Please feel free to message me if you want to talk more - I'm a first time mum and my daughter is now a toddler but I remember those early days and months and how tough it was.

I feel lucky to have my husband and daughter but we have no family close by and whilst Skype and facetime is great, it's definitely not the same. I feel grateful that my daughter is still able to go to nursery but I feel guilty that she seems to prefer being there than at home because it's more fun and she can see other kids but the weekends are just being home and we are exhausted from work and the general monotony of lockdown. I can't get excited over the 200th trip to the same park, we have no space for crafts as my husband is working at the dining table and we have to be careful of noise because his bosses moan that our daughter occasionally shrieks or cries at meal times which are taking place less than a metre away from his workspace because it is THE ONLY place either of these things can happen! I can't bring myself to even consider what is going to be announced next week as I dont care about pubs or shops. I just want to see my mum and dad, let my daughter play with her friends, go back to a brilliant toddler class every week and do something other than the fucking park!

I'd be having word. with his boss reminding him that it is your and your daughter's home firstly . The boss has no authority over your daughter

 

[GiftedNotFree]

It’s such a drag now. Some aspects I have enjoyed; time to discover new things to do and hobbies; saving money and having a secure job; no travelling for work which I’ve done for years. The change was kind of welcomed, at first. But since October, things have taken a turn. I’d give everything to just have normal life back. I miss my friends more than I thought was possible. I’ve not seen them since September and my extended family too.
It’s frustrating because I’m lucky in so many ways but the days just drag on now. I miss the freedom of our previous existence. The past feels like a foreign land.

 

[Tots]

Just wanted a rant and felt like this was the right place. I’m a new young mom on maternity leave so for a start it can be lonely feeling like all my friends aren’t interested anymore and not many of them have babies and don’t really bother. Can’t see my family and living alone with my baby has been so hard. Not had much support with my baby and I also struggle with Bipolar and despite mental health support I’m just finding this so hard doing this without my family. He hasn’t even met most of his family yet. I have had my first dose of the vaccine due to being vulnerable. I just long for a sense of normality. Feels like every day is the same

I love my baby so much and they’re the only thing that’s kept me going honestly. It’s so hard being shut in
I’m just glad to be healthy and have a healthy baby that is a blessing in itself and I feel ungrateful and silly and over dramatic moaning

hope everyone is well and coping ok
Take it a day at a time is my best advice x

You have a baby under one so can legitimately form a support bubble with one other household even if both households are 2 adult households. You can then all act as one household, stay over and spend time indoors. I hope that helps x