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I went to window to the womb last tuesday for a scan and they did a 4D scan without us asking for one
Been thinking of you. Hope all goes well xxx
Thank you. The only reason I thought it may be a UTI was the fact it gets worse when needing to pee and after peeing.
Other than that, I have no other symptoms so wasn't 100% sure.
3rd baby and never even had a similar pain but I've also never had a UTI during pregnancy either so have no clue!
Thinking of you. I hope all goes well today, please keep us all updated. I know we are all strangers on the internet but I think I speak for us all when I say we are all here for you
Sending all my love xxx
Im raging we have to switch tbh cause I was looking forward to it but can’t even leave it and redo it at a later date because I’m already nearly 30 weeks and they advise it’s best to do before 32 weeks and I don’t wanna pay the £100 if the pictures aren’t gonna be that great if she’s too big by that stage
@elloelloello have you had much morning sickness yet? I am nauseous from the moment I wake up til the moment I go to bed. It’s awful and I’m not even 6 weeks yet.
Not yet, I actually feel fine aside from sore boobs! I was really really sick when I had my daughter and it hit me from about 6 weeks so I’m just bracing myself.
I recommend anything with ginger in! Ginger tea, ginger biscuits, ginger anything really helped me
Thankyou, means a lot. It feels like such a lonely time, as close friends and family think we are happily pregnant with no problems.Thinking of you. I hope all goes well today, please keep us all updated. I know we are all strangers on the internet but I think I speak for us all when I say we are all here for you
Sending all my love xxx
I really sympathise with your post- my baby is very much wanted and was planned but I still have days like this- yesterday being one of them. It’s not just panicking about life after. But also the birth and the pain associated with it. I start to remember birth horror stories and it fills me with panic! I begin to doubt myself and get really scared about...everything! It’s like the enormity of it sometimes consumes me. But then I have a word with myself and I’m fine again. But I think a lot of it is hormones and the fear of the unknown, and is natural. I can’t imagine any mum or dad not worrying at all about how their life would change or a mum to be not worrying at least a little bit about the birth. Surely it’s human nature?
And I understand what you mean about people saying things like ‘it’s all downhill after a baby’ , ‘you’re never going to sleep again’. Like shut the f up! These people usually have more than one child who say it to me and I think well if it was that bad why did you have children again and again? its just like birth, if it was really that bad why do women go through it again and again? Surely it must be that the good outweighs the bad?
I mean, I don’t know. Il be a first time mum and I’m trying myself to navigate these feelings. All know is that I have a loving partner and I can’t imagine not being a mum- Iv wanted it for so long and honestly didn’t think it would ever happen as time was running out for me. I think our lives will change- that is for sure- but I reckon it will present different sort of memories and experiences and I think that’s exciting.
I really do get what you are saying and your post really stood out to me. Please feel free to DM me anytime you like because I gave these feelings too- I’m sure it will all be ok and I think like the other poster said, it will make your closer to your partner and you will enjoy the experience together. We’ve got this hun. Xxxx
I know it sounds frivolous and stupid but my husband had mentioned before that all he wanted on his birthday was to be able to see the baby again. It has only just clicked reading here this morning that I probably won't be able to book this due to the lockdown! Hadn't really considered that earlier when it was first announced.
I’l be thinking of you. We are all here for you on this thread xxx
I’m a first time mum too and these sorts of comments used to make me panic before I even fell pregnant and not going to lie it did start to put me off wanting to have kids. In reality parenthood is what you make of it, is it going to be hard at times? Yes I think majority know that before they even have kids we know it’s not gonna be all giggles and laughs 24/7. My mum absolutely loved motherhood and when we where babies no doubt she did find it difficult as her and my dad didn’t have a lot of money and didn’t work great jobs but all in all she loved being a mum. I find a lot of people are just so quick to jump and tell you all the negatives about it and I honestly will never say those things to a first time mum cause there’s just no needI really sympathise with your post- my baby is very much wanted and was planned but I still have days like this- yesterday being one of them. It’s not just panicking about life after. But also the birth and the pain associated with it. I start to remember birth horror stories and it fills me with panic! I begin to doubt myself and get really scared about...everything! It’s like the enormity of it sometimes consumes me. But then I have a word with myself and I’m fine again. But I think a lot of it is hormones and the fear of the unknown, and is natural. I can’t imagine any mum or dad not worrying at all about how their life would change or a mum to be not worrying at least a little bit about the birth. Surely it’s human nature?
