I agree that the boys won't like living there when they are older. They won't be able to play out with friends, such as having a kick about with a football, or riding their bike with mates after school. Plus she won't have any friends locally. It looks like a great holiday home but not a permanent home for a young family. It is in a stunning location though and I can understand why they fell for it, I just don't think they've thought much about the future.
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Laura12345
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" I hope you are all doing really good" this irritates the life out of me, that doesn't even make sense. She says it on instagram stories and youtube videos. I have also noticed another wannabe youtuber copies her too, on their instagram story.
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It’s been interesting reading your thoughts on growing up rurally and I thought I’d offer N alternative view.
I grew up rurally (and am now raising children rurally) and I can’t say that reflects my experience. It’s a totally different way of life for sure but I didn’t ever find it depressing or leaving me lacking in life skills.
I had no issues adapting to city life when it was time to go to university because like all teens my friends and I had regular trips into towns and cities, my parents made sure of that and although the journey was longer than it probably was for you, those trips with friends on the bus or train were very much part of my childhood. Quite liked the longer journey though, more time to chat
I like to think my children don’t find the summer holidays depressing! Eek, I hope not! There’s always other kids about at our house because all the families in the area are in the same boat so we all make the effort. So a typical summer holiday would involve (many, many!) sleepovers, trips down the river on canoes, just full days by the river with picnics, swimming, paddling, exploring, then quad biking is a big hit with the local kids so those families with quad bikes always organise lots of sessions and treks, lots of local families have ponies so there is horse riding most weeks and my daughter friends all pitch in looking after ponies when people go away on their holidays, then there’s lovely long light evenings with their friends and our friends with campfires and bbq’s on the Loch beaches, bike rides (the children here are BIG on long bike rides around the country roads, my poor backside on the bike seat ?),there are numerous forest vases summer clubs so the kids usually all see each other there at least once a week even if they’re not making it to the other activities I’ve mentioned. Then it’s the summer so people are always having bbqs at home aren’t they, so they see their friends there too. Lots of farms here too so the children pitch in with the orphaned lambs and calves over the summer holidays (my daughter and her friends LOVE that and spend hours together taking care of the animals). Also there are several forest based clubs locally so they all meet up again at these (usually once a week). Us parents also try and book the kids into some clubs and activities based in the town too over the summer, to meet other kids.
Through term time most nights we have a school friend back or two back (helping out with those parents that work later, or just as a play date) or she has an after school club (rural school so they organise a lot to help with after school socialising, so they have plenty of after school options like ballet, football, rugby, drama, craft clubs, nature club, swimming, outdoor skills, cycling). Plus after school we all usually hang around for half an hour whilst the children play in the adventure playground by the school, which gives the grownups and children some time to chat! And of course up here at the weekends at this time of year all the school kids and families are up at the ski slopes on a Saturday or Sunday, so they see each other up there for skiing, sledging or snowboarding. Snows coming so that’ll be the children’s weekends sorted for a few weeks!
But really I do appreciate to some this might be depressing way of life, or not how they want to spend their childhood or how they want to raise their children. I have friends from uni who grew up and stayed in cities and they could think of nothing worse than an outdoorsy life! And they’d struggle with the extra time it takes to get to large food shops and shopping malls. But I loved it as a child and love it as a parent.
For the first few years of their life we were bringing the children up in a town. It was slightly less of a drive for getting to baby and toddler classes (although sometimes with traffic it worked out about the same as my drive to classes and groups now). Quicker to get to food shops in the town though, so I make the most of online food shopping and deliveries!!
Just my thoughts and experiences though
I suppose everyone is different and I'm just a town girl always have been always will be, of course it would be nice to live rurally without having to worry about some of the things you do when u have neighbours and things but I like the convenience too much. You have mentioned having loads of friends and children round at your house but Rebecca seems very lonely and can't seem to make many friends which is quite unusual for a woman of her age, so I'm not sure her kids will have the same soclisation as urs with children coming round, bbq with neighbours etc. Maybe she has got friends but dosnt mention them on YouTube, I don't know. From what she has mentioned everything is so far away I would actually like to know how far away the nearest village is. Thanks for ur insight, maybe I was a little harsh it was just my 1st judgment I'm still not keen on the house tho, seems like a hell of a lot of work they have to do and money 2 just to make sure water, heating, aga are working correctly, not great when u have 2 small children living with u.I would completely agree, I wouldn’t swap my rural upbringing for anything. We didn’t have buses locally but parents or older siblings would run us places, on nights out we’d all split a £40 taxi 6 ways and crash in one place. When we got older, I was asked to farm sit for a friends family (caring for 8 horses, chickens, dogs, cats, sheep!) which gave me a steeper life lesson than buying eggs and milk. It’s just a preference. ??
