a_bit_miffed
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Well, I encountered this Rhi at Disneyland Paris. I am not a big YouTube fan and I'm not a user of this forum but the experience has led me to add my tuppence-worth.
What can I say that hasn't been said already. I very much believe in each to their own as a matter of course and I am worried that I am going to end up sounding like a troll but I was not impressed by what I saw.
OK, it may well be that her blog has helped people in all sorts of ways and I have always suspected that people who share their lives with the world are also engaging in some form of therapy to help themselves with some form of mental health issues. Influencers are either:
a) People looking to monetise their talents (fair play)
b) People who have always dreamed of fame and can now realise their dreams in the internet age
c) People who have too much money/and or time on their hands
d) People who need help
Where I become exceptionally uncomfortable is when children are brought onto social media. I am keen to avoid putting my kids online. They can do so when they are old enough and I suspect that they will not thank me if I share every funny anecdote and embarrassing photo with the world. They have a right to childhood.
Of course, if someone puts their kids all over the web, that is presumably their business. I assume that their kids have consented (can they give informed consent?) but how will they feel when they look back over all this, including all the comments about their parents on forums such as this?
As someone who works with children and has a safeguarding responsibility I find that kind of activity - having your children's lives and medical issues etc plastered all over the web - slightly worrying. It would be overly dramatic and wrong to call that abuse but there probably is some form of word for it. From my perspective it is ill-advised. Still if that's what it takes to put bread on the table, so be it.
My irritation was the way that this filming was being done in Disneyland Paris last week. It got in the way. The place is full of people taking photos, selfies and videos etc and that's all fine but when someone decides to set up their amateur filming in the middle of a public place, it is very annoying and now I have to worry about whether my child is going to get caught up in this amateur filming.
If a film crew turns up to film, they put up signs, they apologise for inconvenience etc but when influencers appear they just set up and film whatever they want and when it gets in the way of your own children you find it annoying.
There's something unusual about watching someone filming themselves as though they are Alan Whicker and then filming their own children knowing that this will go on the web. Each to their own.
I couldn't help but wonder what Mr Rhi was thinking as he sat back and watched all this happening. Is he happy that his kids are plastered all over the web and that his wife discusses them on the web? I'm not always an excellent judge but it looked as though he didn't love it. Personally I'd absolutely hate it and would be looking for the exit but then I guess that just becomes an opportunity for Mrs Rhi to set up as Single Mummy of Four and attract a whole new crowd of subscribers.
Look, each to their own. If you can make money off this internet thing, fair enough, but will your children really thank you for monetising them and having them live out their formative years as guinea pigs of your parenting? It's one thing to expose them to fame as child actors or models etc. That's questionable enough but when their online existence is because of your 'talent' as a parent rather than theirs, that's a more worrying issue. Indeed if the whole premise of being online is to tout how wonderful a parent you are and to share your tips with others, I would argue that you have fallen at the first hurdle. Putting your kids online is exceptionally questionable parenting.
Of course this is all just shouting at the sky. This forum is probably not read by the vlogger concerned or, if it is, it has been discredited by her. Several thousand subscribers can't be wrong or something like that.
Go on, live your life, use your family as you see fit but please keep out of my kids' way and do not point one of your lenses at my children.
What can I say that hasn't been said already. I very much believe in each to their own as a matter of course and I am worried that I am going to end up sounding like a troll but I was not impressed by what I saw.
OK, it may well be that her blog has helped people in all sorts of ways and I have always suspected that people who share their lives with the world are also engaging in some form of therapy to help themselves with some form of mental health issues. Influencers are either:
a) People looking to monetise their talents (fair play)
b) People who have always dreamed of fame and can now realise their dreams in the internet age
c) People who have too much money/and or time on their hands
d) People who need help
Where I become exceptionally uncomfortable is when children are brought onto social media. I am keen to avoid putting my kids online. They can do so when they are old enough and I suspect that they will not thank me if I share every funny anecdote and embarrassing photo with the world. They have a right to childhood.
Of course, if someone puts their kids all over the web, that is presumably their business. I assume that their kids have consented (can they give informed consent?) but how will they feel when they look back over all this, including all the comments about their parents on forums such as this?
As someone who works with children and has a safeguarding responsibility I find that kind of activity - having your children's lives and medical issues etc plastered all over the web - slightly worrying. It would be overly dramatic and wrong to call that abuse but there probably is some form of word for it. From my perspective it is ill-advised. Still if that's what it takes to put bread on the table, so be it.
My irritation was the way that this filming was being done in Disneyland Paris last week. It got in the way. The place is full of people taking photos, selfies and videos etc and that's all fine but when someone decides to set up their amateur filming in the middle of a public place, it is very annoying and now I have to worry about whether my child is going to get caught up in this amateur filming.
If a film crew turns up to film, they put up signs, they apologise for inconvenience etc but when influencers appear they just set up and film whatever they want and when it gets in the way of your own children you find it annoying.
There's something unusual about watching someone filming themselves as though they are Alan Whicker and then filming their own children knowing that this will go on the web. Each to their own.
I couldn't help but wonder what Mr Rhi was thinking as he sat back and watched all this happening. Is he happy that his kids are plastered all over the web and that his wife discusses them on the web? I'm not always an excellent judge but it looked as though he didn't love it. Personally I'd absolutely hate it and would be looking for the exit but then I guess that just becomes an opportunity for Mrs Rhi to set up as Single Mummy of Four and attract a whole new crowd of subscribers.
Look, each to their own. If you can make money off this internet thing, fair enough, but will your children really thank you for monetising them and having them live out their formative years as guinea pigs of your parenting? It's one thing to expose them to fame as child actors or models etc. That's questionable enough but when their online existence is because of your 'talent' as a parent rather than theirs, that's a more worrying issue. Indeed if the whole premise of being online is to tout how wonderful a parent you are and to share your tips with others, I would argue that you have fallen at the first hurdle. Putting your kids online is exceptionally questionable parenting.
Of course this is all just shouting at the sky. This forum is probably not read by the vlogger concerned or, if it is, it has been discredited by her. Several thousand subscribers can't be wrong or something like that.
Go on, live your life, use your family as you see fit but please keep out of my kids' way and do not point one of your lenses at my children.