And I understand what you mean about people saying things like ‘it’s all downhill after a baby’ , ‘you’re never going to sleep again’. Like shut the f up! These people usually have more than one child who say it to me and I think well if it was that bad why did you have children again and again? its just like birth, if it was really that bad why do women go through it again and again? Surely it must be that the good outweighs the bad?
I mean, I don’t know. Il be a first time mum and I’m trying myself to navigate these feelings. All know is that I have a loving partner and I can’t imagine not being a mum- Iv wanted it for so long and honestly didn’t think it would ever happen as time was running out for me. I think our lives will change- that is for sure- but I reckon it will present different sort of memories and experiences and I think that’s exciting.
I really do get what you are saying and your post really stood out to me. Please feel free to DM me anytime you like because I gave these feelings too- I’m sure it will all be ok and I think like the other poster said, it will make your closer to your partner and you will enjoy the experience together. We’ve got this hun. Xxxx
This is exactly me, also my pee is really dark no matter how much water I drink. Midwife said always be safer than sorry as UTI symptoms can differ in pregnancy so I gave in a sample to my GP the other day. It came back clear and he basically accused me of wasting time since I only had a couple of symptoms. I wasn't having any of that... Its my first pregnancy and I have a long history of UTIs so of course I'm going to be cautious and I said as much to him as well.
Yes they are so quick to be negative! I dont understand that attitude at all. It’s not helpful to anyone. And that’s not me not being realistic- I’m well aware of the hard work involved. But anything worth having is hard work. I think it’s hard enough being pregnant and battling all the emotions without someone telling you how hard it’s going to be. It’s just like the birth stories ‘it was hell on earth’ ‘down below has never been the same again’ it’s enough to terrify anyone! Why on earth would people say that to someone who’s expecting?
I do think people just like to moan though and it’s human nature to hand out dramatic stories, but I wish people would be a bit more mindful of others.
We are all aware life will change, it’s a given but wouldn’t it be nice for people to celebrate being a parent more and talk about all the positives?
i had a really bad day yesterday panicking about things, even little things. But then I looked at my scan photo and remembered all the reasons why I wanted this so much, and how loved this baby will be. I’m genuinely excited about all the times to come and I’m also realistic about how hard at times it will be. But if that’s what being a mum is about then il take it- I’m sure il have lots of other bad days, esp nearer to the time when I overly panic- but this is what Iv always dreamed about. Xx sending love to anyone having a bad day
My hips are so bad I can hardly walk 
does anyone have any tips?
does anyone have any tips?I’ve felt sick since before I got my positive test at 3 weeks. It’s just gradually got worse and worse. My mom mentioned ginger but I really don’t like it. I considered ginger tea but I feel like tasting something I don’t like will just add to feeling sick. I’m just gonna have to wait it out.Not yet, I actually feel fine aside from sore boobs! I was really really sick when I had my daughter and it hit me from about 6 weeks so I’m just bracing myself.
I recommend anything with ginger in! Ginger tea, ginger biscuits, ginger anything really helped me
Sounds silly but someone recommend haribo tang fanatics to me on here- and they were a life saver for my sickness xxx Hope you start to feel better soon xx
People just love to complain! Just remembering a conversation I had with one of my husband’s friends who was moaning about how the kids have changed their lives - lack of sleep, house in chaos etc. Then he asked if we were keen on kids and I said yes, and he immediately back tracked and told me how wonderful it was and he’d never change it for the world etc 
tbf wouldn’t it be really boring if everyone just wanged on about how wonderful their kids and parenthood is?! There is definitely a middle ground though and it is totally unnecessary to say it to an expectant parent when they’ve clearly already made their decision!
6+4 here and am starting to feel sick (and hungry) and totally exhausted, just started a new project at work which is melting my brain slightly and doesn’t help when I’ve been awake with insomnia since 4am
tbf wouldn’t it be really boring if everyone just wanged on about how wonderful their kids and parenthood is?! There is definitely a middle ground though and it is totally unnecessary to say it to an expectant parent when they’ve clearly already made their decision!6+4 here and am starting to feel sick (and hungry) and totally exhausted, just started a new project at work which is melting my brain slightly and doesn’t help when I’ve been awake with insomnia since 4am
You can book, they just have to say it’s for medical reasons. It’s a loophole really but one I don’t think anyone minds people taking advantage of
Thinking of you too, so hoping for a positive outcome for you. Going straight to the amnio would have been what I would have done too but I would have been beyond scared. I admire how brave you are to be dealing with all of this. Stay strong, 3 days, and whatever happens this is your child, your choice - no judgment here x
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