I follow my partners ex on a burner account, cringe for myself but I’m nosy
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I definitely snoop (more like stalk
) their social media, along with their new partner.
What’s everyone’s take on if you were briefly dating someone a year ago, everything ended on good terms, but you both added each other to Instagram. Neither of us really use Instagram or even post, so no interacting on there- is it childish and unnecessary to unfollow them?
) their social media, along with their new partner.What’s everyone’s take on if you were briefly dating someone a year ago, everything ended on good terms, but you both added each other to Instagram. Neither of us really use Instagram or even post, so no interacting on there- is it childish and unnecessary to unfollow them?
Do ittttttttt.Seriously considering a burner account
I’ve considered doing this to snoop on my ex’s closed IG account, but won’t it be immediately obvious that it’s a burner account?
Yes we need the details! As I agree surely they have no friends or follows? Pics etc? Though suppose for fb that's easy enough as you can switch most of that stuff off.
Can someone give us a lesson
And do you use the same mobile device?
I’d probably not admit this to anyone other than v close friends …but I snoop a lot on social media..
there’s a guy I was in love with at Uni from afar. He was super clever, handsome, captain of the rugby team and from the same home town as me. We’d always bump into each other but the timing was wrong. I had a boyfriend initially… then I was single but he had a girlfriend… then we finally got together briefly before he moved overseas and has been there ever since. I don’t think we’d have worked out as a couple at all, but it’s always a bit bitter sweet to wonder how things could’ve gone. I very much doubt he ever thinks about me!
I had a couple of crappy exes and I occassionally look them up. One got engaged shortly after I did, and I look at his fiancé online and **really** hope he treats her better than he treated me.
another ex broke my heart because of how callous and selfish he was. He love bombed me then dumped me out of nowhere. It shook me for years, long after I realised he was an idiot and I was well rid. It completely changed how I viewed men and relationships. He met his now wife on a trip we were supposed to go on together and she moved across the world to be with him. Her neediness and adoration of him is probably why he married her tbh, his ego would be too fragile to be with someone who ever questioned him. They have a daughter now and she frequently humble brags online about how brilliant he is. Her life revolves around him entirely. I was at a wedding with him and she just sort of meekly followed him around. A part of me thinks maybe he’s changed drastically since we dated, but mostly I feel sorry for her that this is her idea of a dream husband and father.
i found out that another douchebag ex had blamed me for dumping his ex (who he cheated on me with. She didn’t know I existed at the time) via her Twitter. He’d also told her a bunch of lies about me to her, which she repeated online. I’m glad I found that out. I discovered her online after not only her viewing my insta stories… but her mum was involved in looking too. It also confirmed to me that he’d cheated on me (she was a prolific tweeter and posted their dates together and things he’d said). It actually helped me move on when I realised what had happened.
annnnd I’ve been the victim of online stalking. My fiancé broke up with his ex years ago and she is a bit of a sociopath. I found out later she emotionally blackmailed him, manipulated him into giving her huge amounts of money, and tried to break us up several times in the early stages of us dating. We got together about a year after they split, but she obsessively stalked my insta stories. It was a fairly new feature at the time and I don’t think she realised I could see. Or maybe she did and didn’t care. And I mean Like, relentless stalked. I’d post a story and she’d have watched it within minutes. It became a bit of a game for me… I’d post something innocuous then check to see if she’d viewed it within 5 minutes. Usually she had. She must’ve been glued to her phone refreshing my account. She’d frequently accidentally like my pictures too. At the time I didn’t realise what a sociopath she was and didn’t want to embarrass her, so just ignored it and didn’t say anything. A lot of tit happened and when I realised what an absolute lunatic she was (she created multiple fake accounts to stalk me when I blocked her, and at one point she blocked me so I couldn’t block her, and then unblocked specifically to view and like my pictures). I told my ex who then confronted her and asked that she stopped stalking me, at which point she flat out denied it. She’d been doing it for about a year at that point. She made a fake profile of a little boy and called it the name my partner wants to name his first kid. That’s how creepy it was. She’d copy my pictures and captions from insta onto her own at times. Even now, she copies places we’ve gone to, recreates pictures we’ve taken together etc.
it sounds silly and over dramatic looking back, but it had a real impact on me. I was scared to post anything in case I accidentally revealed my address or where I lived. At the time there was a spat of acid attacks happening in the U.K. and I was terrified she’d take a hit out on me (lol). She was genuinely that unhinged and unpredictable. She was also super vindicative to my partner. I really don’t know what she was capable of. It was like a narcissistic rage, there was no way she was in love with him based on how she treated him. But it was like she just couldn’t accept or handle the rejection.
She moved away a few years ago and I locked down all my socials, blocked any suspect accounts as well as her. I used to be a lot more open online but that made me super guarded.
