Pregnancy #62

[Keera]

We had one boy name (Rory) that we were dead set on and just couldn’t/can’t agree on a girls name!!!! Typical that she is a girl
The two names we have picked are definitely a bit “out there” for my in laws - who made a face when one of partners cousins called their baby Allie (“just ally - not Allison!!!!??”).
I think they’d be happier with baby being called Maureen or Jeanette

 

[Elisha97]

On another rant about pregnancy things that annoy me.. I have quite a few friends/ family members/ people I know that make no effort to see me now but want to come round as soon as the baby is born and see her?? Like these people live round the corner up to 15 mins drive away and have said stuff like ‘we must meet up when the baby is here’ and ‘you will let me come see the baby won’t you’. But the same people completely ignore me and never see me now despite me asking and always trying; I’m someone who goes out a lot and always makes the effort and makes plans to see people

Maybe I’m being sensitive but.. Our baby is due in Jan and I need a C section.. why the F would I want to see you after major surgery at the peak of all the winter illnesses with a newborn when you couldn’t be bothered to see me while I was still pregnant or even before then?? Or even speak to me for that matter? The same people ignored me during my miscarriages and tough times so I’m feeling extra irate about it

 

[sushimama]

We had one boy name (Rory) that we were dead set on and just couldn’t/can’t agree on a girls name!!!! Typical that she is a girl
The two names we have picked are definitely a bit “out there” for my in laws - who made a face when one of partners cousins called their baby Allie (“just ally - not Allison!!!!??”).
I think they’d be happier with baby being called Maureen or Jeanette

What about Rory for a girl? Sorry I'm just watching Gilmore girls. I also love the name Aurora and then it could be Rory for short.

 

[Spencerskates]

What about Rory for a girl? Sorry I'm just watching Gilmore girls. I also love the name Aurora and then it could be Rory for short.

I came to say the same!

Aurora/Rory is on my girls list.

I find naming impossible as a teacher. Meanings of names are really important to me too, so it’s really hard to get the balance.

 

[RoseyThorney]

On another rant about pregnancy things that annoy me.. I have quite a few friends/ family members/ people I know that make no effort to see me now but want to come round as soon as the baby is born and see her?? Like these people live round the corner up to 15 mins drive away and have said stuff like ‘we must meet up when the baby is here’ and ‘you will let me come see the baby won’t you’. But the same people completely ignore me and never see me now despite me asking and always trying; I’m someone who goes out a lot and always makes the effort and makes plans to see people

Maybe I’m being sensitive but.. Our baby is due in Jan and I need a C section.. why the F would I want to see you after major surgery at the peak of all the winter illnesses with a newborn when you couldn’t be bothered to see me while I was still pregnant or even before then?? Or even speak to me for that matter? The same people ignored me during my miscarriages and tough times so I’m feeling extra irate about it

I’m getting this too and I think it’s completely valid to be annoyed by it! People who don’t check in on you but want to suddenly be around when the baby is here just tells me that they only view mothers as incubators. I don’t have a relationship with one of my SILs but she seems to think she can be up mine and the baby’s a once she’s here. large chance.

 

[Cucumber and eggs]

Has anyone had any experience with baby’s weight slowing down. Had a growth scan at 34 weeks and was told baby had stopped following her line and fallen under the 10th centile..awaiting someone to ring me tomorrow but just looking for any advice?

Sorry I know this was posted a while ago but I have small for dates babies. None of my 3 girls have been over 6lbs, my heaviest was 5lb 10oz. I'm pregnant with fourth and they are now saying I need frequent growth scans and have given me 150mg asprin to take which is supposed to help. My last baby kept dropping off her line that they induced me at 37 weeks. By the time she was a year old she weighed more than her 2 year old sister!!! She was born 5lb 1oz but grew into a chunk with rolls everywhere. I'm very tall but very slim myself and I don't think I'm meant to have big babies!

 

[Kaylarina]

On another rant about pregnancy things that annoy me.. I have quite a few friends/ family members/ people I know that make no effort to see me now but want to come round as soon as the baby is born and see her?? Like these people live round the corner up to 15 mins drive away and have said stuff like ‘we must meet up when the baby is here’ and ‘you will let me come see the baby won’t you’. But the same people completely ignore me and never see me now despite me asking and always trying; I’m someone who goes out a lot and always makes the effort and makes plans to see people

Maybe I’m being sensitive but.. Our baby is due in Jan and I need a C section.. why the F would I want to see you after major surgery at the peak of all the winter illnesses with a newborn when you couldn’t be bothered to see me while I was still pregnant or even before then?? Or even speak to me for that matter? The same people ignored me during my miscarriages and tough times so I’m feeling extra irate about it

My family were like this. Barely make an effort but kicked up such a fuss when our first was born about how they had to see her...then saw her a maximum of 5 times in the first 2 years of her life, whereas my in-laws (who at the time were on another continent!) were happy to go with the flow and what we want.

