It's odd one of them was a jewelry business for example, I wouldn't have thought too much of that, just someone growing a business. I didn't accept, I don't unless I know the person. But now I'm not so sure.
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An ex, not the one I refer too in OP, completely non committal, it wasn't even a relationship in truths, more hook ups and yet I followed him like a puppy dog. It was all on his say so, I desperately wanted to be in a proper relationship with him.
He moved and next thing I heard he had completely settled down, loved up, for ages after I couldn't get over why it wasn't me, I tried to find out all the info, seen pictures of her and to be honest she must have been good in bed because she was no looker!
Awful when that happens, we really think the problem lies within ourselves, when in reality it's not. They aren't together anymore and honestly while I wouldn't entertain him ever again, I did feel a little smug
men can be such trash sometimes. One of my exes, who was awful to me… met a girl from Australia on a trip we were supposed to be on together before he broke up with me out of the blue. I was devastated when we broke up. He’d pursued me even when initially I’d been disinterested, and it was the first time I’d let my guard down with someone. He said some very cruel and callous things, and started to show himself to be a very self centred person. Very early on I knew he wasn’t the one - I don’t know if he picked up on that. But the rejection and the cruelty cut me to the bone and took *years* to get over, and many hours of social media stalking/crying. Especially when I saw him doing a ton of stuff with this new girl and introducing him to our mutual friends.
Anyway, they must’ve been on/off and her prolific social media posting kinda gave it away.
She put online that they went official… then she went on a working holiday for a few months during which time, he was messaging me. Id assumed they’d broken up. He drunk text me at one point and told me he was torn between the two of us (not that I’d actually ever given him a reason to believe I wanted to get back together with him, he was just arrogant AF). We were supposed to travel to a mutual friends birthday party together and I *know* we could’ve hooked up, but I wasn’t interested in him anymore and it was a bit of a wake up call. The part of me that was tempted was just hurt ego, So I pulled a sickie, didn’t go and haven’t seen him since.
Shortly after she came back to the U.K. and resumed posting with him like nothing happened. She posted about their anniversary on dates which don’t align with that initial “going official” post years ago.
Gut instinct tells me he broke up with her, tested the waters with me and got back together with her at a later point. I don’t think I’d have ever realised if I hadn’t snooped on their social media. Snooping was a real eye opener because… you really can pick up on things even if it isn’t totally reflective of reality. E.g. I could tell she idolises him because she posted gushing captions about him constantly, posted poetry about a city guy (he’s from London) taking a small town girl (she’s a bit bogan) to see the world. I think she saw him as better and more worldly than her. She never posted any of her own friends or hobbies. Everything was about him, with him and with his friends. They’d go to concerts he always wanted to go to. Visit places on his bucket list. Moved to his preferred part of london.
Im surprised it lasted tbh, and I remember saying to a mutual friend… “I bet he’s stayed with her because he wants to move to Australia” her having grown up there, having a ready made Aussie family and being able to jump in with her friendship circle… makes it all easier. It was a very gutteral, instinctive feel.
right enough, he married her and has since moved permanently to Australia.
I don’t think our text exchanges would classify as cheating at all, but I couldn’t help but notice some patterns… he pushed me into “going official” with him on social media, just to abruptly end things with me a couple of months later. I’d always had a gut feeling he was texting an ex or another girl, but never got proof.
I was cut up about this new, plain girl and couldn’t understand why he rejected me so cruelly… but I got my answers from snooping on her socials and it was because she had him on a pedestal, made it easy for him to drop her and pick her back up when it suited, and was an easy avenue into the dream living location for him. She works in the medical field so like someone else’s ex, I think he saw her as a “nurse and a purse” since he works a very bland, boring, low paid job.
I’m not sure I’d have ever made peace with it the same way if I hadn’t snooped. For years I thought there was something wrong with me, something instrinsixally off because… he was in a long term relationship while I was single.
I think it slowly dawned on me from snooping, that the problem was always him. I was a little immature and a little too emotional for him tbf, but ultimately he wanted a fan girl not an equal partner. And it really cemented for me that he was never the person for me, that a lot of the hurt I went through wasn’t the loss of him (cos He was
tank as a person) but it was the rejection and cruelty that cut me so deeply, which I think helped me heal and move on for good.
(sorry for dumping my experiences on you all, this is becoming very cathartic for me and I’m becoming a huge fan of encouraging snooping on our exes and their new partners
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’, but his current gf appears to be both of those things (nothing wrong with that) and outgoing.
I'd say they are just random but that article 
all while she was posting online about 'her guy'