I made a burner account to follow her purely for my own peace of mind. After a solid year of relentless stalking me and my ex, she then started posting online alluding to her being a victim. Unbelievable. She’s got a new boyfriend now who she has love bombed and gotten engaged to within months of knowing him. Part of me wishes her well, mostly I think he doesn’t know what he has signed up for or what she’s capable of, poor sod. I had to do a trawl of fake accounts just a couple of weeks ago because I’d noticed she’d copied a photo I’d posted.
overall, I like being able to see what people are up to. I think it’s good to reflect. I’m glad I’m able to look at my exes profiles and feel immense relief. I blamed myself for being broken up with but by doing a bit of stalking and seeing his new girlfriend, I understand that it was more about him than me, and his own insecurities. I don’t think id have ever realised that if it hadn’t been for social media snooping.
but then obvs it can be really hurtful, and bring out the absolute worst in people.
there’s a guy I was in love with at Uni from afar. He was super clever, handsome, captain of the rugby team and from the same home town as me. We’d always bump into each other but the timing was wrong. I had a boyfriend initially… then I was single but he had a girlfriend… then we finally got together briefly before he moved overseas and has been there ever since. I don’t think we’d have worked out as a couple at all, but it’s always a bit bitter sweet to wonder how things could’ve gone. I very much doubt he ever thinks about me!
I had a couple of crappy exes and I occassionally look them up. One got engaged shortly after I did, and I look at his fiancé online and **really** hope he treats her better than he treated me.
another ex broke my heart because of how callous and selfish he was. He love bombed me then dumped me out of nowhere. It shook me for years, long after I realised he was an idiot and I was well rid. It completely changed how I viewed men and relationships. He met his now wife on a trip we were supposed to go on together and she moved across the world to be with him. Her neediness and adoration of him is probably why he married her tbh, his ego would be too fragile to be with someone who ever questioned him. They have a daughter now and she frequently humble brags online about how brilliant he is. Her life revolves around him entirely. I was at a wedding with him and she just sort of meekly followed him around. A part of me thinks maybe he’s changed drastically since we dated, but mostly I feel sorry for her that this is her idea of a dream husband and father.
i found out that another douchebag ex had blamed me for dumping his ex (who he cheated on me with. She didn’t know I existed at the time) via her Twitter. He’d also told her a bunch of lies about me to her, which she repeated online. I’m glad I found that out. I discovered her online after not only her viewing my insta stories… but her mum was involved in looking too
. It also confirmed to me that he’d cheated on me (she was a prolific tweeter and posted their dates together and things he’d said). It actually helped me move on when I realised what had happened.annnnd I’ve been the victim of online stalking. My fiancé broke up with his ex years ago and she is a bit of a sociopath. I found out later she emotionally blackmailed him, manipulated him into giving her huge amounts of money, and tried to break us up several times in the early stages of us dating. We got together about a year after they split, but she obsessively stalked my insta stories. It was a fairly new feature at the time and I don’t think she realised I could see. Or maybe she did and didn’t care. And I mean Like, relentless stalked. I’d post a story and she’d have watched it within minutes. It became a bit of a game for me… I’d post something innocuous then check to see if she’d viewed it within 5 minutes. Usually she had. She must’ve been glued to her phone refreshing my account. She’d frequently accidentally like my pictures too. At the time I didn’t realise what a sociopath she was and didn’t want to embarrass her, so just ignored it and didn’t say anything. A lot of tit happened and when I realised what an absolute lunatic she was (she created multiple fake accounts to stalk me when I blocked her, and at one point she blocked me so I couldn’t block her, and then unblocked specifically to view and like my pictures). I told my ex who then confronted her and asked that she stopped stalking me, at which point she flat out denied it. She’d been doing it for about a year at that point. She made a fake profile of a little boy and called it the name my partner wants to name his first kid. That’s how creepy it was. She’d copy my pictures and captions from insta onto her own at times. Even now, she copies places we’ve gone to, recreates pictures we’ve taken together etc.
it sounds silly and over dramatic looking back, but it had a real impact on me. I was scared to post anything in case I accidentally revealed my address or where I lived. At the time there was a spat of acid attacks happening in the U.K. and I was terrified she’d take a hit out on me (lol). She was genuinely that unhinged and unpredictable. She was also super vindicative to my partner. I really don’t know what she was capable of. It was like a narcissistic rage, there was no way she was in love with him based on how she treated him. But it was like she just couldn’t accept or handle the rejection.
She moved away a few years ago and I locked down all my socials, blocked any suspect accounts as well as her. I used to be a lot more open online but that made me super guarded.
