How do you all deal with different social currencies between adult siblings? After having worked fairly low-paid jobs until the last two years or so/ been single until I was in my mid-twenties, I am more surprised than anyone that I have a good job that I enjoy mostly/ am married/ co-own a house with my husband.
I am the second eldest of five children - all between mid twenties to mid thirties and I am the only one completely financially independent from my parents. Two of my siblings live with my parents (in London) and my parents also supplement my other siblings' rent in less expensive UK cities.
Now, not all my siblings want a partner/ a house/ children/ to work for a big organization like I do! I know that and I don't expect them to make the same life choices I have. But for some reason, over the last few years, they've all at some point said I make them feel like I do expect that, and when I stress I don't for one second think that and then ask for examples so I don't do it again, they can't think of any, so I just apologize and then the same thing happens a few months later coming, from my perspective, out of nowhere.
I don't think I'm better than them for any of my achievements - so much of my achievements have been based on some hard work, and the right choices at the right time, yes, but mainly a lot of luck. But they seem to think I do think that and I don't know how to change that. I do live in the US which I think puts more pressure on our relationships when I visit, which I try to do at least twice a year, so maybe that's part of it, but it's frustrating that it's changed our relationships so much.
I am the second eldest of five children - all between mid twenties to mid thirties and I am the only one completely financially independent from my parents. Two of my siblings live with my parents (in London) and my parents also supplement my other siblings' rent in less expensive UK cities.
Now, not all my siblings want a partner/ a house/ children/ to work for a big organization like I do! I know that and I don't expect them to make the same life choices I have. But for some reason, over the last few years, they've all at some point said I make them feel like I do expect that, and when I stress I don't for one second think that and then ask for examples so I don't do it again, they can't think of any, so I just apologize and then the same thing happens a few months later coming, from my perspective, out of nowhere.
I don't think I'm better than them for any of my achievements - so much of my achievements have been based on some hard work, and the right choices at the right time, yes, but mainly a lot of luck. But they seem to think I do think that and I don't know how to change that. I do live in the US which I think puts more pressure on our relationships when I visit, which I try to do at least twice a year, so maybe that's part of it, but it's frustrating that it's changed our relationships so much.