If you didn't make an effort before, I don't want to know!

 

[Elisha97]

@RoseyThorney @Kaylarina i thought I was just being stroppy and overly emotional but the more I think about it the more angry I get

Novelty when they’re a newborn and then nothing at any other stage! You know they’ll be the same people as well that don’t respect boundaries and come with coughs and colds because they don’t actually care about anything

 

[Keera]

What about Rory for a girl? Sorry I'm just watching Gilmore girls. I also love the name Aurora and then it could be Rory for short.

I loved aurora but partner vetoed it straight away

On another note: I finally gave in and started taking omeprazole for the reflux. Hoping and praying that I’ll have some relief now

 

[101d]

When do I need to tell my work my proposed start date for maternity leave??

 

[Keera]

When do I need to tell my work my proposed start date for maternity leave??

At least 15 weeks before baby’s due I believe x

 

[Kaylarina]

@RoseyThorney @Kaylarina i thought I was just being stroppy and overly emotional but the more I think about it the more angry I get

Novelty when they’re a newborn and then nothing at any other stage! You know they’ll be the same people as well that don’t respect boundaries and come with coughs and colds because they don’t actually care about anything

Oooh definitely not being stroppy!

Be like me, I ended up moving country and just not bothering to tell them

 

[Super_Berry]

On another rant about pregnancy things that annoy me.. I have quite a few friends/ family members/ people I know that make no effort to see me now but want to come round as soon as the baby is born and see her?? Like these people live round the corner up to 15 mins drive away and have said stuff like ‘we must meet up when the baby is here’ and ‘you will let me come see the baby won’t you’. But the same people completely ignore me and never see me now despite me asking and always trying; I’m someone who goes out a lot and always makes the effort and makes plans to see people

Maybe I’m being sensitive but.. Our baby is due in Jan and I need a C section.. why the F would I want to see you after major surgery at the peak of all the winter illnesses with a newborn when you couldn’t be bothered to see me while I was still pregnant or even before then?? Or even speak to me for that matter? The same people ignored me during my miscarriages and tough times so I’m feeling extra irate about it

Oh I feel you here. I had friends come visit me for the first time in almost 2 years and straight away we're like "let's get a date in the diary for Jan when the baby is here". They would have tried to come in Dec had it not been for Christmas. I resisted and we have no date yet which is good because I don't want them coming over.

I don't want anyone unless it's immediate family the weeks after birth, and even then I can't have people around every day or I'll go mad.

 

[RoseyThorney]

Apologies for the TMI but… I’ve got my first pile. Achievement unlocked?

 

[Shinythings]

I feel like food is just ruined for me at the moment. I either don't like the sound of anything or I'll have a real craving, eat it and be so happy for the first few bites and then hate it and can't eat anymore. I just want to enjoy food!

 

[Scorpihoe]

This ad on the pregnancy thread

Spoiler: MC

 

[ggukxo]

We had a scan at 16 weeks and the sonographer said he was 100% sure of the sex. Had our 20 week nhs scan last week and the sonographer said she thinks she knows what the gender is. Put the emoji on to cover what they think gender is lol

Any thoughts?

 

[anything at all]

This ad on the pregnancy thread

Spoiler: MC

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I had all sorts of ads like this when I was in hospital for bleeding last week ! I’m sure it was based on things I’d been Googling to do with my bleeding but it was so unhelpful and triggering to see

 

[yankydoo]

We had a scan at 16 weeks and the sonographer said he was 100% sure of the sex. Had our 20 week nhs scan last week and the sonographer said she thinks she knows what the gender is. Put the emoji on to cover what they think gender is lol

Any thoughts?

Girl

 

[Shinythings]

We had a scan at 16 weeks and the sonographer said he was 100% sure of the sex. Had our 20 week nhs scan last week and the sonographer said she thinks she knows what the gender is. Put the emoji on to cover what they think gender is lol

Any thoughts?

Girl.