Ruby Tuesday Matthews

[EveryDaysASoulDay]

I agree she was soooo young when she had her first how was she going to know he’d end up having nothing to do with the kids and she’d be on her own. Attacking someone for being honest about how hard they’re finding parenting is not it. This is why mothers suffer in silence.

My dad was a deadbeat dad so my mum’s intense anger and my own heartbreak that he caused is visceral, still to this day. I completely agree. duck every man who abandons his kids right to hell. The anger and hurt is completely justified. But I am in full agreement with @tryharder. That is not for public consumption. She shares it because she is a narc. She needs the validation from nameless, faceless strangers. And she needs the traffic and engagement she gets from it to keep her income flowing. I am of the school that not everybody needs to be applauded for their “raw honesty” online. I understand that’s very old-school. But at a point it is performative and it is detrimental to the people in their lives.

I also don’t have any sympathy when women choose men who display serious red flags before they ever procreate with them. Sure, not everybody is perfect and we’ve all made dumb mistakes, some with bigger repercussions than others. From what I can gather, they were both pretty serious partiers when they got together. What I imagine has happened is that he hasn’t changed and she only has to the extent that she needs to take care of her children. (She is clearly still an addict, but somebody has to take care of the kids, hey?) The harsh reality is that this is the result of her bad decision making. It’s unfortunate, we have probably all done it to a certain extent, but she only has herself to blame so don’t witch about it.

 

[yesok1]

Didn't one of the kids get attacked by a dog twice..? In her care? Bitten in the face by her dog? I can't even imagine what he did to warrant no visitation! I would see him quite often in town with the boys when he had them. His now ex gf who I also know made it quite public he is a narcissistic and was violent towards her. She also said her and Ryan would have the boys Thu - Mon. So ruby had every weekend off. Now she doesn't.

 

[heretolurklolzz]

Didn't one of the kids get attacked by a dog twice..? In her care? Bitten in the face by her dog? I can't even imagine what he did to warrant no visitation! I would see him quite often in town with the boys when he had them. His now ex gf who I also know made it quite public he is a narcissistic and was violent towards her. She also said her and Ryan would have the boys Thu - Mon. So ruby had every weekend off. Now she doesn't.

The one time I know of was the neighbours dog, freak accident.
if he was violent to her or there are domestic violence charges against him, that would be fair enough to lose custody, but you’d think he’d get supervised visits.
my lawyer said to me “killers and rapists still get visits”

 

[tryharder]

The one time I know of was the neighbours dog, freak accident.
if he was violent to her or there are domestic violence charges against him, that would be fair enough to lose custody, but you’d think he’d get supervised visits.
my lawyer said to me “killers and rapists still get visits”

Maybe he’s just tapped out? If he’s a narcissist - quite likely.

 

[Libertine]

Ruby can’t talk about what happened with her ex as family courts are closed and she’d be in contempt of the court if she did. It isn’t a noble choice she has made.

I can just imagine all the influencer babes sniggering about normies who get a uni degree, have 9-5 jobs and earn really average money and go camping for holidays, while influencers just have to starve themselves, exploit their children and they earn huge money and are given free exotic holidays.

But none of that will stop them screeching RESPECT MY PRIVACY on the odd day they don’t feel like oversharing to the followers who indirectly pay their wages.

And absolutely nothing will make them consider getting off the internet and taking a regular job. I’m pretty sure Ruby could still sell her overpriced hats and combs if she never posted another photo online of her content fillers children.

 

[itsbeenaminute]

Hmmmm life with boys or life with a neglectful drug addicted mum.........

 

[lisaann13]

Another emergency room post with no follow up or explanation….. attention seeking

 

[MsTxx]

My guess is that her ex is unreliable, doesn't appropriately supervise his kids when he has them and has been known to be on drugs etc. I would say an incident occurred where the kids where put in harm and the police were involved. Hence the court orders and zero custody.

I know that RTM has said that Mars isn't coping very well and he has behaviour issues and mourning the loss of his father in his life. As someone who has had to do the same with teenagers it is heartbreakingly awful - I really feel for her on this front.

I firmly believe it is the stress that is Rubys undoing she always loses weight when she is under a lot of pressure.

