Pregnancy dates

[WhatABore]

Someone I know in England (i am in NI) went for their 20week today and her partner wasn’t allowed in. I think it varies greatly. All trusts her currently allowing for 12 and 20

Ohh that sucks! I presume it differs place the place then as I'm in England too but haven't come across anyone who hasn't been allowed someone with them

 

[NP]

It’s always dated by the first day of your last period, even if you know the exact date you conceived on as this isn’t necessarily the same date you ovulated. When you have your scan at 12 weeks you’ll be given a more accurate date which is then the date they go by.

Congrats on your pregnancy btw!

 

[littlepup]

I want a home birth for this reason, hate the idea of being stuck in the hospital labouring by myself

There isn’t a hospital in England that’s not allowing a birth partner to attend once active labour is established unless the mother or chosen partner has signs of Covid. They can’t always be there from induction say and stay on ward but women are not giving birth alone like in America. If you stay at home until you’re established or go home after an induction until you’re established as you usually would you’re partner will still be with you throughout in all trust areas as it stands. Obviously the exception is in lengthy labours that require constant monitoring because they are not progressing but in that case they would likely transfer you to a hospital anyway. Not trying to put you off, just in case you didn’t know xx

Not suggesting this is you OP but The FB group for my hospital midwifery is rife with women choosing home birth so they can have more than one birth partner/whole family and in case their partners who work somewhere high risk (school, care) are supposed to be in isolation/have symptoms when the time comes. Despite being told by the midwives they would have to stay well away in this case etc the Mum’s don’t seem to understand the risk they are exposing themselves, the baby and the midwives that are caring for so many other mothers to because ‘I can’t do it without my partner’.

None of this is ideal but the rules are in place to protect everyone. I’d rather not have my partner around until we’re in a private room than have everyone else’s in and out when God knows where they’ve been personally.

Despite the wonderful news about partners being allowed to every appointment it seems this is not the case at all. Apparently it’s down to individual trust. I’ve been told he is not allowed in with me

My trust changes their rules every 5 minutes. I’d check again before you attend.

 

[littlepup]

The replies above have explained but THIS calculator is a good one as you can chose last period or conception date and it also gives you a good breakdown of your trimesters. Also try the pampers one as it allows for your average cycle length too.
congratulations!!

 

[Kim Mild]

I used yourduedate.com , it's an American site, but you can put in your estimated dates for different things and it adjust your dates and shows how they can vary . Babies are classed as being at term between 37 and 42 weeks so it's a rough estimate when baby is likely to be born

 

[Stimpii]

Does anyone know how often you get checks by the midwife? I’m 25 weeks but havnt heard from my community midwife since 6th October. I have had a scan and check from the consultant since -3/11. But no word from anyone since. Is this normal practise or do I need to make a phone call?

I’d ring them up. I had a midwife appt at 16 weeks then didn’t have another one till I was 34 weeks.

I’m having growth scans so had to ask them to do my 28 week bloods at that appt or they would have been missed.

 

[HoneyBee29]

Thank you! It just really seemed to confuse me. Now I’ve got my head round it I’m excited for the scan. Congratulations to you also
We’re you allowed to take someone with you to your 12 week scan?

Yea I was allowed someone at my 12 week and 20 week but I dunno if it’s changed now due to restrictions. I’d phone and check beforehand

 

[Platypusfattypus]

They will give you an initial edd based on the last day of your period but you will get an actual edd when you have your dating scan. They use the measurements to date your pregnancy as these are more accurate then the old period calculation.

 

[HoneyBee29]

I’m currently also pregnant, I’m 25 weeks. I used a due date calculator on the NHS website when I found out that was good. When I went for my 12 week scan I was 2 days later than I thought I was but they won’t change your due date over 2/3 days. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

 

[Definitelyme]

Basically due dates are worked out on the assumption everyone has a perfect 28 day cycle, and ovulates on day 14 (whereas for this pregnancy I ovulated on day 54!), and so the due date is 40 weeks after the first day of your last period.

So if you know you conceived on 1st November, technically you would be classed as 2 weeks pregnant by then (using the perfect cycle assumptions). I always know date of conception as I have to track ovulation, so when midwives ask for the date of my last period I just give them the date two weeks before that, and keeps everyone right. For this baby I tell the, my LMP was 20th July when it was actually waaay back in June!

And congratulations!

 

[WhatABore]

As far as I am aware, you are still allowed someone at your 12 and 20 week scans. Not other appointments though.
I had my scan a couple of weeks ago during second lockdown and my Husband was still allowed in.
Have you contacted your doctors?

 

[Little Bear]

My 2nd was due on 27/07/19, he was 6 days late and like you, I never even considered that I would have an august baby!

Mad isn’t it - even though you know it’s an estimate, when you don’t have your baby on that day it really pisses you off I even convinced myself she would be early, never that she would be late

 

[Rlaw1978]

Does anyone know how often you get checks by the midwife? I’m 25 weeks but havnt heard from my community midwife since 6th October. I have had a scan and check from the consultant since -3/11. But no word from anyone since. Is this normal practise or do I need to make a phone call?

 

[Pink Sparkle]

Thank you so much everyone! It is weird as I know I fell pregnant around 10 days after my period! Really helpful