doingtherightthing
Chatty Member
This woman lived in my head rent free last night and I’ve actually woken up still mad about her stories from last night.
What she *should* have pointed out to us was that now, as an adult, she realises that life isn’t always black and white, she realises that when she was getting angry at her Mum because she couldn’t have those trainers, she shouldn’t have been. She should have told us that kids grow up at times thinking the world owes them something and whilst it may have just been trainers for her, it was a few days work for her Mum who couldn’t afford it and was struggling with her mental health and, that whilst she was 15, ignorant and demanding, she gets it now.
What she should have said was that she encourages her children to have a job so they can see that if they really want something, they can work for it themselves and grow up to recognise their privilege, that if she and Josh chose to treat them, they grow up to be humble about it and not be like her, smashing that phone against the wall in anger (said phone that had more financial value than the trainers) and that she hopes if she did have to say no the kids, they would understand now hold it against her and grow up to hate her for it, spewing venom on social media. I wanted to hear her say how it’s ok to not be in the position where you can afford to buy a second hand car for your 17 year old, new clothes each week, trainers, holidays, weekends away etc etc as it’s all material stuff that actually means nothing.
I wanted her to stand up and recognise her privilege. That yes, one day she had nothing and now she has it all at the drop of a PIN number and wants for nothing.
I wanted her to say, she has everything now because, off the back of vulnerable women like she claims she once was, like her own mother and the boys mother, she has it all because she exploited them and earned herself a fortune. I wanted her to show some kind of gratitude but she didn’t do any of that.
Instead, it was a bull shit, woe is me, I brought Betsy a car because my Mum left me. Almost to justify WHY Betsy would be grateful. Betsy was brought a car, she would have been grateful no matter what the back history was or even if there was none and it was just a genuine, well meant birthday gift.
Why can’t she just be normal. Why can’t she not learn anything from the thousands she has spent in therapy and let it go now, leave her poor bloody Mother out of it.
What she *should* have pointed out to us was that now, as an adult, she realises that life isn’t always black and white, she realises that when she was getting angry at her Mum because she couldn’t have those trainers, she shouldn’t have been. She should have told us that kids grow up at times thinking the world owes them something and whilst it may have just been trainers for her, it was a few days work for her Mum who couldn’t afford it and was struggling with her mental health and, that whilst she was 15, ignorant and demanding, she gets it now.
What she should have said was that she encourages her children to have a job so they can see that if they really want something, they can work for it themselves and grow up to recognise their privilege, that if she and Josh chose to treat them, they grow up to be humble about it and not be like her, smashing that phone against the wall in anger (said phone that had more financial value than the trainers) and that she hopes if she did have to say no the kids, they would understand now hold it against her and grow up to hate her for it, spewing venom on social media. I wanted to hear her say how it’s ok to not be in the position where you can afford to buy a second hand car for your 17 year old, new clothes each week, trainers, holidays, weekends away etc etc as it’s all material stuff that actually means nothing.
I wanted her to stand up and recognise her privilege. That yes, one day she had nothing and now she has it all at the drop of a PIN number and wants for nothing.
I wanted her to say, she has everything now because, off the back of vulnerable women like she claims she once was, like her own mother and the boys mother, she has it all because she exploited them and earned herself a fortune. I wanted her to show some kind of gratitude but she didn’t do any of that.
Instead, it was a bull shit, woe is me, I brought Betsy a car because my Mum left me. Almost to justify WHY Betsy would be grateful. Betsy was brought a car, she would have been grateful no matter what the back history was or even if there was none and it was just a genuine, well meant birthday gift.
Why can’t she just be normal. Why can’t she not learn anything from the thousands she has spent in therapy and let it go now, leave her poor bloody Mother out of it.
it's becoming clearer each day that this is going to be nothing more than a coffee shop for Rancid to hang out at with her mates.
then she was meeting up with her new friend from the park, and going shopping with Lula and the other woman's daughter. She ate a pie alone because the others went to Five Guys but our Raq didn't fancy it.
he’s just two years old. It’s horrid to read what you are saying about him being autistic. Leave him alone 
honestly it was so funny, she would say, right you can pick some things up to the value of £100 each for Christmas, so we would all disappear and create our lists.