She really feels the need to justify all her parenting decisions on Ms behaviour eg moving to formula because M was just so hungry...CIO because M just didn't sleep. Perhaps M was just a normal baby and Saff didn't want to breastfeed and wanted more sleep...just own it rather than blaming your child!
Obligatory note that fed is best and formula obviously has it's place and is very important and life saving
but Saff made breastfeeding seem like her whole identity at first...until it got hard and then stopped! Lots of women stop breastfeeding at that point because they're convinced their baby is just so hungry...even though it's normal infant behaviour and developmental
Obligatory note that fed is best and formula obviously has it's place and is very important and life saving