With regards to the house, it’s not to my taste but I would be comfortable buying a house similar - doing the kids rooms and living space first and everything else gradually. It is SO worthwhile. Being remote is priceless to me.
I dont think so
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Kellymelly98
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Why has Alfie moved schools? Didn’t he start reception in September?
Hey, I really just don't understand why they have bought that house!! Yes it's in the middle of nowhere and great for the boys/dogs to be out and about walking keeping active, no neighbours to worry about, no traffic to worry about, no teenagers hanging round the corner to worry about but the amount of work it needs doing, it seems very dingy, cold and small to say it's in the middle of nowhere. What about the boys playing with other children when they are allowed to play out on their own? What about when you start sending your kids to the local shop for milk and eggs so they can get a quicklife lesson in buying things themselfs and giving them a little responsibility. What about public transport?
Remeber the 1st time you got on the trian/bus yourself to go meet ur mates in town, What about when the kids get to college age and they want to go to the college party but the taxi is 2 expensive so u have to ring ur mummy for a lift! (Laughing stock) I feel that not playing out with friends on your street when your younger in the 6 week school holidays would be depressing. Well mine would have been anyway I had countless summer's playing outings, rounders, football etc with my friends and it was great. I think these kids are gna miss out on so many life lessons you do as growing up that we all take for granted. They must have paid over 400 thousand for it because the asking price was well over that, n as someone who has just bought a house very recently myself in Yorkshire there are plenty of lovely well built old cottage style/modernised cottages in the middle of nowere with plenty of land for half the price they must have paid, so I really don't understand! I think everyone on here is completely right about Steve, he's a creep I don't know what it is but he's just creepy maybe it's all the comments he makes towards Rebecca and and pictures he has of her on insta I just get the same feeling as u guys that he's very controlling and manipulative and I'm generally not wrong about people. I mean she has been out once with her friends since having woody, now I know she breastfed for a while but she's younger than me n I'm 29 with 2 children and I still like to party once in a blue moon with my friends maybe Steve dosnt like her going out because she's very good looking with a lovely body and might just get chatted up realise that her boyfriend is a control freak and manipulating and leave him lol but yet steves been out with his mates load on a Saturday night probably eyeing up the ladies in the local ? that's the vibe I get anyway from him. She seems very down extremley stressed, lonely and just not quite herself these days. I think it's time she admitted the dream she thought is not the dream she's living in the "forever home" they rushed into buying for some reason. This would make me like her even more cos it would be showing her realistically and not just another mrs M wannabee
Remeber the 1st time you got on the trian/bus yourself to go meet ur mates in town, What about when the kids get to college age and they want to go to the college party but the taxi is 2 expensive so u have to ring ur mummy for a lift! (Laughing stock) I feel that not playing out with friends on your street when your younger in the 6 week school holidays would be depressing. Well mine would have been anyway I had countless summer's playing outings, rounders, football etc with my friends and it was great. I think these kids are gna miss out on so many life lessons you do as growing up that we all take for granted. They must have paid over 400 thousand for it because the asking price was well over that, n as someone who has just bought a house very recently myself in Yorkshire there are plenty of lovely well built old cottage style/modernised cottages in the middle of nowere with plenty of land for half the price they must have paid, so I really don't understand! I think everyone on here is completely right about Steve, he's a creep I don't know what it is but he's just creepy maybe it's all the comments he makes towards Rebecca and and pictures he has of her on insta I just get the same feeling as u guys that he's very controlling and manipulative and I'm generally not wrong about people. I mean she has been out once with her friends since having woody, now I know she breastfed for a while but she's younger than me n I'm 29 with 2 children and I still like to party once in a blue moon with my friends maybe Steve dosnt like her going out because she's very good looking with a lovely body and might just get chatted up realise that her boyfriend is a control freak and manipulating and leave him lol but yet steves been out with his mates load on a Saturday night probably eyeing up the ladies in the local ? that's the vibe I get anyway from him. She seems very down extremley stressed, lonely and just not quite herself these days. I think it's time she admitted the dream she thought is not the dream she's living in the "forever home" they rushed into buying for some reason. This would make me like her even more cos it would be showing her realistically and not just another mrs M wannabee