They're very impulsive and self centered.
I think Shane is far more sheltered and selfish then the thinks. Shane shouldn't feel like a burden, I think he's so used to having everything done for him he feels fully entitled to Hannah wanting to do absolutely everything. He expects everyone to be a caregiver. IMO if you're putting as much or more energy into caring for someone else as you are for yourself (unless it's your child) then that's not healthy. That's codependency. Her identity revolves around being an activist for interabled couples and being Shane's spouse/caregiver. Shane's life revolves around Hannah because they never talk about anything else, it circles back to Shane and how they're trying to normalize that they live differently. Normalize it by treating it as if it's normal instead of another video about the non-sex you guys have. They're co-dependent.
Of course he thinks it's okay travel across state lines during a global pandemic like literally everyone else who is enough of an asshole to vacation during covid. He's also delusional enough to think "the only part of parenthood he can't do is pick his kid up from the floor," he was adamant he could do "literally everything else," which just
infuriated me because has he met a kid? Experienced what it's like to hold a screaming baby who has been crying for 30 minutes for absolutely no decipherable reason? The tantrum of a 2 year old? A 4 year old who runs across a parking lot because kids don't listen and do dumb shit? Has he babysat, if you can't babysit why would you try to argue you can parent a child. If you can't physically engage with a baby/toddler/small child that kid is literally not going to survive. He's selfish enough to not give a shit and have a kid anyway because he expects Hannah to do 100% of the things he wants and needs. You need more than love and motivational words to take care of a child and
if you can't be left alone with your own baby for 24 hours you have no business fathering a child. If Hannah was gone for a weekend Shane wouldn't be able to feed, clothe, or bath himself let alone keep a small child alive, one he chose to be responsible for but yet is unable to care for. That's so selfish I can't even comprehend it. Babies don't care if you have a nice little speech or dumb joke.
He sees nothing wrong with the fact that in order for Hannah to have a baby
they're hiring someone to temporarily care for Shane to give her a break.
Can you get more self absorbed? What makes them think they won't always need a care giver or her mom to help them? It's okay to need help but if you can't function independently in your adult life and you make more choices that make you more reliant on other people to get what you
want you're selfish. A baby is a want, it's not a need.
She's bringing in her mother to help her and saying that's normal. Where are the boundaries, it is okay to have boundaries and not expect everyone you're close to to be a caregiver, who would want their mother in law doing their personal care like bathing or ass wiping. It's normal for family to be together after a baby, it's not normal for you to need a caretaker for your husband and your mom for you and the baby because you chose to have a kid with someone who can't take care of YOU when you're pregnant/postpartum or equally participate in meeting your child's basic needs for survival. Shane has no appreciation or respect for Hannah or what she does, she's Taxi, Chef, Caregiver, Wife, Maid, and Mother.
The kicker is she's worried about THROWING UP. Girl be worried about literally tearing from your vagina to your asshole okay. How dumb can you get that throwing up is the worst case scenario.