I don't understand the Shannon relationship - where is he? Do DJ's in Sydney work all week too? Surely he could be home more? I feel she has picked another man who doesn't seem to look after her or his family very much.

 

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My guess is that her ex is unreliable, doesn't appropriately supervise his kids when he has them and has been known to be on drugs etc. I would say an incident occurred where the kids where put in harm and the police were involved. Hence the court orders and zero custody.

I know that RTM has said that Mars isn't coping very well and he has behaviour issues and mourning the loss of his father in his life. As someone who has had to do the same with teenagers it is heartbreakingly awful - I really feel for her on this front.

I firmly believe it is the stress that is Rubys undoing she always loses weight when she is under a lot of pressure.

I don't understand the Shannon relationship - where is he? Do DJ's in Sydney work all week too? Surely he could be home more? I feel she has picked another man who doesn't seem to look after her or his family very much.

Not knowing the whole story of her and Dodzy (I think he doesn't want to feature on her IG) but it seems he doesn't want to feature in her life either.

He doesn't seem to be stepping up to be a dad to his baby girl.

 

[crossroads2727]

I don't think he's a DJ, Influencer Updates AU said he was a director at a printing company in Sydney? He does seem to be MIA, but I also think he has asked not to feature on her socials. For example, he was in Fiji on their family recent holiday but we barely saw him.

 

[MsTxx]

I am okay with him not being on her socials - in fact respect. But why does she always act like she is on her own and struggling. Unless they are in Sydney I feel like she is by herself. Weird.

 

[Libertine]

There’s some sort of twisted irony that Ruby respects her partner’s right to privacy, but not her own kids’.

 

[Esbeze]

Hmmmm life with boys or life with a neglectful drug addicted mum.........

They have a lot of accidents. I don’t like to judge because all kids are different but like two eye injuries in less than a month
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My guess is that her ex is unreliable, doesn't appropriately supervise his kids when he has them and has been known to be on drugs etc. I would say an incident occurred where the kids where put in harm and the police were involved. Hence the court orders and zero custody.

I know that RTM has said that Mars isn't coping very well and he has behaviour issues and mourning the loss of his father in his life. As someone who has had to do the same with teenagers it is heartbreakingly awful - I really feel for her on this front.

I firmly believe it is the stress that is Rubys undoing she always loses weight when she is under a lot of pressure.

I don't understand the Shannon relationship - where is he? Do DJ's in Sydney work all week too? Surely he could be home more? I feel she has picked another man who doesn't seem to look after her or his family very much.

He was always around before she had baby. Now it seems hardly ever.. wonder why he decides to move away once baby came

 

[yesok1]

She hinted at moving to Sydney a while back, I wonder why she hasn't now she has the 2 kids full time. Nothing is stopping the move? Unless he doesn't want her to.

 

[Libertine]

As was mentioned earlier, it’s virtually impossible to lose all contact. So the first baby daddy probably still has contact, but it might be supervised at a contact centre. God, both he and Ruby would HATE that. They’d both feel they are too important to be slumming it with ordinary people.

Supervised contact is usually to restore the relationship and demonstrate parenting skills. It often leads to unsupervised day contact then overnights.

He might not have taken it up yet, but while it’s an option Ruby can’t relocate away from the Northern Rivers

 

[itsbeenaminute]

She hinted at moving to Sydney a while back, I wonder why she hasn't now she has the 2 kids full time. Nothing is stopping the move? Unless he doesn't want her to.

He doesn't even want anything to do with his baby as if he wants that miserable sack of tit and her crazy boys.

 

[morgsanderson]

Was this a dig at Dodzy? She’s still wearing her ring though.

edit: Dodzy turned to sissy, haha

 

[yesok1]

Was this a dig at Dodzy? She’s still wearing her ring though.

edit: Dodzy turned to sissy, haha

It's 100k worth of diamonds on 1 finger, she's so materialistic she wouldn't dare not wear the diamonds. Even if she was going through a break up.

 

[EveryDaysASoulDay]

“Today hearing some news that’s hard to comprehend as a mum”.
Related to the hospital trip with one if the kids the other day possibly?

 

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“Today hearing some news that’s hard to comprehend as a mum”.
Related to the hospital trip with one if the kids the other day possibly?

Wasn't she having some testing done for Mars? Maybe he has some diagnosis.

I hope all her kids are ok.