I made a burner account to follow her purely for my own peace of mind. After a solid year of relentless stalking me and my ex, she then started posting online alluding to her being a victim. Unbelievable. She’s got a new boyfriend now who she has love bombed and gotten engaged to within months of knowing him. Part of me wishes her well, mostly I think he doesn’t know what he has signed up for or what she’s capable of, poor sod. I had to do a trawl of fake accounts just a couple of weeks ago because I’d noticed she’d copied a photo I’d posted.
overall, I like being able to see what people are up to. I think it’s good to reflect. I’m glad I’m able to look at my exes profiles and feel immense relief. I blamed myself for being broken up with but by doing a bit of stalking and seeing his new girlfriend, I understand that it was more about him than me, and his own insecurities. I don’t think id have ever realised that if it hadn’t been for social media snooping.
but then obvs it can be really hurtful, and bring out the absolute worst in people.
Years on I still get random messages from flying monkeys connected to my ex. I don’t use Facebook but have it active for some external accounts. I just checked messenger and had a recent request from someone wanting to ask a question about them. The message just says Facebook user, likely blocked me or used a burner account they’ve deactivated?
I wouldn't read too much into the dreams we have of our first loves. I dream of mine from time to time but I honestly do not miss him, he looks like Kim Jong-Un now so I've had a lucky escape.
you definitely did!I googled before it said it can be a sign of looking for closure or unfinished business. I'd say that's true, I'd never do anything, but I'll probably end up having a nosey later.
Yeah I think cause my first love ended badly, and we never really got closure on it. It really bugs me when he's in my dreams though and puts me in a bad mood, why can't I dream about someone like Ryan Gosling
I googled before it said it can be a sign of looking for closure or unfinished business. I'd say that's true, I'd never do anything, but I'll probably end up having a nosey later.
I'm always nosing. I'd have done well getting a job in MI5
Hi … I am here to admit I am an absolute online snooper.
I’m not proud of it, but I could probably go on Mastermind to answer questions on people’s aunts-cousins-hairdressers-taxi driver
I’m not proud of it, but I could probably go on Mastermind to answer questions on people’s aunts-cousins-hairdressers-taxi driver
I'm a big FB/IG stalker! I honestly don't think there's any reason behind it other then I am disgustingly nosey
Right that didn't take long, full snoop, profile water tight! I mean come on, nothing updated or changed since last time.
I mean come on, nothing updated or changed since last time.I love snooping out of nosiness and yes, I am a judgey witch sometimes.
there was a bit of an arrogant mole at my Uni. I didn’t know him especially well but the interactions I did have, He was a user and a bully. He once pushed me in a nightclub because I rejected his advances. Maybe a year ago, I had a snoop on his social media to see what he was up to.
his life has panned out exactly how I imagined it would. He’s settled down with a woman who comes from a very wealthy family, who will take over the family business. Her daddy has given him a nice cushty job. She comes across like a total spoiled madam. Spends an absolute fortune on designer clothes and lavish holidays. They have an expensive car and huge home and she loves showing it all off, tagging the designers she wears and popping it in her stories every single time she goes shopping. Their wedding was the tackiest circus I’ve ever seen and I loved having a nosey at it in awe. For their baby, she took a nice early extended Mat leave, rented out a luxury Kensington flat and gave birth in a private hospital.
part of me is a teeny bit jealous, but mostly I think there must be something seriously lacking in their lives. I get the popcorn out every time I visit their Instagram.
my bet is he’ll gradually feel emasculated (because he’s very classic, fragile toxic masculinity) and will end up cheating on her with a young secretary a work in about a decade. Maybe after daddy has retired and signed over the shares to him.
on the flip side, I love snooping on really lovely people that I’ve lost contact with but love seeing how well they are doing on social media. There’s a girl who was always such a sweetheart at school and she’s living a wonderful life with a husband and kids in the south of France, I’m cheering her on from afar lol
there was a bit of an arrogant mole at my Uni. I didn’t know him especially well but the interactions I did have, He was a user and a bully. He once pushed me in a nightclub because I rejected his advances. Maybe a year ago, I had a snoop on his social media to see what he was up to.
his life has panned out exactly how I imagined it would. He’s settled down with a woman who comes from a very wealthy family, who will take over the family business. Her daddy has given him a nice cushty job. She comes across like a total spoiled madam. Spends an absolute fortune on designer clothes and lavish holidays. They have an expensive car and huge home and she loves showing it all off, tagging the designers she wears and popping it in her stories every single time she goes shopping. Their wedding was the tackiest circus I’ve ever seen and I loved having a nosey at it in awe. For their baby, she took a nice early extended Mat leave, rented out a luxury Kensington flat and gave birth in a private hospital.
part of me is a teeny bit jealous, but mostly I think there must be something seriously lacking in their lives. I get the popcorn out every time I visit their Instagram.
my bet is he’ll gradually feel emasculated (because he’s very classic, fragile toxic masculinity) and will end up cheating on her with a young secretary a work in about a decade. Maybe after daddy has retired and signed over the shares to him.
on the flip side, I love snooping on really lovely people that I’ve lost contact with but love seeing how well they are doing on social media. There’s a girl who was always such a sweetheart at school and she’s living a wonderful life with a husband and kids in the south of France, I’m cheering her on from afar lol
I don't see it as snooping if it's a public profile/post, they've put it out there for everyone to look at so don't feel bad for looking!
