You are doing the right thing. Keep recording and taking notes and if at anytime he makes threats of violence towards either of you call the police straight away.The boss has been to take our statements, due to the threatening nature and illegal things he's been doing (the smoking weed, having an air pistol in the house etc he's even threatened a little old lady before) they are taking immediate action to take him to court to evict him tomorrow or Friday.
I've also decided to make a statement to the police to press charges, since if I don't he might think he can just escalate matters and won't he will be told he can't approach us or the property so if he does they'll bring him in for that I'd think? Plus it makes evicting him easier I guess. Still won't feel safe in the house but at least the constant stress of music and anxiety will be gone.
Even if the police can't pursue things it might make him think twice before threatening me or my mum. He was shouting things like "you fucking bitch" through the walls at half 12 last night so it's not going to stop unless something happens.
Really anxious about whether or not this is the right decision but I can only do what I think is the best at the time. Waiting for the police to come to make a statement this morning as I need to go out this afternoon to the supermarket. Hoping they turn up soon.
I'm really glad that they've done this for you. I'm sure it must be really scary for you not knowing if he'll retaliate but at the very least you'll be able to have some peace and quiet.The boss has been to take our statements, due to the threatening nature and illegal things he's been doing (the smoking weed, having an air pistol in the house etc he's even threatened a little old lady before) they are taking immediate action to take him to court to evict him tomorrow or Friday.
I've also decided to make a statement to the police to press charges, since if I don't he might think he can just escalate matters and won't he will be told he can't approach us or the property so if he does they'll bring him in for that I'd think? Plus it makes evicting him easier I guess. Still won't feel safe in the house but at least the constant stress of music and anxiety will be gone.
Even if the police can't pursue things it might make him think twice before threatening me or my mum. He was shouting things like "you fucking bitch" through the walls at half 12 last night so it's not going to stop unless something happens.
Really anxious about whether or not this is the right decision but I can only do what I think is the best at the time. Waiting for the police to come to make a statement this morning as I need to go out this afternoon to the supermarket. Hoping they turn up soon.
Don’t doubt yourself. You’re definitely doing the right thing.The boss has been to take our statements, due to the threatening nature and illegal things he's been doing (the smoking weed, having an air pistol in the house etc he's even threatened a little old lady before) they are taking immediate action to take him to court to evict him tomorrow or Friday.
I've also decided to make a statement to the police to press charges, since if I don't he might think he can just escalate matters and won't he will be told he can't approach us or the property so if he does they'll bring him in for that I'd think? Plus it makes evicting him easier I guess. Still won't feel safe in the house but at least the constant stress of music and anxiety will be gone.
Even if the police can't pursue things it might make him think twice before threatening me or my mum. He was shouting things like "you fucking bitch" through the walls at half 12 last night so it's not going to stop unless something happens.
Really anxious about whether or not this is the right decision but I can only do what I think is the best at the time. Waiting for the police to come to make a statement this morning as I need to go out this afternoon to the supermarket. Hoping they turn up soon.
Alarm companies can make sure the alarm won't be triggered by pets, they set it to a certain height. We have an alarm and a dog and it doesn't go off.Cctv is something were currently looking into as well as maybe pricing up a house alarm, although we need to check whether the dogs might set one of those off accidentally or not.
Mum won't go to bed as he's out and she's paranoid he will try something whenever he returns so I think that would help put her at ease. It's hard though as we don't have a lot of money for things but I'd go short for something like that - can't put money on peace of mind.
We've already got door jammers coming for the doors and letterbox in case he tries to stick a firework through the letterbox and our housing association are due too for fitting extra locks and lights as a priority.
Police finally arrived at 11 something. Basically we can either choose for them to issue him a warning over threatening behaviour or take it further with charges. They couldn't speak to him tonight as were pretty sure he's out as we can't hear him moving around like we usually can and it's silent like a grave.
The charges are more my decision than mum's as I'm the one he went to punch. I can choose to have him charged with threat of assault or something like that anyway. The policeman explained but I'm that tired I wasn't really taking the information in properly. I want to, but fear of reprisal is what's stopping me saying yes to that.
Gonna have to have a serious think now I reckon.
Just want to thank all of you for your advice, suggestions, and support. Stuff like this is really isolating, it's good to not feel so alone, even if its through online.
There hasn't been any talk of it, no. The police haven't turned up to take a statement either. I actually misunderstood that as they aren't taking my statement yet, they want to take mum's as he showed her a gun in his house when he first threatened her. It's why she was so hesitant to do anything at first. Their taking my statement later in the week.Don’t doubt yourself. You’re definitely doing the right thing.
Has there been any talk about a restraining order or a harassment injunction? I would have thought if you cannot get the CPS to take out a restraining order, you would be able to apply for a harassment injunction under the Protection from Harassment Act (1997)
In all seriousness, we’ll done for being brave enough to do it. Too many people feel like they cannot and no one should have to live in fear.
Yes, he knows and the police know. He was actually arrested like 7 years or so ago for chasing someone down the street with a hand pistol but never charged as far as I know. He threatened the old lady at the bus stop who was phoning the police on him at the time and thought it was something to brag about.Did you tell the housing officer about the gun?
Thank you for your kind words. I'm hoping something happens soon, but as I posted above the hope I do have is diminishing greatly in the face of such incompetency. Fingers crossed I can update soon saying he's been arrested or something xxI don’t know what to say! But didn’t want to read and say nothing so sending a massive hug to you and your mum and hoping with everything I’ve got that the awful times get better xx
It should be a quiet weekend - the man who is serving him the papers just knocked to check if our neighbour was in and what the indicators were as he's been asked to serve the papers with the police present due to the threats and doesn't want to waste the police's time obviously.I’m so frustrated for you! Trying to remind yourself small steps have been made, and I’m pleased the anti social behaviour officer has been helpful, make sure they know the entire picture as they will have very close links with the police and can influence. Also make sure again they know you have a meeting with the MP next week.
Your MP will be able to lever in about any move, and the process so far. Keep us updated andfor a quiet weekend.
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