I've only got 2 ex's but I don't like to look at their profiles much anymore, it just makes me angry that they're happy better for my sanity to cut all contact
I've only got 2 ex's but I don't like to look at their profiles much anymore, it just makes me angry that they're happy
better for my sanity to cut all contact
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Same here, I never got proper closure either.Yeah I think cause my first love ended badly, and we never really got closure on it. It really bugs me when he's in my dreams though and puts me in a bad mood, why can't I dream about someone like Ryan Gosling
I'm always nosing. I'd have done well getting a job in MI5
I did see a more up to date photo a couple of years ago and he didn't age well, I thought he was gorgeous at the time. Or maybe my taste has just changed
If I'm feeling bored or down I'll usually google him, nothing new ever appears but I keep doing it
I think maybe my taste has changed but looking back at the younger me I was really into my ex, I just don't see the attraction now.
I saw pics of him and his wife, and I'm really glad we broke up as they seem to be stuck in a time warp doing the things he and I would have done when we were 18. The same holidays to the same resort, the same house parties etc.
We are 33 now, and perhaps the life he has suits him but I know I would have honestly got so bored If we had stayed together. That must sound awful lol but it's true. I had honestly outgrown my hometown, with minimal jobs available, the same places to go every week, some of the people in it that didn't want to grow up including my ex.
Whereas now I've travelled the world, have a great career, live in the city, and have now settled down with a great partner, we have a really nice life so I think sometimes I take little trips back down memory lane to remind myself I am where I am exactly meant to be - as corny as that sounds.
Yes what is that? I thought at the time he was gorgeous
but seen a recent photo well maybe from a year or two ago and my initial thought was eww, but when I looked closer I could see the little reminders, still the same eyes, strong jaw. So I think the old me is attracted to the old them but not so much the new them. If I look at a photo from 10yrs ago I'd be 🫠It’s quite sad but I don’t think I ever had a proper first love? My current fiancé is the first person I was truly in love with. I had huge crushes that I think were a type of love but not really.. real.
for some of them I’m like… ok yeh thank you social media for enlightening me. Some people really did peak in high school.
for others it’s a little more nostalgic? They look great and seem to be at a great place in life but no part of me would trade in my fiancé. I guess it’s wondering what could’ve been? But social media is a great reminder that you really end up where you’re supposed to be in life.
yep this is exactly how I feel. Glad we are both doing well in life and in the relationships meant for us!
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I remember reading this article a few years ago and thinking… damn she’s brave admitting to this… but also… damn… she’s put some good tips in there.
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Just remembered the snooping I did on ex's now wife. Looked up her parents, siblings on Facebook, browsed siblings wedding pics to get a glimpse of wife and my ex and their children. Looked at siblings businesses online and their Facebooks. Looked up planning permissions in her area and found parents planning application for a new house. Had a sub to the 'British Newspaper Archive' for another project and used it to search her name, my ex's name and some of her family members to see if they'd featured in local newspapers...nothing too juicy came up
I know it sounds utterly mad, I was trying to build up a picture of his wifes life and what my ex liked about her, and if there were any red flags. I met her briefly long before they were a couple (used to socialise in same circles).
In case you're wondering, NO I don't want to meet her again - it would be too awkward. And not gonna turn up at her house or something, I'm not that crazy!
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I compared myself to new wife when I heard they were a couple and it really hurt
I know it sounds utterly mad, I was trying to build up a picture of his wifes life and what my ex liked about her, and if there were any red flags. I met her briefly long before they were a couple (used to socialise in same circles).
In case you're wondering, NO I don't want to meet her again - it would be too awkward. And not gonna turn up at her house or something, I'm not that crazy!
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Really interesting article, sounds a bit like what I did (I don't have fake social media accounts tho)It’s quite sad but I don’t think I ever had a proper first love? My current fiancé is the first person I was truly in love with. I had huge crushes that I think were a type of love but not really.. real.
for some of them I’m like… ok yeh thank you social media for enlightening me. Some people really did peak in high school.
for others it’s a little more nostalgic? They look great and seem to be at a great place in life but no part of me would trade in my fiancé. I guess it’s wondering what could’ve been? But social media is a great reminder that you really end up where you’re supposed to be in life.
yep this is exactly how I feel. Glad we are both doing well in life and in the relationships meant for us!
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I remember reading this article a few years ago and thinking… damn she’s brave admitting to this… but also… damn… she’s put some good tips in there.
I compared myself to new wife when I heard they were a couple and it really hurt
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